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I would appreciate ABA therapists’s opinions on this but I will also consult my fellow autistics in r/autism to see how they would feel about this situation and if they have been in this situation how they responded!

OKAY!!! So I am a sixteen year old transmasc kid (I would appreciate yall using He/Him pronouns for me but I am AFAB). I have low support needs autism and ADHD, along side depression and some other health issues that I will not get into here! I am homeschooled for like two years now and that has done WONDERS for my mental health!

My parents think I need ABA for my social issues and my rigidity, I have a family of five (a mother, father, older sister (she lives on her own) and little brother!) and my entire family is nurodivergent. My dad has autism (no offical dignosis because his parents are conserviave and wouldnt sign on the papers to get him dignosed!!!), my mom has dignosed ADHD and me and my little brother both have ADHD and autism.

My little brother was forced through ABA for years as he had severe meltdowns and was a menace to his school/known for being violent. Nowadays he still has meltdowns, he throws stuff and yells (now he yells slurs though…), but they are a bit less physically targeted. There was a observable increase in his social life and less meltdowns for a bit after/during ABA, however he hated ABA and would cry about it all the time.

I don‘t really have meltdowns, I am more prone to shutting down and being quiet than having any kind of yelling match and I do not throw things or break things (Anymore when I was little I did sometimes throw stuff) so when I am loud or yelling its because something has really angered me and no one is listening. I sometimes yell at my little brother if he is being a nucance to me and “ragebaiting” (AKA NOT FOLLOWING CERY CLEAR BOUNDRIES) me, but I dont ever really throw things.

My social life is… sad to say the least, but I don’t really mind? I have one group I go to every day, I talk to people online when I feel up to it, but since I am homeschooled I dont have to talk to people outside of that? I don’t put up an effort to mask at all, so I stim often in clear view, I tell people I have autism and ask them what they really mean by certain things and I try to be very clear with why I act certain ways. I choose to keep my friends at a distance and I perfer my once a week outting over going to see people and do new things. The reason I am homeschooled is because of the bullying I got for being openly trans in school (but my dad says its autism/my social skills, which yes likely had something to do with it, but I was bullied via being called the T-slur and mocked for how I am ‘not a man’ in school so it definitely was mostly transphobia) and my mental health sucked from trying to constantly be scared of my surrounding. My homelife isnt great either, but at least I dont think I am in physical danger/ever going to get seriously hurt??? Basically I chose to be homeschool and I prefer to keep to myself now, also I will note that I have acess to other people and friends that want to hangout more but I don’t speak to them outside of my club so its not that I am socially isolated its that I genuinely just dont want to reach out.

I also do want to note that another reason they may think ABA is going to help (they havent told me this i just am thinking it may be) is that I have very pourous boundaries and have been taken advantage of sexually and socially multiple times, but they don’t know much about the sexual ones execpt for one ir two instances. I do seem to be a magnet for people that want to abuse me and that much is clear!!!

I have been told by my parents that they are trying to get me in ABA before I turn 18 so I can’t “not go” even though I have explained many times that I think ABA would just deplete me socially and encourage me to start masking again and I dont think I need it as I am doing well in school and mentally am good!

Uh what can I do legally too? Like can I say no to a therapist and not go? I am in the USA and 16, are there any laws preventing me from going? Do any of you guys think I should go??

Also!!! I have been in therapy programs for YEARS and this would likely be another long and intensive program too, which is the main reason I dont want to go, I feel like with the amount of therapy I have had I am doing best without it when I can just do my work at home and stuff.

PLEASE HELP ME CHAT I AM SCARED AND I DONT WANNA GO!!!

Sorry for the ramblings!

TL;DR

My parents want me to go into an ABA program but I dont think I should, I need advice on a legal level (am I forced to go if my parents decide? My therapist doesnt seem to agree with my parents on this) and on a personal level of how it could help me or harm me.

EDIT!!!

Hello guys! I have read much of your responses and I am planning on looking into ACT and possibly making a slide show on why ABA doesnt seem like a good fit but maybe another program? Uh idk, idea is in workshop still!

Also I am going to bring up my worries to the ABA therapist person if I am forced into it, so hopefully they can make it better or talk my parents out of this (or simply not service me).

Also my insurance does cover ABA it was my case manager who found the program and my paren justwent with it even when I said I did not want to go. I do not like this case manager as she is a bit rude (I just generally dont like her personality) and tends to recommend high care treatment (like out of state residental) even though I have not attempted in a year +, do not sh or have meltdowns, do not express any need to be in higher care.

So yeah do with that what you guys will. I hope yall have good days lol

So I’ve been writing stories since I was ten, I was obsessed with reading as a kid, and I have had plans to fully publish an original book/books since I was little. The issue for me recently is that it feels almost purposeless, because so many good writers never sell their books/get the credit they deserve, it feels like money and advertising my books would wash them down and also ai is able to copy writing and write entire books now??

