u/HeftyMoneybag

I'm 25F had GERD since I was 7. No lie my teeth are fucked up now. Many of them are half clear (damaged enamel) and super sensitive. Some even chip if i bite down too hard. My dentist didn't do much just said I need to sort my GERD out. My doctors don't make seriously so 0 chance of fundoplication any time soon until I have money to throw at consults and surgery without insurance(I'm in EU and the laws for insurance are changing atm shit is just getting worse and I'm a non-EU citizen so it might not even be possible through insurance anyway).

I got sensodyne toothpaste for sensitive teeth and a specific mouth wash too. But I am unable to give up diet soda bc I really need the caffeine and I'm addicted to it. That and vaping are two vices I am trying to give up. Otherwise I try to manage my diet and keep my mouth rinsed and brush my teeth after I regurgitate.

Honestly tho my teeth are disgusting. Yellow and damaged. I feel insecure opening my mouth too much to talk. All of the issues GERD causes me are so gross. Gas, gross teeth, damaged voice. Feels so fucking dehumanizing genuinely.

Any advice or tips would be great.

Hi everyone. Ik maybe this isn't the best sub but idk anyone irl to ask, I have no friends and I need straightforward, honest opinions so I can consider if leaving next year is the best option. I've been here for 3+ years, speak fluent German and almost done with my studies. I definitely want to pursue higher studies here, but with the current climate in Europe and in Germany, I really want to leave.

To give some context I'm African in my 20s, female, and yes here legally before someone assumes some bullshit. My family has money so that isn't a huge issue but because they are toxic, I don't want to rely on them for good. So moving away will actually hinder me from low contact with them bc then I have to move back in with them back home whereas I work part time rn alongside my studies far away from them. Other than that I will have to start the process of moving to another country for my higher studies as I don't want to study back home, the program for my specific studies isn't good there. That will be exhausting but I'm willing to do so if need be.

I have been noticing way more discrimination and genuinely I am shocked. People are much more unfriendly and say openly racist words to me since 2025. The hostility has been increasing, the polls are worrying and overall the political situation has taken a toll on me physically and mentally. I can tolerate a lot but I'm not a strong person and I fear my health will only get worse if things keep getting worse. I'm in a big city with lots of foreigners but not many people like me. I have no friends and tbh I don't have the time or energy to go look for some. I'd also rather save money instead of spending it going out.

I'm genuinely terrified and just wonder if it's even worth it to stay. I don't want to get into details but I'm facing more discrimination _everywhere_ nowadays and I am in what is supposed to be a city full of lots of internationals. The hostility has become more palpable to me than before.

Please keep it real with me: do you personally see Germany heading down an unsafe path for immigrants? Is it worth it to stay for my higher studies, or should I start planning my exit now so by next year I already have something concrete to go for?

I'm a young woman living abroad. I don't wish to elaborate on how toxic my family is but it's pretty bad, like short of crimes bad honestly. I feel like it's super taboo in Sudanese culture to talk about it and even with friends who I've discussed it with, it's like we have no choice but to accept our family and deal with them anyway. However since I moved away I've been thinking more and more about doing the Westernized thing and cutting them off. I just don't know how other Sudanis deal with this? I mean in my case at least I can't get over the past and things they've done to me, and even now talking to them gives me genuine anxiety and unnecessary stress.

Anyone else in the same position? What do you do?

Ladies I'm honestly at my wits end. I'm an African immigrant in my mid 20s living in Europe. I'm starting to become exhausted. I do everything right and ppl still suck. I face racism at work and the political climate where I live is TENSE and getting worse, esp since I work with old white ppl..

Idk how others cope. I've tried so hard and I have no friends where I live. I have no support system. Therapy was shit bc white western therapists just don't do it for me. My family sucks. I'm tired as hell. Everyone wants to use you and shit on you as a black woman. No one respects me even tho I do more than anyone fucking could in my position. My friends back home all just wanna know how I can help them immigrate and they have their own problems and are never there for me so I just let the friendship die out. Any time I open up to ppl I just feel like a burden. I've always had this thing where ppl feel really comfortable coming to me with all of their problems - including my own family since I was a kid - but no one ever fucking shows up for me.

Idk what to do anymore. I'm ngl my coping mechanisms atm are drinking alone on the weekends and an eating disorder. I have 0 ability to cope with the toxic world around me as is without extreme measures. It's just not good enough for me.

Any advice? Pls do not suggest therapy atm bc im not open to that/I don't want a white therapist or white friends I've tried it and hope others know what I'm talking about when I say I don't live a similar life to them and their advice doesn't work for me.

