u/Hungry-Willow2228

so we recently moved (about one month ago) and we don’t have quite a lot of furniture yet. i am 18 and have purchased a vibrator a few months back which i used to hide in my nightstand. now, i don’t really know where to hide it and the chances of my mom finding it are way higher since there isn’t really somewhere to hide it.

there have been a couple of times when the vibrator was either laying on my bed, or she opened my nightstand and saw it or stuff like that but i don’t think she could figure out what it is since it’s a travel version and it basically has a case attached to it.

today, i stupidly decided to use it while waiting on my food and not even 30 seconds passed and she entered my room. i desperately tried to turn it off but it wouldn’t just go on a higher setting and only stopped when she got close to my bed, and before that you could really it. now, i’ll choose to live with the benefit of the doubt and think that she either didn’t hear it or she thought it was something else..

she has never questioned me about it and honestly i hope she never will, im 18 so i feel like its pretty acceptable. i’ also got into my first relationship so i guess its even more ‘obvious’ that that things are/will n happening.

This is embarrassing to admit because I feel like it makes me sound like a potential cheater, even though I genuinely don’t want to cheat on my boyfriend.

I [18F] really love this man [18M]. He’s the first guy who has ever made me feel genuinely appreciated, wanted, and loved. He’s also the first person I’ve said “I love you” to where I feel like I truly understand and mean those words. I’m very attracted to him, I’m happy with him, and I don’t secretly want to leave him for someone else.

He’s my first boyfriend but the second guy I really really care about since the first was a year long on and off situationship that I didn’t exactly love but really cared for.

But sometimes I get into these weird moods where I miss the messiness of being single and having situationships. Not necessarily any specific guy, but the excitement, uncertainty, flirting, impulsiveness, and that whole “I probably shouldn’t be doing this” feeling.

And sometimes my brain comes up with scenarios that make me question myself.

For example, some of my boyfriend’s friends are objectively attractive. I don’t have feelings for them, I’m not crushing on them or secretly flirting with them, and there isn’t one specific friend I want. But sometimes I’ll randomly think, “Imagine if I got with one of his friends,” and there’s something exciting about how messy/taboo that would be.

I’ve even imagined something like: what if my boyfriend and I broke up, I got with one of his friends and had this chaotic/messy phase, and then eventually my boyfriend and I got back together because ultimately he’s still the person I love and want?

And then I’m immediately like… girl, what the fuck???

I would NOT want the actual consequences of that. I don’t want to hurt or betray my boyfriend, and I don’t want to lose him just for some temporary excitement. I also don’t condone cheating, and I’ve never acted on these thoughts or made plans to.

What confuses me is that the fantasy can still feel exciting.

I almost feel like I’m attracted to the scenario rather than the people involved: the novelty, chaos, taboo, being wanted by someone new, doing something I “shouldn’t,” etc. Sometimes I wonder if I just miss the freedom and adrenaline I associated with being single, even though I prefer the actual relationship I have now.

Has anyone else in a happy relationship experienced this? Can you deeply love someone and still occasionally crave that kind of novelty/chaos?

And most importantly: does having fantasies like this say something concerning about me, or is there a meaningful difference between enjoying a taboo fantasy and actually wanting to do it?

Also I feel like it’s mentionable that this is a really healthy relationship. My childhood has always been full of chaos and fight or flight with my parents so maybe that also has some connection.

My boyfriend and I are thinking about going to London in January for a little city break, mainly because he really wants to go to an Arsenal match while we're there.

We're both 18, so I'm currently trying to figure out roughly how much everything would cost and, most importantly, where it would make sense for us to stay. We'd probably be there for around 2-4 nights and we're trying to keep the trip relatively budget-friendly, so I'm mostly looking for affordable hotels rather than anything fancy.

My main priorities for accommodation would probably be:

- a safe area, especially since we'd obviously be coming back to the hotel after dark in January

- close to a major Tube station / really good public transport connections

- reasonably central, so we don't spend half the trip commuting

- relatively easy to get to/from Emirates Stadium on match day

Being right next to the stadium isn't necessarily important to me if staying somewhere more central with good transport makes more sense.

I've actually been to London a few times before, so I'm already fairly familiar with the city and using the Tube. I think that will also make my parents a bit more comfortable with the idea of us going by ourselves.

So far, I've been looking at hub by Premier Inn London King's Cross. For some random dates I checked in January, a Bigger Room was around £240 total for 3 nights, which seemed really good for London. The rooms are obviously tiny, but we really don't care about having a huge room as long as it's clean, has a private bathroom and enough space for the two of us. King's Cross also seemed like a good compromise between being central, having great transport connections and getting to Emirates fairly easily.

