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Do men like the “JFK Jr / Richard Gere” type still exist today?

I’m talking about that classic 80s/90s masculine look and energy — not necessarily perfect, but that specific vibe:

Like slightly muscular, a bit hairy, strong facial bone structure, dark thick hair, good posture, and the kind of presence that looks incredible in a tailored suit without trying too hard.

But it’s not even just looks.

It’s more the whole package:
. calm confidence, not attention-seeking

.not constantly posting thirst traps or living online

. has hobbies, interests, and an actual identity outside of social media

.a solid career and direction in life

.charm and personality that feels effortless rather than performed

.traditional-ish masculinity (in a grounded way, not toxic)

.treats women well and actually respects people

.and has the ability to spoil a partner without it feeling transactional or performative

It just feels like a lot of modern dating culture is very online, very curated, very “look at me,” and I’m wondering if that older-school type of man still exists in real life or if it’s just something from a different era.

And if they do exist now, where do people even meet them?

I practically haven’t had a proper period since I first had it at 13 I had like 2 normal ones then after that insanely irregular like when I do get it it’s lasts one day and is just spotting (I’m 16 now and 98kg 5,2feet)

I also suffer insane amounts of body hair thick black corse body hair and facial hair

I’ve been over weight my entire life and have always had a terrible diet and used to only drink fizzy juice I was so used to eating sweets, crisps and microwave food for every meal and fizzy juice with it it was insane how I was raised like that I’ve managed to stop fizzy juice all together and only drink water now
(I’ve stopped caffeine because I’ve just suddenly gotten bad anxiety and after a panic attack a while ago I stoped) I can’t stop with the bad eating habits it’s so addictive i overeat all the time I won’t even be hungry and I still feel like I have to eat I also had a smoking/ vaping habit since 12 (cigs and weed) I stoped at like almost 16 in September I turn 17

I’ve suffered facial hair since I was 12 it progressed after my mum died when I was 14

My sister also has facial hair not as bad as mine but dosnt have any other issues I feel like this could just be genetics that’s worsened because of bad diet and laziness I’m terrified I really don’t want it I’m scared

I’m seeing a doctor and she thinks it may be pcos she hasn’t done any tests yet we’re waiting till I have my “period” which is the irregular spotting

I’m 16 female, It’s like sharp comes and goes or can stay for like 20 minutes I have quite bad anxiety the now like I was having bad chest rib and back pains every day that stoped last week now this it started this morning at 5am now it’s 18:00pm I was constipated yesterday and felt like I had tried gas
I don’t have a fever I’m not nauseous or anything I feel normal except for pain it’s not like unbearable just really uncomfortable it hurts a little tiny bit more if I turned or moved about but really mostly just the same pain as sitting still I really don’t want to go to the doctor though I went to sleep earlier to see if it would go and I woke up and it was gone then I thought of it and it came back has anyone had the same thing it

My 16f dream is to have my own column with Vogue
I want to right about girlhood, relationships, and night life

I don’t have any qualifications in English I have one in hair dressing and one in beauty

I’ve been accepted into an NQ media course next year I want to get into an HNC media and communications course and do a 3 month online Vogue fashion journalism course

I want to see if my college will let me do Nat 5 and higher English classes as well

I’ve made a TikTok account but I haven’t started posting yet

Does anyone have advice on getting into journalism, fashion writing, or magazine columns? Especially if you didn’t take the traditional route academically?

This is genuinely my dream and I’m willing to work for it.

(As for no qualifications in school I was having a really hard time at home I had depression then my mum died and I had to move and got kicked out so I never got anything for any classes)

Edit: I also thought it be cool to report in a Cindy Crawford mtv way as a side gig

My gran fell and hit under her breast and side on the bath she says she's okay but she was lost for a breath she's breathing fine now and is asleep but I swear I hear a faint hissing noise coming from her she has copd too (I asked chat gbt and it told me to call an ambulance immediately)

She's breathing normal now I don't know if I actually hear the hissing noise now I don't know
She said she was fine again and she tried to turn sides (to the side she hit) and she said it was really sore and she couldn't turn she then asked for my inhaler (she never does) says she's fine she's just breathing a little weird and said it feels more like the outside then inside

She has now said she thinks she's cracked rib but isn't going to the doctors or hospital till the morning
I'm scared she's going to die

I've fought with her to phone an ambulance and she's refusing to let me

I'm 16 I'm on the verge of a panic attack 2 years ago my mum died it wasn't only me and her it traumatised me I can't do this again
I'm going to throw up

My gran fell and hit under her breast and side on the bath she says she’s okay but she was lost for a breath she’s breathing fine now and is asleep but I swear I hear a faint hissing noise coming from her she has copd too (I asked chat gbt and it told me to call an ambulance immediately)

She’s breathing normal now I don’t know if I actually hear the hissing noise now I don’t know

She said she was fine again and she tried to turn sides (to the side she hit) and she said it was really sore and she couldn’t turn she then asked for my inhaler (she never does) says she’s fine she’s just breathing a little weird and said it feels more like the outside then inside

She has now said she thinks she’s cracked rib but isn’t going to the doctors or hospital till the morning

