u/Hot_Statistician3007

Hi, I’m currently in no contact with my ex, she had a rough growing up and I know that doesn’t excuse it but I tried to understand, she would violently overshare sexual details from her past, the first time we had sex she told me immediately after she has slept with 40 guys, this trend continued on for months of her constantly talking about guys from her past, watching a movie she would say “omg I dated a guy like that” or “my friend was like that” referring to men she slept with. She eventually was able to stop making these comments to me but the bell was not able to be unrung. I know 27/40 names of guys she slept with and plenty of details about their sex. On top of this our whole relationship these guys crawled back over and over and mixed in with the stories I felt so insecure and annoyed when they would reach out to her. On top of this, she would make mean jokes to me like I’m embarrassing or humiliating or unappealing and say it was a joke, she would speak this way with her friends who know it’s a joke, but I didn’t find it funny. She eventually crashed out and called me sensitive and thin skinned and insecure and jealous. I never found myself to be jealous until she started constantly talking about men from her past and showing me pics of them. I miss the good times with her, but a lot of those memories are ruined by her talking about guys she slept with or making jokes at my demise. Her jokes were definitely worse in front of her friends. I could go into details but like, I know I used another guys condom that was unused that she was texting, she also demonstrated how she gave another man a foot job, also told me how another guy came inside her. She also graphically shared with me details of her assaults which made me feel very uncomfortable, I tried to be understanding because I know that’s traumatic, but I don’t think I needed to know what they looked like, or how they did it. I feel like I dodged a bullet maybe? She had her good moments. I know not everyone is bad or good that’s black and white thinking.. any advice to feel better would be great.

Hi my GF 22F says these coworkers she slept with are “friends” and I politely asked her to stop talking to them because it makes me uncomfortable, she claims they are her friends even tho they slept together multiple times. On top of that I saw a text to another coworker that read “we can play good cop bad cop.” My girl friends said it seemed flirty and she screamed at me saying it was accusatory and rude to think that. Let me know what you guys think. I’m worried I’m getting played for a shmuck.

My ex gf and I broke up after 16 months. The relationship started off horrible and continued to be horrible. She was texting previous sexual partner, guys she had crushes on, for months of our relationship claiming they were friends. She also told me graphic sex stories with these men who she was texting. She also set up my own friend with a man she had sex with. She slept with two coworkers and told me the nitty gritty details of it. She also told me I used one of those coworkers unused condoms he left behind at her home. She would constantly call me embarassing or say I was unappealing as a joke. She then told me I was insecure and jealous of her job. I was jealous of her job, but never really thought about her role until we began dating. I eventually hit my breaking point after she turned an entire birthday party on me because she was drunk as hell crying over an ex bf from years before, she jumped out of my moving car, but then got mad at me for yelling at her??? I also shamed her for her past that she overshared. I know 27/40 guys she slept with. She’s 22. Why am I so anxious? Any advice guys please.

My ex gf and I broke up after 16 months. The relationship started off horrible and continued to be horrible. She was texting previous sexual partner, guys she had crushes on, for months of our relationship claiming they were friends. She also told me graphic sex stories with these men who she was texting. She also set up my own friend with a man she had sex with. She slept with two coworkers and told me the nitty gritty details of it. She also told me I used one of those coworkers unused condoms he left behind at her home. She would constantly call me embarassing or say I was unappealing as a joke. She then told me I was insecure and jealous of her job. I was jealous of her job, but never really thought about her role until we began dating. I eventually hit my breaking point after she turned an entire birthday party on me because she was drunk as hell crying over an ex bf from years before, she jumped out of my moving car, but then got mad at me for yelling at her??? I also shamed her for her past that she overshared. I know 27/40 guys she slept with. She’s 22. Why am I so anxious? Any advice guys please.

My ex gf and I broke up after 16 months. The relationship started off horrible and continued to be horrible. She was texting previous sexual partner, guys she had crushes on, for months of our relationship claiming they were friends. She also told me graphic sex stories with these men who she was texting. She also set up my own friend with a man she had sex with. She slept with two coworkers and told me the nitty gritty details of it. She also told me I used one of those coworkers unused condoms he left behind at her home. She would constantly call me embarassing or say I was unappealing as a joke. She then told me I was insecure and jealous of her job. I was jealous of her job, but never really thought about her role until we began dating. I eventually hit my breaking point after she turned an entire birthday party on me because she was drunk as hell crying over an ex bf from years before, she jumped out of my moving car, but then got mad at me for yelling at her??? I also shamed her for her past that she overshared. I know 27/40 guys she slept with. She’s 22. Why am I so anxious? Any advice guys please.

My ex gf and I broke up after 16 months. The relationship started off horrible and continued to be horrible. She was texting previous sexual partner, guys she had crushes on, for months of our relationship claiming they were friends. She also told me graphic sex stories with these men who she was texting. She also set up my own friend with a man she had sex with. She slept with two coworkers and told me the nitty gritty details of it. She also told me I used one of those coworkers unused condoms he left behind at her home. She would constantly call me embarassing or say I was unappealing as a joke. She then told me I was insecure and jealous of her job. I was jealous of her job, but never really thought about her role until we began dating. I eventually hit my breaking point after she turned an entire birthday party on me because she was drunk as hell crying over an ex bf from years before, she jumped out of my moving car, but then got mad at me for yelling at her??? I also shamed her for her past that she overshared. I know 27/40 guys she slept with. She’s 22. Why am I so anxious? Any advice guys please.

My ex gf and I broke up after 16 months. The relationship started off horrible and continued to be horrible. She was texting previous sexual partner, guys she had crushes on, for months of our relationship claiming they were friends. She also told me graphic sex stories with these men who she was texting. She also set up my own friend with a man she had sex with. She slept with two coworkers and told me the nitty gritty details of it. She also told me I used one of those coworkers unused condoms he left behind at her home. She would constantly call me embarassing or say I was unappealing as a joke. She then told me I was insecure and jealous of her job. I was jealous of her job, but never really thought about her role until we began dating. I eventually hit my breaking point after she turned an entire birthday party on me because she was drunk as hell crying over an ex bf from years before, she jumped out of my moving car, but then got mad at me for yelling at her??? I also shamed her for her past that she overshared. I know 27/40 guys she slept with. She’s 22. Why am I so anxious? Any advice guys please.