If anyone has stayed at that particular hub by Premier Inn (or other hub locations in London), I'd really appreciate hearing what you thought of it. I'm also very open to other hotel/area recommendations that might be better for a similar price.

Also, if there are any Arsenal fans here: how exactly does getting tickets work? From what I've read so far, it doesn't seem as simple as just waiting for tickets to go on general sale and buying two. I'm seeing things about memberships, ballots and Ticket Exchange, but I'm not entirely sure what the realistic process would be for two people coming from abroad who want to attend one match.

Basically, any advice on where to stay, what areas you'd recommend/avoid, getting to and from Emirates on match day, or Arsenal tickets would be really appreciated. :)

My bf of 2 months and I are both 18 and i’ve been having this constant sadness in me since I was maybe 10-12 years old. My parents were present and provided me everything I could need except for the emotional part. They were pretty distant, my dad was verbally abusive and both were emotionally abusive. There also were some select episodes that left me ‘traumatized’ i guess.. i just usually downplay what happened and tell myself it’s not that bad and that I’m just exaggerating. I’ve also always had problems in friendships so I have been kind of always alone. Around 7th grade I was in my peak of sadness and I couldn’t do anything.. barely talked, barely got out of bed, always cried.. I was just horrible and of course no one cared to check up on me even though you could see on my face and how I was acting that something was clearly wrong.

Over the years I’ve found a few friends I can trust and open up to from time to time so I’ve sort of gotten almost desensitized to everything i’ve been through. Also I have to mention that I never reached out because something happened or I was feeling sad, it all just came up in conversations we would have.

Now, I still have that sadness in me especially at night but I can’t explain it because my parents are better now and I have good friends, it’s just that i have this infinite sadness in me.

Sometimes when I hang out with my boyfriend or he calls me late at night I just go into this state of numbness and sadness and I just don’t know why. He obviously can tell and insists by asking me why i’m mad and all I can say is that I’m not because that’s the truth and I just have to hope I can snap out of it. I don’t know how I’m supposed to tell him that yes I have all these material things, and my parents get along great, and my friendships are fine but I’m just so sad because of what i’ve been through. The thing is that I always feel like even if I’ll tell him about my childhood it will seem like i’m just exaggerating because it’s really hard to actually describe to someone trauma that doesn’t come from a specific moment or something physical.

I also think the worst part is that he genuinely thinks my life is so easy and I have no worries or problems.

I’m sorry for the wrong paragraph but thank you for listening!

Caut un profesor din cluj pentru meditații la chimie pentru admiterea de la umf cluj. Intru în clasa a 12 a și încă nu am început meditațiile la chimie iar în liceu nu am făcut deloc.

De asemenea, credeți ca am șanse să recuperez materia până anul viitor când este admiterea?

What do boys think when their girlfriend is jealous but not controlling?

I get pretty jealous whenever I hear him talk about a friend of his that’s a girl or even that he has girl coworkers and he can tell by the way I act a bit bothered after. I’m not controlling at all, I’ve never stopped him from going out or acted crazy and made him show me who he was with or anything like that. I told him that he can go out with whoever. One time he said he has no problem with giving me his password and I said no. I know he won’t do anything and I do trust him.

Most of the time I act jealous it’s just a bit of a joke but not really and he also likes to tease and play into it a bit or just bring up something to see how I react. The thing is, I’m just worried that i’m pushing him away when i act like that. At the same time, maybe he also likes that I’m a bit jealous like that because he sometimes likes to act as if I told him ‘you’re not allowed to do that/ go there’ even though that never happened.

For example, he invited me to a birthday party but without asking, he just said i’m going with him to which i said ‘you want me to come as a plus one?’ and he said ‘yes, I also don’t think I would’ve been allowed to go otherwise since it’s a girl’s birthday’ and I was like what I never implied that..

I also find myself having this problem where even in the past I would kinda bring a girl up and would tell them ‘don’t you like her?’ / ‘you look like you have a lot in common’ or slight remarks like that to see how they react. I’m not sure how I can work on that because it’s not like he has a past of commitment problems or he ever did something to make me question him and I know he isn’t the type to cheat.

What do boys think when their girlfriend is jealous but not controlling?

I get pretty jealous whenever I hear him talk about a friend of his that’s a girl or even that he has girl coworkers and he can tell by the way I act a bit bothered after. I’m not controlling at all, I’ve never stopped him from going out or acted crazy and made him show me who he was with or anything like that. I told him that he can go out with whoever. One time he said he has no problem with giving me his password and I said no. I know he won’t do anything and I do trust him.