Does anyone else feel this way?

I’ve been working on fan fictions for a bit but I also have my own personal stories, but these are all charecters and themes I hold dear to me, but it feels like no one wants to read a book about the things I like. I feel like if I seek outside approval for my writing it will just fail, it’ll become super polished or something.

I also am feeling disencouraged by ai in the writing scene, like my stories could be generated by any ai model and sold on mass while my genuine hours of work and tears are simply forgotten.

I will say AO3 has been a relief for me, it feels like I can write without focusing too much on my workd building (because its a preexisting universe) and I get to make nerdy callbacks to what happened in my story, but even that feels a little hopeless because I dont think anyone will read my writing if it doesnt have smut. The fandom is also dyingggg!

Uh yeah so if any of yall feel the same uh that sucks but at least its not just a me thing?

Guys I need help!!!

Okay, so I am a minor, and I have tics. My parents know i do, they’re really constant and so they hear/see most of them and know my like cycles?

The issue is I dont typically tic words, I typically only tic “Wow” as a word tic, all my other vocal tics are this “tsk” sound, groaning and such. (I also tend to mostly have motor tics)

Recently I’ve had this urge to tic curses or even a few slurs, but I never really do? I dont know if there is a word for this? But like I cant stop these snap thoughts with the urge to tic? I dont know how related this is to the actual issue though I thought I should mention. (These are repetitive, like not quite intrusive thoughts I would say, but not tics because I dont actually say/do them? Its a weird confusing middle ground.)

So the actual issue, my family is pretty strict with curses/bad language, they know I have tics and we’re looking at meds. However recently I’ve been ticcing the f word but in like this stutter? (Like this: fu-fu-fu-fu-) Where you can tell I am about to say the f word but dont ever really complete it. I’m really worried that this might turn into me actually saying the f word repeatedly?? Like I’ve had a few times where it goes fu-fu-fuck, but generally it stops before I can finish. However I am scared if I pick up a tic like the f word or another bad word my family will get me in trouble or shun me.

My questions/how you can help?-

How can I bring this up to my family if this does happen??

Is there any ways to change a tic/prevent them from becoming curses?

Why am I suddenly getting the urge to tic slurs or curses? (I am more stressed, but not crazy stressed)

How do yall cope with cursing tics?

Have a good day yall!! Thanks if you reply!

I was perscribed a med for panic attacks over a year ago, this med is called atarax and I’ve always felt it helps with my tics. However my dr says that there is no med for shortterm help with tics/tic attacks… and I dont know what to think about it?

Normally I take this med as needed for anxitey or to sleep on bad nights, but I also use it when having bad tic days. My bad tic days are pretty low/moderate in severity, in the past I would hit myself but those tics have eased up. Now the main issue with tics is they hurt my neck and keep me up all night, make my ears hurt by sucking in air and holding it, and just generally feel really shitty? I have a really big urge feeling typically that I would compare to having my hand forceibly held over a hot flame, it’s almost painful and I cant take my hand away from the flame until the urge goes away. Often the urge to tic is worse than the actual tics for me, I genuinely would rather break my legs than have to deal with the feeling of needing to tic but not being able to.

My doctor has confused me though, because this med really helps me with shortterm tics, often I will fall asleep within thrity minutes if I take this med at night or I will be visibly tired, but this med really helps me with tics. It makes me feel like the urge to tic is less, I think that it’s because i feel tired?

My doctor has been trying to get me to be on meds for tics for awhile, but I’ve been on and off of meds for a bit and want to take a break, I am not dignosed with tourettes but I have experienced tics for over a year and have a mix of complex and simple motor and vocal tics. I meet the criteria but I am too scared to ask for an offical dignosis and my parents are the ones that bring up my tics.

Its just weird because this med does help me when I am having a bad tic day, but they are saying it doesnt help with tics, that no shortterm med can help with tic attacks, and that I should start going on dayily meds for tics instead of just taking my anxiety one??

So lets get something straight, I am disabled. I am not trying to be offensive in anyway and I am myself disabled, so if you have an issue with this post please just tell me where I fucked up and I’ll rethink this.

I also wamt to say that no disability is a superpower, but it is comforting for ME to see people in media with my disabilities (even when it is that superpower trope).

Okay so this fictional disability is called duplication glitch, it happens when the neurochip is damnaged or spontainously with age. Duplication glitch is when instead of a correct ReGen cycle you have a ReGen of a singlar tissue, organ or limb.

In this universe these people have chips in their brains that cause ReGen, which is where when you are hurt your body recreates the tissues and heals in rapid rate, this takes a lot of carbs and protiens to do so most people eat a extreme diet and abide by a lifestyle meant for their bodies.

