u/Huskyboah

Been gone two months, I endured physical abuse, emotional abuse, mental abuse, financial dishonesty, withholding sex for 6-8 weeks at a time, while she didn’t work, didn’t clean the house, and didn’t cook, told me I was a bad father etc
Since I’ve left she’s did nothing but blast me on social media, I hate her, I wish her suffering, I wish I had never met her. I gave her the most vulnerable and genuine parts of myself because I truly was committed to her, wanted it to work, wanted to choose her and love her, and now I feel like a broken man. I don’t believe in love anymore, definitely not getting married again. People automatically assume I was the bad guy because of her lies and for the simple fact I’m a man, fuck her, fuck society, fuck the world. Fuck all of this bullshit.

I’m going through a divorce and currently living alone, a girl from high school and I was chatting about our kids and life, she inserted her own marriage into the conversation and I was under the impression she was getting a divorce as well due to her words, the conversation went on and we eventually exchanged naked pictures and planned on hooking up no strings attached. As we continued to talk I told her that if we enjoyed the sex enough I’d be down for a friends with benefits type of thing since we was both getting divorced but not a relationship, she explained that she wasn’t actually getting divorced YET, she explained that he works blue collar and is on the road for months at a time. She said it would be a long time before she even mentioned divorce to him. I told her I just couldn’t continue after learning this especially since they have a small child, I didn’t wanna sleep with another man’s wife or continue and risk getting killed. I know that was the right thing of me to do, but shit I was wanting to get laid badly, it has been since January or February since I have. Anyone have anything encouraging?

Death is a scary thing, but honestly there’s something poetic or peaceful to me to think about there being no Heaven or Hell. No worries about that persons suffering, no guilt from the church wishing they was here still, just thankful you got to experience being apart of their story.

By the time by divorce is final I’ll be 24 almost 25 with two kids, my wife mentally and physically abused me during our relationship. I was stupid and trusted her completely even with our finances, she used my money to keep her deadbeat brother and her parents bills paid which I didn’t know until some time after we separated. While we was together she constantly told me I was crazy, mentally ill, never loved by my parents etc, she was extremely isolating, was I perfect? Absolutely not, but I know I’ve been through Hell. I genuinely don’t know if I’ll ever love again after her, I feel like I believed in some sort of fairy tale version of love, white picket fence type shit, and gave her the most pure/vulnerable parts of myself and she absolutely destroyed them. Could there be another woman out there to marry? MAYBE, but do I think the risk is worth finding out? Not really, the idea of just giving my kids a good life and occasionally hooking up with some chick sounds nice, but I sit here this morning after dropping my kids off and feel very lonely. Just kinda needed to vent.

I am right in the middle of the Bible Belt, I used to be a raging Christian but now I am an agnostic, but nobody really knows that, at the most my family thinks I’ve “strayed away” from God. But I am going through a divorce and was looking to date someone casually, so it made me think in the far future how should I maybe handle introducing someone to my conservative Christian family? I have the patience to overlook them even if I completely disagree with their views because they are genuinely good to me and my child, but it wouldn’t be fair of me to ask a future partner to remain quiet about their beliefs when around my family, anyone else dealt with a similar situation?

Just an appreciation post for the advanced suit, I am playing through the first game and have wore it the entire time because I genuinely think it looks so good, I think it still feels like spider man but I really like the added white. :)

I am looking for people who would like to have an online friend, I am on this app everyday, typically during evening/night hours. I enjoy gaming(currently playing Spider-Man remastered), Marvel, grunge music such as Alice In Chains. I work in a hospital as a nurse as well, I’m going through a bit of a rough time in my personal life and was hoping to have a bit of an escape from reality.

If you message me I will reply to you as consistently as I can, if I don’t plan on being active it’s usually because Im asleep, working, or just taking care of responsibilities. If I decide I no longer wanna chat, ill explain why, so no ghosting here haha

I work what is called “Panama Schedule” (just google it pls) nightshift 7P-7A as a nurse. I have this guilty feeling if I am off work and don’t have my son that I’m failing him or as a dad, I love him very much but I feel like I need some time to myself occasionally. I am guaranteed to have him 6 overnights a month plus any extra that we mutually agree upon. I am struggling to not feel guilty, is it wrong to take a day to do something for myself? Any questions you may have about my situation comment below and we’ll talk!

I’m a 12hr nightshift worker, anyone else work this rotation? How often do you see your kids if so?