I’m scared she’s going to die

I’ve fought with her to phone an ambulance and she’s refusing to let me I’m 16 I’m on the verge of a panic attack 2 years ago my mum died it wasn’t only me and her it traumatised me I can’t do this again I’m going to throw up

16 female and overweight

My symptoms

Muscle twitches
racing heart
chest pains
pain in my arms and legs and sometimes stomach
feeling out of body
insane pressure in my jaw face and behind my eyes
neck pains
weird rumbling in my chest
pins and needles
nausea
hyper aware of my body sensations
feeling faint or dizzy
feeling too hot
getting cold patches on my skin
random deep pain in my sides and ribs that sometimes hurt more when you touch it
Feeling off like something is wrong
Random pokey pains in my left side chest kind of in the middle
Pain in my ribs,under breast and chest when I move

My common symptoms

Chest pains
A pokey pain in my left centre chest
Neck pains
Tightness around neck should and chest left side
Muscle twitch’s/ rumbling
Feeling like my heart is racing because I can feel it in my body but my pulse is normal
Random deep pains in my ribs
Feeling like something is off
Pains in my arms and legs
Pain in my ribs and under my breast when I move

I (16f) feel like my anxiety pain is constantly changing
Right now I have a pain in my ribs and sort of chest on my left side only when i move, or random pains as well in my chest left side only

I’ve been to the doctors had a normal ekg, monitoring over night, blood pressure, chest xray my blood were a little elevated on one bit but they said that could of just been because of my racing heart this was two months ago because I had a racing heart (208bpm)

When I came out the hospital the other symptoms started I’ve seen two doctors and they said it was anxiety

Here’s the other symptoms Muscle twitches
racing heart
chest pains
pain in my arms and legs and sometimes stomach
feeling out of body
insane pressure in my jaw face and behind my eyes
neck pains
weird rumbling in my chest
pins and needles
Shaky eyes
nausea
hyper aware of my body sensations
feeling faint or dizzy
feeling too hot
getting cold patches on my skin
random deep pain in my sides and ribs that sometimes hurt more when you touch it
Feeling off like something is wrong

I guess I’m just really scared because two years ago my mum died of a sudden cardiac arrest because of an enlarged heart and I’m just scared something is wrong

I (16f) feel like my anxiety pain is constantly changing
Right now I have a pain in my ribs and sort of chest on my left side only when i move, or random pains as well in my chest left side only

I’ve been to the doctors had a normal ekg, monitoring over night, blood pressure, chest xray my blood were a little elevated on one bit but they said that could of just been because of my racing heart this was two months ago because I had a racing heart (208bpm)

When I came out the hospital the other symptoms started I’ve seen two doctors and they said it was anxiety

Here’s the other symptoms Muscle twitches
racing heart
chest pains
pain in my arms and legs and sometimes stomach
feeling out of body
insane pressure in my jaw face and behind my eyes
neck pains
weird rumbling in my chest
pins and needles
Shaky eyes
nausea
hyper aware of my body sensations
feeling faint or dizzy
feeling too hot
getting cold patches on my skin
random deep pain in my sides and ribs that sometimes hurt more when you touch it
Feeling off like something is wrong

I guess I’m just really scared because two years ago my mum died of a sudden cardiac arrest because of an enlarged heart and I’m just scared something is wrong

I (16f) feel like my anxiety pain is constantly changing
Right now I have a pain in my ribs and sort of chest on my left side only when i move, or random pains as well in my chest left side only

I’ve been to the doctors had a normal ekg, monitoring over night, blood pressure, chest xray my blood were a little elevated on one bit but they said that could of just been because of my racing heart this was two months ago because I had a racing heart (208bpm)

When I came out the hospital the other symptoms started I’ve seen two doctors and they said it was anxiety

Here’s the other symptoms Muscle twitches
racing heart
chest pains
pain in my arms and legs and sometimes stomach
feeling out of body
insane pressure in my jaw face and behind my eyes
neck pains
weird rumbling in my chest
pins and needles
Shaky eyes
nausea
hyper aware of my body sensations
feeling faint or dizzy
feeling too hot
getting cold patches on my skin
random deep pain in my sides and ribs that sometimes hurt more when you touch it
Feeling off like something is wrong

I guess I’m just really scared because two years ago my mum died of a sudden cardiac arrest because of an enlarged heart and I’m just scared something is wrong

My 16f mother died two years ago and after she died like right after I’d hear noises from inside my wardrobe at my new room at my grans house then banging on the walls, mumbling, scraping one time I even called my sister and we heard growling and she said I turned all extremely high pitched on the phone (I’m quite low pitch) ,I used to stay in a hostel for school and the noises followed me there too this is everyday for months this is happening then one day I don’t know why because I never used to I decided to lock my door in the hostel (it’s literally only close classmates there and they all go to bed at 21:00 ) then I randomly woke up at like 2:00am and the walls and floor boards there are very thin you hear even slight movements but then something tried my door handle but I heard no movement to or from the door and nobody was up and other time I heard singing at 4 in the morning and when I complained everyone got scared and confused because no one was up, then the final thing that happened was I was lying in bed and I heard my name getting said it sounded muffled (my gran was asleep in the room with me it was just us there) then as I was turning around I heard my nickname in my mums voice but nothing was there the next morning I told my gran and told her I thought everything was my mum and it stoped after that