
Thesis: the decline of Christianity is not due to a loss of faith in a higher power, but because the Christian inculcation of human character is somewhat incompatible with the character inculcation under liberal individualism
People are leaving Christianity, in my view, because as a religion, it has become incompatible with contemporary liberal individualism. There is a stark difference between the way a Christian upbringing inculcates a person's character, and the way liberal individualism forms character.
Christianity guides you to follow certain role models, and to abide by a given set of values. Thus Christianity provides the framework by which you should develop your character and by which you should live.
By contrast, liberal individualism allows you to create your own values to live by, and gives you the total freedom become whoever you want, and create your own roles in life.
Since liberal individualism is now the dominant set of values in the Western world, it becomes difficult to reconcile liberal freedom of character with the Christian discipline of character. One set of values says "be who you want to be" whereas the other says you should cultivate your character along specific religious guidelines.
However, in spite of the schism of values between Christianity and liberalism, and the fact that most people no longer practise a religion, surveys have show that the majority of young people still believe that there is more than just the material world, with most believing that people have souls, and that there is a God or a universal spirit. Ref: here.
So this suggests that the departure from Christianity is not to do with losing faith in a transcendental dimension to reality. And in my view, it relates to this incompatibility between Christian and liberal character formation.
Each system has its own pros and cons.
One of the pros of liberal individualism is that it allows you to be your best self, living life in a way which is compatible with your own nature.
One of the cons of individualism is the selfish “me, me, me” mindset that it often produces, when people are given the freedom to do what they want. The freedom of individualism may also make people hedonistic, pleasure-seeking consumers who lack temperance and a strong backbone of character.
One of the pros of Christianity (and other religions) is that it helps you form a strong backbone of character. One of the cons is that for people with a personal disposition which does not easily fit with the role models provided by Christianity, they may find it hard to follow Christian requirements.
What the answer to this schism might be is not clear.
If we assume that Western liberalism is here to stay, then it may be religions that need to adapt. If in future new religions emerge that are more compatible with liberalism, I suspect that people would flock to them. This is because there is a fundamental human need to align to something deeper, more meaningful, and more eternal than just a vacuous hedonistic consumer lifestyle.
On the other hand, if as a society we decide we need to return to having a more disciplined upbringing and character formation, then there may be a resurgence in religion, and a decline of liberalism.