Looking for recommendations for a PS5 casual player, I have a lot of responsibilities on my plate so playtime is limited and want to relax when playing(don’t give me the Elden Ring equivalent lol). Is there any easy-ish games that are space themed with the overhead viewpoint? I prefer that rather than 2D side scrolling. Thanks

Here is how my(23M) work schedule is laid out

7p-7a
12hr shifts
45minute commute

Week 1:
Mon - Work
Tues- Work
Wed- Off
Thurs- Off
Fri- Work
Sat- Work
Sun- Work

Week 2:
Mon- Off
Tues- Off
Wed- Work
Thurs- Work
Fri- Off
Sat- Off
Sun- Off

These two just alternate back and forth, keep in mind I work nightshift so the first day I’m off work is basically sleeping 8am-2pm bare minimum, I know for a fact I can commit to Friday Saturday Sunday night (6 overnights a month) but I’m unsure about the weekdays, it isn’t that I don’t want to see my son(2yo), but I’m unsure if that is something that can be done long term with my job and also needing time to take care of my responsibilities as an adult such as therapy which I obviously can’t take my 2 year old son to(she was physically and mentally abusive), I want what’s best for my son and myself.
Anyone else have a similar work schedule and found something that works for them? Please don’t be an asshole, I am trying my best to figure out what I need to do.

I (M23) work 12hr shifts 7P-7A as a nurse(45min commute), I alternate between work schedules weekly.

For example

Week 1: Monday-Sunday I work every night except Wednesday and Thursday

Week 2: Monday-Sunday I am off everyday except Wednesday and Thursday

Keep in mind my first day off doesn’t really amount to much because I usually sleep from 8am-2pm bare minimum.

But I am struggling with how much custody to ask for with my son(2yo), I know for a fact I am able to commit to getting him on Friday around 3pm (remember I have to sleep after work) and won’t take him home until Monday morning at 8am because I’ll work that night. That is 6 overnights guaranteed a month.
Do I try to do more? I don’t know if I can realistically get him every single time I’m off work and it not affect my health in the long run, won’t I need time to take care of responsibilities when I am off work? My wife does not work, and she also has her parents to give her a break that live right next door to her. I feel like if I only do 6 days a month I’ll be a shitty person, one girl told me I want to “pencil him in when it’s convenient” which made me feel like shit.
I don’t know what to do, and everyone just seems interested in being an asshole to me about this(bitter women mostly) instead of offering any beneficial advice. I am a child of divorce since 6yo and my dad done every other weekend plus extra if I was out of school and we have an excellent relationship, are any of you guys struggling with something similar?

I (M23) am a nightshift nurse, I work 12hr shifts 7P-7A, my work schedule alternates by week but follows as:

(Set 1)
MONDAY - WORK
TUESDAY- WORK
WEDNESDAY- OFF
THURSDAY- OFF
FRIDAY- WORK
SATURDAY- WORK
SUNDAY- WORK

following week is

(Set 2)
MONDAY - OFF
TUESDAY- OFF
WEDNESDAY- WORK
THURSDAY- WORK
FRIDAY- OFF
SATURDAY- OFF
SUNDAY- OFF

Set 1 starts again

On the first day off I usually get home about 8am and sleep till 2pm. I feel like a piece of trash and a “part time dad” because all I feel like I can realistically commit to is every other weekend(6 overnights a month). I don’t know how I can realistically have my son every single time I am off work, without sacrificing my health. I know parenting comes with challenges and sacrifices, but is wrong if I occasionally have the ability to get my son during the week like on Tuesday and don’t? Is it wrong if I use that time to just relax or take care of something I need to do? It’s not that I will never get my son, but I can’t PROMISE that I’ll be able to. My wife does not work and her parents live right next door and watched my son frequently when my wife needs a break.

A girl told me that was basically an absent father and wanted to “pencil in” my son when it was convenient. My wife was physically abusive to me, mentally abusive too. I didn’t want my son to grow up seeing that so that’s why I had to leave, I thought I was doing the right thing. Am I a piece of shit? Is my sole reason for existing now to just work sleep besides keeping my son? Am I not allowed to ever want to be an individual or date in the future?

I have been diagnosed with PTSD, my relationship with her was very toxic. She hit me(weapons biting etc) and left scars, mentally FUCKED me up(working through it) and emotionally abused me too. Throughout the course of the relationship I eventually made some decisions I regret myself(no I didn’t cheat) but I owned them, she didn’t make me do anything, and I took action to better myself.

With all that being said, I have been away from her a month now and my dreams are extremely painful. I have had nightmares for years but this is brutal. They feel like I’m strapped into a rollercoaster and can’t leave till it’s over, it’s the same stuff over and over. Either we are getting back together in the dream but I (as in my irl self) don’t wanna, I can feel myself getting panicky while I am still asleep, I wake up all upset and shit. OR it’s extremely sexual dreams, the one I just woke up from was that we was having sex and she told me that I could continue to have sex with her even after the divorce because that’s what she wanted. It was so vivid, it has really bothered me. Anyone else experience this?