u/Hibiscus_Lychee_5246

“Bulk” or recomp?

5’3, 19F, 107lbs, lightly active! I think my maintenance is around 1700kcal. Currently I’m eating 2230kcal a day. I’m handling it pretty well, but I need to make decision 😭

I don’t know if I should start lifting now or wait until I reach my goal weight to start. I’m doing pretty good with the surplus I’m in now, but I know that lifting will put me in even more of a needed surplus that I don’t know if I’ll be able to stomach. Though it could also be nice to bypass the bloated period and just build muscle as I go. Either way, I still plan to lift after I gain the weight. It’s no problem of building a habit, I just don’t know what’s best to do right now

Any opinions? Thanks :)

If this makes sense, I lowkey be wondering if I’m even a girl :( I don’t understand why I am nothing like other girls. They all have bodies that look good even wearing a trash bag, and all cute clothes flatters them, and nice skin… and then they’ll look 10x prettier once they put on makeup!! And they’re hella good at it too! I have so many dark spots and acne on my face, and a huge nose, and I am literally shaped like a dorito with big man shoulders. Standing next to my friends, I look like their bodyguard 😭

I’m in the college years of my life where I’m supposed to be feeling confident and young and turnt or whatever… and instead I’m having to shelter myself in the house because of my appearance like what

I wish I could have been beautiful like my mom. Or my sister. My mom is very pretty, but I look nothing like her. I just want to feel like a girl and be able to always have people think I look nice. I want to be effortless like my friends and all the other girls. And wake up not being afraid to look in the mirror. Even if I could just have some natural beauty. Healthy skin, long hair, not such a deep voice. I feel like a man pretending to be a woman… in the way that the big bad wolf was pretending to be Grandma lol.

I even see the things I don’t like about myself in other women and they just look absolutely gorgeous. Why can’t I be like that. It’s messing with me so bad. I’ve only been leaving my house for church, I am so hideous. I don’t even look my age. I look back to when I was 13 and wish I had just embraced growing into womanhood and taken care of my body, and eaten regular meals and done skincare instead of starving myself and picking my skin and hurting myself. Even if I didn’t come out looking much different than now, at least maybe I’d exude some sort of femininity

Looking for roommates in a 3x3 at plaza on university, dm me if interested

I’m a sophomore psychology major, very clean, kind, and approachable 🙂

So was that post about me?

I feel like it was about me.

You could have just been honest and said you were leaving. Maybe this isn’t a door we should reopen.

You spent five weeks contacting me on different accounts every four days despite me asking for space. Now that I decide to come back, three days later you disappear without even saying bye…

This is why I can’t watch documentaries late at night lol. Now I’m all existential and terrified. I’m not quite alone physically—I’m in a house with my family—but oh my gosh I feel alone!! Like to the point of fear.

Does this happen to anyone else. Like now I can’t stop thinking about what happens when you die and how I’ve already been here nearly two decades and I’m thinking about terminal disease and shit.

I’m rambling. Do what you will with this info

Hi, so I’m a sophomore in college and as of this fall and my mom won’t let go of this idea of a curfew…

I want to preface that I live in an apartment three hours from home.

My freshman year I wasn’t allowed out past 11, and the whole time I thought it was just because I didn’t have a car. I still think it’s a bit dumb, but I get it since I had to walk everywhere, and as a woman that isn’t safe late at night. This time I’m thinking like okay I’ll have a car, I’ve gotten acclimated, no more curfew!!

My curfew for this year is 11:30.

What do I do. What do I need to say that will make this rule go away? Even my dad thinks this is dumb.