An example of how duplication glitches would work is like this, imagine you are out in the feilds, fighting some kind of enemy, and you are shot through the chest. You expect to heal, you’ve never had a ReGen go wrong. But suddenly, insteal of rebuilding the flesh you expect you have grown a seperate liver poking out of the wound. Your body would try to close the wound itself by trying again but that would create a chain cycle of even more livers pouring out of your body until it runs out of energy. This usually kills the person, unless medically treated via corecting the chip and surgical removal of the extra organs.

In story the MC would see this happen to a boy who only grows his left hand. This charecter will be a important one in the story, as his duplication glitch helps him fight in some ways, for example having an extra arm is useful in close combat because having three arms holding three guns is better than two guns. However this character would also have severe health issues due to this, such as having his face severely disfigured when a hand grows from it, or having hands that arent fully formed or are paralyzed, or having organs be strangled by a hand growing through it.

This charecter would have to manage the duplication glitch by not carbo loading, trying not to get hurt/injured, managing having like 10 seperate limbs and also having to hide the extra limbs. In the story he is also pretty lucky in regards to the duplication glitch being his arm and not, lets say the pancreas, because he can use his arms to a advantage at times and also having 10 pancreases would kill you.

I should also state where this charecter came from/how this was thought up. And ima be compleatly honest here, it came from a vent animation I am working on about my tourettes. Having motor tics often feel like my hands are being forced to move, its hard to explain but it does feel like my brain is sending a million different signals to move. And I’ve wanted to keep this charecter in my story because I think hes kind of cool, but I really dont know if this guy/this concept is offsensive or if its even just dumb?

Heyo! This is going out to all the tramsfems here! I am writing a book and the main charecter is a transwomen who realizes she is immorta, she is living on the run but takes the chance to transition.

I need help with two things!

First of all what rep do yall want to see? What should I aviof when writing this charecter?

Second!!

How can someone diy/pass as a women without hormones/surgery. The MC is 16 at the start but the story is going through years of her life, so ofc things change!

Anyways ILY pals have a good day!

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Im using this for my story, so what happens to you after you die? Like if i were to get into a car crash and die instantly on impact would the police take my body or would the ambulance take my body? Some other service perhaps? Would they take pictures? Would they cut off the road and drape a sheet over me? How long would they take to examine my body before they would move me? Please I need a realistic answer so my writing is actually good.

I’m about halfway through my first chapter, I have four pages and 1953 words in my current chapter. I am just wondering how many words are other people’s chapters, I think my descriptions and such are important as they show the main charecter’s POV and nhilism well but I feel like my chapter is already kinda long and I’ve not even gotten to the meat of the chapter!

OKAY so in this story names are very important, because there is a system that makes immortal soldiers via a chip, this chip wipes all memories and generalizes a person to their base “code”. In this story people who commited crimes are essentially forced into loosing their personality so a new one can take place, one that is regulated by the government.

I need to get more symbolic names for these charecters as such, the main charecter was a 22 year old girl, before she was arrested her street name was Junebug as she was known for going to banned pride events and was openly lesbain. I need a birth name for her now and a name that is simular for her mother.

I also need a chosen name for a charecter, this charecter is 13-15 (havent decided on offical name), mexican but in the story she doesnt know her race, and is struggling with PTSD after escaping the system. She‘s going to need a name that is fitting for her personality (she is generally standoffish, she acts tougher than she is, shes paranoid, she used people she doesmt know for profit but when you get to know her she is super loyal), and also the name has to be a little cringy/silly as to make her stand out jussst a bit.

And finally, the last name! I need a name for the main scientist guy. He is white but his daughter is wasian (white+chinese) and he is known for being literally insane. His daughter’s name is Mia, I need a first and last name for this guy. Hes the one who made the chips and syste, he is also a BILLIONAIRE and a well known one at that.

I use TSLIM insulin pump with the autosoft tubing. This has lead to no issues except one recently.

They switched me to autosoft XC tubing, which im not too fond of. Its not all bad, the tubing is easier to disconnect and reconnect (I am austic and struggle with certain motor movements so this new tubing helps) but dude I lowkey hate this new tubing???

The tube itself is more matte which makes it hard to see air bubbles, the little blue thing over the needle sometimes looks bent(normally the needle isnt), but my biggest issue is it keep on falling off. Im not super active, I dont do sports and I am constantly hyper aware of where my sites are JUST INCASE I BUMP THEM. So it hasnt fallen off in the day yet, but at night this is becoming an issue. I have tried different sleepong positions and more melatonion, different tapes ontop of it, nothing works. Almost every other night my tubing is just off, normally ripped out of whatever tape I had on too.

What to do??? Does anyone else hate the autosoft XC?