u/Historical_Seat_447

There is no reason for their behavior.

There is no conflict resolution.

There is no conversation you need to have.

There is no establishing boundaries.

There is no negotiation.

Do not look for logical explanations or closure.

That person is a 4 year old child, whether he/she's 20 or 40. Better to have a relationship with an actual adult.

But, of course, it is your right to decide to suffer for longer as well.

Sorry, I changed my diet. I don't eat crumbs anymore.

My mental and emotional capacity for things outside myself has greatly decreased, and other people's need of help or assistance has gone much lower in my list of priorities.

I feel a bit guilty tbh, esp that I have a really good friend who was there for me that is now asking for work-related help, but I just don't have 100% these days.

I'm already a bit burned just working on myself. I just can't afford to give anything right now. Nothing! Perhaps one day when I'm sure I can, and not when I'm hesitating.

On the bright side, they kinda understand that sometimes I just spiral. I'm just not used to declining that particular person as I could never repay his generosity.

We had a last confrontation that was painful for me, that led me to just go no-contact and stay away from her..

Almost a month after, I reached out, thinking that things would be better and that we can come to a healthier dynamic.

After 2 days had passed, she didn't text back yet, and my anxious ass got triggered, but instead of following up, I just blocked her.

If she had replied to my text within the timeframe, I would've gotten hooked again and have another round of mental cooking that would last for months.

I'm glad she didn't text back. My reaching out was my failure, but she saved it.

Ganahan ta ko mosud ani ba. Pero, mahala sa camera, d ko ka imagine unsaon para ma sure nga mauli jud and in good condition inig uli.

Bisan sgurog modeposit og 10k (which they don't) for a 60k-worth cam murag high risk kaayo.

So how does that really work nga dli ka mag overthink?

She gradually treated me like shit. It's like watching an addict progressively getting worse.

She got more insensitive, more rude, more inconsiderate. Stopped giving a fuck. But I know deep down she's just a hurt child. It's such a tragedy.

1. The lack of QoL will put off many people, but trust me (as a really picky player) it's worth it. The quality of the hack (story, pacing, and sheer amount of content) more than makes up for this.
2. There's so much content. When you play it, it's better if it's the only hack you'll be focusing for a while.
3. Exp is a scarce resource. No training grounds. EXP Share has old mechanics, held item, no exp-all. Use it carefully. The very first levels for the first gym are a bit of a grind, but it'll be smoother after that.
4. Difficulty scaling is great. If you have a full party, it's just the right difficulty where the enemy is a few levels above but beatable by changing 1-2 of your mons.
5. Some enemies use items more than once on 1 pokemon. Think multiple healing. It's better to 2HKO without getting the foe's HP to red to avoid them using an item.
6. So much status esp early game. Mainly poison and paralysis. Poisoned mon can faint in overworld. Always have paralyze heal, antidote, and some potions (fresh water, lemonade are cheaper). Swellow with Guts can take advantage of this.
7. No happiness indicator. You won't know how far you are for Crobat's evo, but I eventually made it. Just don't faint your mon, ever.
8. There's someone looking for an Umbreon to trade with, so catch one if you find one.
9. The RNG might be old, such that you can save-load when catching mons or receiving gift mons. Whereas in Unbound, you can't change the outcome without changing your walkpath or interactions first. Use this to your advantage.
10. There's a quest log so you won't get lost as easily. The plot isn't confusing, but just in case, you can access the main quest details.

I'm still in part A at 70hrs. And after this, there's still part B. Currently, it's S-tier for me, along with Odyssey and Unbound, but I'll know for sure when I finish it.

IMO, it's going to be THE standard for its category, the same way that Unbound is its own category (just my opinion).

I played this after Dreamstone Mysteries (great hack btw but shorter than I wanted, I still want to replay it).

Since Unbound and Odyssey, I haven't really enjoyed playing romhacks for a while. I just didn't find the others engaging enough. But now, that spirit came back when I played Dreamstone, and even more so with Elysium. I can't believe I put it off for so long.

When you share your photos, do you crop them? ig 4x5 vertical works best, but not sure on facebook, and I'm not used to shooting vertical.

This whole thing is confusing me. Or do I just keep shooting 2:3 landscape and not care about the crop previews

She's being raised by her grandma and her mother's younger sister. She's only 11. It hurts me looking at the situation. We're not blood related but I just treat her as my niece.

I just read this from an old post:

"He/she won't call you by your name unless he/she's deactivated (i.e. shutdown state)."

It took me a few seconds to remember how we interacted, then it hit me. There was one time she used my name and I really felt weird about it because she never did it before. That was several weeks post honeymoon phase, a.k.a the times of mixed signals and walking on eggshells.

Grateful for the short but vibrant experience of being his student on youtube.

Take it as a gateway to evolve your thinking and enter the esoteric world (with caution).

For me, it was never missing my family. Never feeling a desire to come home. And for a long time I didn't quite understand why kids my age get homesick. The idea of it seemed weird to me, like, why would you want to go back to prison? Why would you want people dictating rules on your life?

I always felt I didn't belong. I had a hard time with friendships and romantic relationships. Then it hit me, that I was the one who was mental lol. I needed to hit 30 (after fucking up a good amount of relationships) just to begin to have an understanding of what healthy relationships are, what a boundary means, what self love means, other things that healthy kids naturally grow up with and know as basic knowledge by the time they are young adults.