Most of the time I act jealous it’s just a bit of a joke but not really and he also likes to tease and play into it a bit or just bring up something to see how I react. The thing is, I’m just worried that i’m pushing him away when i act like that. At the same time, maybe he also likes that I’m a bit jealous like that because he sometimes likes to act as if I told him ‘you’re not allowed to do that/ go there’ even though that never happened.

For example, he invited me to a birthday party but without asking, he just said i’m going with him to which i said ‘you want me to come as a plus one?’ and he said ‘yes, I also don’t think I would’ve been allowed to go otherwise since it’s a girl’s birthday’ and I was like what I never implied that..

I also find myself having this problem where even in the past I would kinda bring a girl up and would tell them ‘don’t you like her?’ / ‘you look like you have a lot in common’ or slight remarks like that to see how they react. I’m not sure how I can work on that because it’s not like he has a past of commitment problems or he ever did something to make me question him and I know he isn’t the type to cheat.

What do boys think when their girlfriend is jealous but not controlling?

I get pretty jealous whenever I hear him talk about a friend of his that’s a girl or even that he has girl coworkers and he can tell by the way I act a bit bothered after. I’m not controlling at all, I’ve never stopped him from going out or acted crazy and made him show me who he was with or anything like that. I told him that he can go out with whoever. One time he said he has no problem with giving me his password and I said no. I know he won’t do anything and I do trust him.

Most of the time I act jealous it’s just a bit of a joke but not really and he also likes to tease and play into it a bit or just bring up something to see how I react. The thing is, I’m just worried that i’m pushing him away when i act like that. At the same time, maybe he also likes that I’m a bit jealous like that because he sometimes likes to act as if I told him ‘you’re not allowed to do that/ go there’ even though that never happened.

For example, he invited me to a birthday party but without asking, he just said i’m going with him to which i said ‘you want me to come as a plus one?’ and he said ‘yes, I also don’t think I would’ve been allowed to go otherwise since it’s a girl’s birthday’ and I was like what I never implied that..

I also find myself having this problem where even in the past I would kinda bring a girl up and would tell them ‘don’t you like her?’ / ‘you look like you have a lot in common’ or slight remarks like that to see how they react. I’m not sure how I can work on that because it’s not like he has a past of commitment problems or he ever did something to make me question him and I know he isn’t the type to cheat.

It all started last August, when me and a guy from my school went to a festival and ended up spending the last two days in the same friend group. My girlfriends immediately noticed chemistry between us, and honestly, I definitely felt it too.

Ever since then, I’ve tried texting him using random excuses, like asking if he was also going to a party or things like that. He doesn’t like my Instagram stories, but recently he started liking some of my TikToks, which he never used to do before.

My girlfriends have been begging me to “make the first move” for the longest time, but I never really wanted to. Up until a few days ago, when I realized that we literally never see each other at school, and even when we pass by each other, he avoids looking at me. So I started thinking that if I texted him and we talked for a bit and it just didn’t go anywhere, it probably wouldn’t even become awkward, because we don’t really have anything in common or overlapping friend groups.

Ever since I had that realization, I’ve really started wondering how to text him something casual enough that it doesn’t feel forced, but that could still actually lead to a conversation. He’s really shy ,even his best friend said so. The problem is that there’s genuinely nothing we have in common to naturally start talking about.

I also don’t want to make things weird between us since my birthday party is in three weeks and he’s coming. But at the same time, I don’t really want to wait any longer. Obviously, the safest option would probably be to wait until summer break or even until August when the festival comes around again, but that just feels so far away.

So yeah, I really just need some advice.

It all started last August, when me and a guy from my school went to a festival and ended up spending the last two days in the same friend group. My girlfriends immediately noticed chemistry between us, and honestly, I definitely felt it too.

Ever since then, I’ve tried texting him using random excuses, like asking if he was also going to a party or things like that. He doesn’t like my Instagram stories, but recently he started liking some of my TikToks, which he never used to do before.

My girlfriends have been begging me to “make the first move” for the longest time, but I never really wanted to. Up until a few days ago, when I realized that we literally never see each other at school, and even when we pass by each other, he avoids looking at me. So I started thinking that if I texted him and we talked for a bit and it just didn’t go anywhere, it probably wouldn’t even become awkward, because we don’t really have anything in common or overlapping friend groups.

Ever since I had that realization, I’ve really started wondering how to text him something casual enough that it doesn’t feel forced, but that could still actually lead to a conversation. He’s really shy ,even his best friend said so. The problem is that there’s genuinely nothing we have in common to naturally start talking about.

I also don’t want to make things weird between us since my birthday party is in three weeks and he’s coming. But at the same time, I don’t really want to wait any longer. Obviously, the safest option would probably be to wait until summer break or even until August when the festival comes around again, but that just feels so far away.

So yeah, I really just need some advice.