u/IllLandscape2719

Was scrolling in reddit today and saw a post from Alasjuicy. I was curious and decided to read it. OP posted about wanting to sleep with college girls since di sya nagka experience nung nasa college sya. Andami nagcomment na mga ibang pinoy na lalaki na sila rin, at mas madali na daw makakakuha once nasa 30s na sila at may pera. Seryoso taong 2026 na may naniniwala pa rin sa ganyan??

Naweirduhan rin ako sa isang nagcomment claiming na may harems daw ang older men, na masyado daw sadboi ang younger men, na once nasa 30s na daw sila don sila makakakuha ng maraming girls and need nila "magcompete" sa younger generation ng men.

This is just weird behavior para sakin. Kasi never ko nakita ang older women na nakipagcompete sa mas younger women for younger men. Nagcompete sa ibang bagay like career? yes. Tingin ko projection rin ng ibang lalaki kaya lagi nila sinasabi na selos ang older women sa younger women eh. While may nakikilala ako na bitchesa talaga na older women, marami rin naman ako kilala na naglolook out for younger women talaga. I say this as someone in her early twenties btw.

I decided to block that sub kasi parang puro kabastusan lang ata pinopost ng mga manyak don.

Someone posted here that they needed a team because they had been kicked out without explanation. I felt bad so I commented that she could join our team since there are only 2 of us anyway.

I added her and asked if she was willing to wait for a day to be accepted since our leader is offline. She said yes and also asked if her friend could join. I said sure why not. The next day I log in and our leader had transferred the leadership to me temporarily so I could accept the new girl into the team. I realize I can't accept her application because it says "she is already in a team".

I mail her and ask if she still wants to be on our team because it says she already has one. She mails back and says yes! she still wants to be on our team and she just left the team where she got accepted. Apparently, she had sent a few other random applications to other teams and she didn't realize she had been accepted.

I accept her and show her around our island, and explain what our theme is going to be, what we still need to build etc. I tell her she can build anytime she is free and just let us know if she needs help with anything.

A few days later, she leaves the team without explanation and removes me as her friend??? I am so mad rn because she didn't have the decency to explain why she left. I checked the same UID and apparently she also changed her name which I found extra odd.

I am just mad because during those few days I could have spent that time looking for a better teammate since we really needed an extra pair of help building and since we joined the event late. It would have been fine if she left but I felt like she could have at least told us beforehand.

I also checked the reddit post and her acct has been deleted? or she blocked me idk. Still weird behavuor.

Anyways Stella, I think I do know why you were kicked out of your previous team.

I have often noticed this. That whenever I am unemployed or going through family problems and seem to be down or going through something, thats when several of my friends avoid me. Ironically they come back when those said problems of mine get resolved or when I am dealing with things much better. Another friend of mine even said back then that she noticed I was much calmer now and more pleasant to be around. Yeah like no shit Zoe, I left my job where I was bullied and am on better terms with my family which is why I am calmer now.

It feels like people only want you when you are happy but not when you are sad. I try to limit my negativity and I have lessened my venting and ranting to my friends because I am well aware that affects them too and nobody wants to be around a gloomy person.

I think I manage better with that and I vent less to others now because I tend to think it through on my own first. But this is a pattern I notice in general.

Some of my friends avoid me for months when I am going through depression or when periods that my social anxiety worsens but when I am doing much better several months later, for example that one time that I finally found a job, thats when they approach me again and want to reconcile.

It makes me lose faith in people. Because I can count on 3 fingers, or less than, the people who did not leave me when I was on my hardest times.

I also notice that people will often avoid those who are depressed and just prefer to spend more time with people they are not necessarily close with "just for the vibes". It makes me feel sick that people dislike those who are obviously not doing well mentally or seem to be struggling while wanting to be around those who are already happy or successful.

Saw this tiktok of a fellow gen z girl in tiktok claim that "hating men" is also male centred. This annoyed me so much because feminism has always been silenced with jeers of being nothing but "man hating" and for "crazy ugly cat ladies who cannot get a man".

No babe, being mad and angry is what got women the right to vote, study, and work. Being angry about injustice is not the same as being male centred. It feels like projection and another way to silence criticism of misogyny. I am on tiktok often and I always see this argument used against criticism of men's misogynistic behaviors, along with the "not all men" and "men hating is bio essentialist".

Mind you when a serial killer rapes and murders primarly women or young girls they do not call him a female centred. He is simply called a serial killer. This applies for all rapists too and domestic abusers. No one calls them female centred. This feels like another argument used to derail the grievances and valid complaints women have regarding the patriarchy.

My sister (older sister in her 30s) has been dating online for a while now. She met this guy, who is so far, great. He shows interest in her and I have no complaints regarding him. Because he seems very sweet and decent compared to the last guy who ghosted her and treated her like shit.

She told me the guy was in the process of divorcing his wife, and that they have been separated for 9 months. They had an amicable separation and they have a 13 year old son. He says both the wife and son knows about my sister.

I have not told my sister that I am slightly worried about this, he seems a bit too good to be true, since I do want to support her.

Would you say that 9 months is too recent? How long, ideally, would be the appropriate time period to date divorced/separated men? I think 9 months is pretty long but they have been together for years.

I noticed that since most of my coworkers are older than me (in their 30s or 40s), I am one of the few younger employees (in their early to mid twenties), that I get tend to be put down or "negged" a lot. Like these coworkers will constantly bring up my age or how I am younger and that they cannot relate to "gen z". Which is annoying in my oponion. I find that younger people tend to not bring up age disparities in the workplace but older employees or coworkers will.

They always seem to imply that you know less, or that they are more mature simply because they are older.