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I’m 24 and I’ve identified as gay my whole life. A few months ago I started feeling attracted to women and I’ve been dating a wonderful girl for about 2 months. We have a great emotional connection and she knows I’m mostly gay but that I want to explore this with her.Yesterday was our first time trying to be intimate. I was very excited and attracted to her, but I couldn’t stay hard. It felt like a mix of performance anxiety and desensitization / lack of sensitivity from years of watching porn.I’ve decided this is my sign to finally quit porn for good. I want to recover my natural sensitivity so I can enjoy intimacy with my girlfriend the way I want to.Right now my plan is:

• Complete pornfree (no porn at all)
• Only masturbating occasionally with a fleshlight (very gently, no death grip)
• Focusing on real-life connection with her

I’d love to hear from people who have been in similar situations:

• How long did it take for your sensitivity and erections to improve after quitting porn?
• Any tips that actually helped with performance anxiety when being with a real partner?
• Did anyone here also deal with same-sex attraction while exploring with the opposite sex?
• What was the biggest mindset shift that helped you stay consistent?

Thank you in advance. This feels like an important step for me, both for my relationship and for my own well-being. Any advice or encouragement is appreciated.

Hi, I’m 24, and for my whole life, I identified as gay without a second thought. A few months ago, I started noticing that I was also attracted to girls, so I decided to explore that side of things. I’ve been seeing a really lovely girl for a couple of months now. We have a great emotional connection and mutual attraction; she’s known from the start that I’m mostly gay but open to exploring.

I’d really like to be able to enjoy intimacy with her naturally. The opportunity came up yesterday. I was really excited and nervous (it was basically my first time with a girl).

Unfortunately, I couldn't stay erect, and it didn't happen. I felt frustrated in the moment, but later I realized something important: I *did* like it—I felt attracted to her and connected with her. I discovered that I *can* be with a girl and that I’m interested in keeping at it. Right now, I’m a bit confused but excited to discover this part of myself.

I want to be able to enjoy intimacy with her without anxiety getting in the way. I’m looking for real advice from other bi men (or anyone who’s been through something similar):

• How did you handle performance anxiety during your first experiences with girls?

• Practical tips for improving erections (exercises, mindset, etc.)?

• How do you talk about this with your partner honestly and without pressure?

• Experiences from guys who went from identifying solely as gay to discovering an attraction to women.

• Any other advice that helped you while exploring your bisexuality.

Thanks in advance. I’ll read and reply to everything. I appreciate any experiences or words of wisdom you can share.

Hi, I’m 24, and for my whole life, I identified as gay without a second thought. A few months ago, I started noticing that I was also attracted to girls, so I decided to explore that side of things. I’ve been seeing a really lovely girl for a couple of months now. We have a great emotional connection and mutual attraction; she’s known from the start that I’m mostly gay but open to exploring.

I’d really like to be able to enjoy intimacy with her naturally. The opportunity came up yesterday. I was really excited and nervous (it was basically my first time with a girl).

Unfortunately, I couldn't stay erect, and it didn't happen. I felt frustrated in the moment, but later I realized something important: I *did* like it—I felt attracted to her and connected with her. I discovered that I *can* be with a girl and that I’m interested in keeping at it. Right now, I’m a bit confused but excited to discover this part of myself.

I want to be able to enjoy intimacy with her without anxiety getting in the way. I’m looking for real advice from other bi men (or anyone who’s been through something similar):

• How did you handle performance anxiety during your first experiences with girls?

• Practical tips for improving erections (exercises, mindset, etc.)?

• How do you talk about this with your partner honestly and without pressure?

• Experiences from guys who went from identifying solely as gay to discovering an attraction to women.

• Any other advice that helped you while exploring your bisexuality.

Thanks in advance. I’ll read and reply to everything. I appreciate any experiences or words of wisdom you can share.

Brothers I'm 24, last night I had sex with a girl for the first time. I was really excited but I couldn’t stay erect. She was understanding. I’m a man who struggles with SSA and I’m exploring my options. I’m looking for godly advice: exercises, ways to manage anxiety, habits, prayer. Thank you and God’s blessings.

Quería abrir la conversación porque siento que varios debemos estar en la misma situación.

Actualmente trabajo de forma remota como Accounting Assistant para una empresa de Estados Unidos. Estoy muy contento con el trabajo: buen ambiente, pocas reuniones, buena autonomía y, aun con el dólar bajo, sigo ganando más que el promedio de mi profesión en Colombia trabajando desde casa.

Sin embargo, la caída del dólar sí se está sintiendo. Recuerdo cuando estaba cerca de los $4.000 COP y ahora mi último pago en Payoneer terminó convirtiéndose alrededor de los $3.300 COP por dólar. En la práctica, cada mes siento que mi salario compra un poco menos.

Tengo la ventaja de vivir en el sur de Medellín y mi arrendataria no es una usurera 😂, así que pago menos arriendo que mucha gente y eso me ayuda bastante. No me puedo quejar porque vivo tranquilo, así que no estoy en una mala situación financiera. Aun así, este mes solo logré ahorrar unos USD 100, cuando hace unos meses mi capacidad de ahorro era bastante mayor.

Por eso empecé a buscar un segundo trabajo remoto de medio tiempo. La idea no es porque mi empleo actual sea malo, sino aprovechar mis horas libres para fortalecer mi fondo de emergencia y seguir financiando proyectos personales sin depender tanto de la tasa de cambio.

Me da curiosidad saber cómo lo están manejando ustedes.

• ¿Han ajustado su presupuesto?
• ¿Están buscando ingresos adicionales?
• ¿Están ahorrando directamente en dólares o convirtiendo todo a pesos?
• ¿Creen que el dólar volverá a niveles cercanos a $4.000 o ya debemos acostumbrarnos a este rango?

Me interesa conocer experiencias reales de quienes también reciben ingresos en dólares viviendo en Colombia.

Quisiera conocer cómo están manejando el riesgo cambiario quienes viven en Colombia pero reciben su salario en dólares.

Con la caída reciente del dólar, ¿han cambiado la forma en que administran sus ingresos?

Por ejemplo:

• ¿Convierten todo a pesos apenas reciben el pago?
• ¿Dejan una parte en USD esperando una mejor tasa?
• ¿Han empezado a invertir directamente en dólares?
• ¿Diversificaron sus fuentes de ingreso para no depender tanto de la TRM?

En mi caso, recibir ingresos en dólares ha sido muy positivo, pero la diferencia entre una TRM cercana a $4.000 y una alrededor de $3.300 sí ha reducido mi capacidad de ahorro en pesos.

Más que predecir si el dólar va a subir o bajar, me interesa conocer qué estrategias están utilizando quienes están en una situación similar.

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Hi! I have over 4 years of experience working with Excel in finance and administrative roles. Here’s how I can help you:

- Fix formulas

- Organize data

- Enhance layout and design

- Build simple dashboards

I offer fast delivery within 24 hours. Just send me your file, and I’ll take a look. I can start today and provide you with suggestions for improvements right away.

Feel free to direct message me, and I'll get started on it!

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- Fix formulas

- Organize data

- Enhance layout and design

- Build simple dashboards

I offer fast delivery within 24 hours. Just send me your file, and I’ll take a look. I can start today and provide you with suggestions for improvements right away.

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• Fix formulas
• Organize data
• Improve layout and design
• Build simple dashboards

Fast delivery (24h). Send me your file and I’ll take a look.