I'm 25F, east African. In the past few years I've definitely slightly improved my style and lost a lot of weight. I'm super tall and was always slightly chubby to avg but recently I've dropped to BMI 19 due to health issues. I honestly do not notice any difference in treatment (I live in western Europe). Most I've noticed is ppl at work looking at my body a bit longer, as if they've noticed that I've lost weight and one person asking if I'm ok. Only my ortho doctor commented on my body saying I'm skinny with a sorta large chest(I'm an E cup and this was at bmi 20 or 21 maybe) and to maybe consider a breast reduction if my back issues persist lmao but no one else has ever said I'm skinny or treated me any differently.

I do notice when I put on makeup and nicer clothes ofc I get treated accordingly but nothing crazy at fancier places, but overall I don't notice anything in my day to day or with people I know personally.

When I lived in my home country honestly any drastic change in appearance would mean hearing comments or being treated differently. Where I live now in Europe no one says anything. Ik I don't fit the eurocentric beauty standard bc of race and tbh I don't give as much of a shit about that nor do I want to be white/compare myself to them but I do want to experience a bit more privilege and respect in treatment, especially when it comes to weight loss (body being my main goal bc when I weighed more my body was sexualized and men never looked away from my boobs which disgusted me. I want my now thinner body to be seen as ideal but less sexual even if that won't fully go away)

I haven't been leaving my place for what feels like a year. It is in AWFUL condition. We're talking horrendous. The only good thing is trash is in bags so nothing is on the floor anymore - I worked up the energy to do that in like 2 weeks. The bad news is there are flies in my room (which have been with me for 2 years...) and the floor is dirty with dead larvae in some spots and the room kinda smells bad. My mop is broken so I unfortunately just have to rely on cleaning with a mopping towel and a bucket. Vacuum won't do much bc there isn't much free space with the trash bags + the piles of cartons and my place is very small.

Idk where to start. To explain i have depression, used to have ptsd and I have severe health issues so moving has been very challenging. I feel SO overwhelmed by everything. I want to at least clean the bathroom but if I do more than 20 mins of cleaning I start to faint.

The bathroom is in slightly better condition but the floor and sink are dirty, and there's dirt/possibly mold on one of the vents. The rest of my place is very bad. Idk how to navigate it without fainting or the smell causing me to gag and vomit (which has happened already).

Anyway any advice would be helpful i am just really demotivated and at the same time have this burst of energy that I have to get something done till the rest of the day bc the situation really is awful. So many spider webs too. And I just feel disgusted with myself and my place.

I suspect since I've had GERD since childhood - pretty much almost 20 years of GERD now - it has messed with my entire digestive system and my body. I find that I'm ALWAYS gassy. No matter what I do. The only way it is even semi manageable is if I don't eat anything and after a while it just gets worse bc then I'm gassy and my stomach is burning and acid is coming up.

Idk if I have IBS. My doctors keep dismissing me because it's just "stress"(if it helps you guess why they say this just know I'm a woman lol). Even tho I've had the GERD diagnosis since I was a kid my family doctor doesn't take me seriously. I had an endoscopy and colonoscopy in 2024 and I was told I don't have any issues but gastritis (expected since I always have gastritis). My family doctor didn't even give me a PPI I had to just go buy it on my own as per usual. I also had hemorrhoids (yeah gross lol whatever) and wasn't prescribed anything for it and idk how the situation is now tbh.

He also told me too much gas in my stomach is normal and many ppl have this issue. Wtf does that even mean? I didn't have this issue in the past until my GERD became severe and it wouldn't get better. It's so uncomfortable and unmanageable. Like I have to stay home so often because I can't leave the house and be a health hazard to humanity. How is that fucking normal?

Anyway rant over. Curious if anyone is struggling with this too and if there are any solutions.

I really identify with Kim in many ways esp the thrill-seeking behavior. I don't necessarily have the same conscience as she does, but nowhere near Jimmy's level and I've never been a criminal lol.

But I definitely love doing shit for the plot and bc it's fun to be mischievous. I sort of envy Jimmy for having the ability to BS and yap so much and so well. I wish I was that confident and street smart. I'm more cold and reserved like Kim.

Never had much interest in anyone to really be with them long-term bc something is always missing and I get bored. When I watched BCS I realized someone like Jimmy - sans the abhorrent crimes lol but maybe just his personality, charm and tricks - and his dynamic with Kim is exactly what I'd fall for.

Maybe I'm messed up but they're the only couple I've ever seen on a TV show and thought holy shit, wow, couple goals!