It's nuts how handicapped emotionally unhealthy people are in the world. I feel like we're just unaware of it as a culture. And it's just luck of the draw or fucking enough things up that we realize there's something wrong. No one really tells us. The sooner you realize, the better, but that also means crashing at an early age where support system is questionable.

On the bright side, I'm glad to have discovered what my issues are, and will continue to, and have started really facing myself. I've been having small wins, and it's still hard, but at least I know now this is where work needs to be done.

This is about my clueless dad who is never wrong, is emotionally insensitive, thinks I should just forgive my aunt and get over it. I think I'm just gonna let it out and not really looking for solutions, but would welcome similar thoughts.

Growing up, I never understood why my cousins treated their siblings, parents, and other cousins like friends. I always thought that family is one thing, friends are another, and that they don't mix up. To me, family was like being in a strict school with punishing rules, and friends meant I can have fun and do what I want.

There was a time that I was angry at him and blamed him for the way I was and my difficulty forming relationships, my self esteem. They say, don't blame your parents, but that's such a shit quote. It's not totally wrong, but it's lame.

I spent my 20s slowly understanding what happened and recovering from it (still). Unexpectedly, I had a phase of complete forgiveness, but I was naive to think that I was then ready to be exposed to him (and his siblings) again. Somehow, it occurred to me that I was gonna be immune to any of that because of my "growth and understanding." I was wrong obviously.

The current situation is that I have accepted that there will be no coming to terms with our relationship, and that I just have to deal with what's here considering he's old, and to accept that I will just get triggered mildly from time to time.

Over time, I have valued his opinion less and less, and have developed the ability to just ignore what he says rather than take it as a serious exchange.

It's ridiculous that to them, it's my burden to explain myself. And that if I couldn't I'd be painted as the one who has done the wrong and "couldn't bring himself to show up." It doesn't help that my dad has been expressing his grievances to his cousins for god knows how long. I wonder what picture they have of me in their heads. Hopefully not as awful as they seem a much mentally healthier people than our family.

I just want to tell him, "You are almost 80yo. Old enough to be wise and at least be an adult emotionally. But after all this years, you have learned nothing?"

Currently, I am actively working on my issues and have made good progress in the last 3 years and am glad about it. I wanted to say this as I felt there were still some stuff in my chest that wanted to be put out.

Just finished the main game at 30hours. Could've been longer if I had chosen the harder way (turn off some QoL); next run maybe.

Cons first:

1. Could really benefit from an graphics update, especially because it is a great hack besides that. The audio feels vanilla but it's not as much a big deal. I think it didn't get as popular due to this reason.
2. Marowak's thick club doesn't work?? (NOOOOO)

Pros:

1. I love the pacing. It reminds me of Odyssey. It's just right. Nothing tedious, but also not boring. The game is very engaging that I am able to finish it in spite of my short attention span.
2. The story is great actually. It's not that complex, but rich. One of the S tiers definitely. I wish it were longer.
3. Shiny rate is finally reasonable. Non-grinders of shiny can finally have a fair share of having shiny mons.
4. REPLAYABILITY. You can't get everything. Even if it's a story hack, I have a feeling of wanting to replay it due to the different choices (and items) I can make each run. More hacks should be like this, not an all-access. It feels more real and logical.
5. Access to pre-burn makes early guts mons awesome. Flame orb is such a luxury battle item that can't be accessed until later.
6. Static encounters. I love seeing mons in the overworld.
7. Can be played blind (without documentation). This is HUGE. Nuff said.

At first, I was uninterested due to the classic Gen3 graphics, but now I want to play it again. If you haven't played it, it's def one of the best hacks out there.

One time may weekend space na shared for physical activity, open for everyone, then one guy (probably 30+) from a small group made a comment to a passing-by girl (early 20s) he didn't know, "slow down, you might drop them" and it took me a long time to realize that it was a subtle s*xual joke? I didn't have the balls to tell him upfront that it wasn't funny.

And I remembered na growing up, this was just normalized. I'm a guy and I never understood how this is not lowkey bullying. I experienced being subtly bullied noong bata pako, sa mga tambay, and I never thought of doing that to other kids when I grew up.

Why not make those remarks on someone na mkapaghiganti or mka talk back? Bakit doon tlga sa walang magawa. At hindi lang applicable sa babae, sa lalaki din.

I don't want this to be a rant. Gusto ko lang magbago ung pag iisip o awareness natin sa mga bagay na ito, esp as "titos", or even fathers to daughters. I understand that this is a guy thing but keep it an inside joke and not something you express in public. Life is hard as it is. The least we can do for the new generation is to not make it harder for them.

This is especially for the guy who wants both XH and XT but can only get 1. This is what the XH1 should've been (except for the lack of top LCD).

The size (and with the mildly hollow grip) is an ergonomic advantage.

The buttons feel really good to press (preference?) which reminds me of XPro2's.

The XT5 is awesome, but the RAW files are huge and I don't think I need 40MP. I've done good on xt1 and xt2 in the past. But also I can't live without IBIS even for stills.

Galibog ko kung akoang phone ang guba.

Gomo (globe network) no internet. Smart wala sa uban areas. DITO naa pero hinay.