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I’m fairly certain I’m aroace. 25F and never had a crush, masturbated as a teen but no urges once puberty ended.

It really bothers me though. I’m fine being single right now, but I’ve always wanted to have children someday, to start a family with someone. I get so jealous whenever I see happy couples. I know plenty of single people who are way happier than a lot of married folk I know, but it’s just always been one major ‘goal’ in life of mine.

Plus I worry about who I will live my life with once I loose my parents. I still live with them, not even able to move out if I wanted to due to my health issues. So living alone might not even be an option for me depending on my health when they pass/go into care. And as for parenting people say to just adopt and be a single mother, that is simply not an option for someone with a disability like mine.

I’m not saying it’s bad to be aroace, I just really wish I wasn’t.

ChatGPT really can be so useful, but I use it way too much. If I’m putting a post up on social media, writing a long message, trying to write a long, organised note for something, I let AI do it for me too often. I need to use my own brain ffs.

I feel like I’m finding it harder to think of what to write, think of the right word for something since I’ve been letting ChatGPT do it for me. I’m going to keep using it as a google alternative pretty much, but I need to stop letting it do my thinking for me.

Growing up I’ve always had the box room since I’m the only girl, hated it growing up but I’m 25 now and still living at home, bought myself loads of storage and organisation stuff. My cupboards and drawers all smartly organised. My rooms basically an IKEA showroom now 🤣

One brother’s moved out and the other might be off to university next year, so parents plan on swapping our rooms, giving me the bigger one since he won’t be here most the year. But that room contains huge wardrobes and cupboards storing everybody’s stuff. My dad’s tools, everyone’s winter coats, some camping stuff I think. Just a huge mess. Plus I’d constantly have people come into my room to get their stuff. I want my room to simply be my ‘space’.

And this has me wanting to remain in my tiny bedroom which I’ve put a lot of work into. It’s how tiny it is that makes me feel wrong staying, door doesn’t even fully open, hits the bed. But I’m more than happy simply sitting on my bed from the time I spend in my room.

Would anyone else be in a similar boat to me? Keep the tiny well organised room instead of the much bigger but disorganised room.

Growing up I’ve always had the box room since I’m the only girl, hated it growing up but I’m 25 now and still living at home, bought myself loads of storage and organisation stuff. My cupboards and drawers all smartly organised. My rooms basically an IKEA showroom now 🤣

One brother’s moved out and the other might be off to university next year, so parents plan on swapping our rooms, giving me the bigger one since he won’t be here most the year. But that room contains huge wardrobes and cupboards storing everybody’s stuff. My dad’s tools, everyone’s winter coats, some camping stuff I think. Just a huge mess. Plus I’d constantly have people come into my room to get their stuff. I want my room to simply be my ‘space’.

And this has me wanting to remain in my tiny bedroom which I’ve put a lot of work into. It’s how tiny it is that makes me feel wrong staying, door doesn’t even fully open, hits the bed. But I’m more than happy simply sitting on my bed from the time I spend in my room.

Would anyone else be in a similar boat to me? Keep the tiny well organised room instead of the much bigger but disorganised room.

I’ve been experiencing occasional dissociative episodes in the middle of the night for a while now, but I’m honestly not sure if they’re post ictal symptoms, or if it’s simply a dissociative episode that my body has ‘learned’ since I experienced severe episodes as a side effect of mirtazapine last year.

The other week I had an intense episode just before my nocturnal tonic clonic, truly awful symptoms of it lasted hours, and that’s made me wonder if these episodes are always from severe auras, however I have a motion camera which shows no physical symptoms before waking up. Plus I never feel this way after an aura during the day.

I always wait until the symptoms are severe to take a diazepam (2mg), but last night I woke up feeling slightly dazed, and within 5 minutes, whilst it was still mild I took one, because from experience I know until I take a pill it always worsens and I feel awful before long. But I know I shouldn’t unnecessarily take it, and maybe I should get out of bed and simply distract myself, it might just be the lack of distraction that leads me to feel anxious and worsen it. I only really wake up in the middle of the night when I experience these episodes, so I wonder they’re simply from feeling anxious and assuming I will feel this way.

And I just know diazepam is a strong medication, and I shouldn’t be taking it unnecessarily. I typically take them once every few months, but had one a few times last month.

Just started Clobazam a week ago, no seizures since starting when I usually have 3 a week, plus I’m sleeping better and improved mental health.

Just wondering how it’s worked for folk with drug resistant epilepsy? I’ve tried 11 medications now and several have worked well for a few months, then my epilepsy manages to show its face again, and I return to my usual seizure frequency.

Has the EpiCentr app on Apple Watch added tracking time as exercise minutes for anyone else? I’ll wake up and apparently I’ve exercised for 6 hours already today 🤣
Anyone found a way to stop it adding any tracking time as exercise?

I’m an adult daughter who accidentally overheard my parents having a serious conversation about their relationship/future. They clearly love each other, but they both have really struggled with their mental health across the years, and it seems they’re starting to feel overwhelmed, and it’s having an impact on their relationship. My mam has anxiety/PTSD stress, and my dad strongly relates to severe ADHD but isn’t diagnosed or treated. I don’t want to interfere or reveal I overheard, but I’m worried and want to know how to support them without putting myself in the middle.

I know no relationship is perfect, everyone has issues; it was a calm conversation I heard, no raised voices, I feel it’s likely closely related to my dads issues with providing emotional support due to his ADHD. They’ve just been through so much together, my dad was her carer for years, and she’s well now but I just don’t know what they would do without each other. I obviously have no place interfering with their relationship, but I just want to help them and both of their mental healths, but they do well at hiding their struggles, not wanting to burden me or my brothers with anything. Any time i ask either of them how they are, they always claim they’re doing great, but the little i hear of their private conversations (simply as i walk by the room, i don’t spy), it’s clear neither are doing well at all.

Has anyone dealt with similar scenarios and found a healthy, boundaried way to handle helping their parents with their struggles? They have done so much for me, I wish there was more I could do for them.

Christians regularly use the argument that god allows suffering and death throughout history because Adam and Eve ate the apple which he told them not to, but how is this a valid way to claim he is all loving, despite allowing so much pain?

I feel this can be compared to a school shooting. A boy is bullied by a handful of students, therefore to him the whole school deserves punishment, and he kills loads of his classmates.

I will finally admit it, I am an attention seeker, and too often I seek sympathetic attention. I have several health issues and as we all have I’ve been through plenty problems, and I talk about them too much. I’m ashamed to admit theres times i will only ring a loved one because i know they’ll ask how i am, and i can seek out their pity. I’ll also have general convo and ask how they are, but my goal of the call is a pity party for myself. I know it’s healthy to open up, but I know fine well i’m telling people out of pity seeking.

I was wondering if anyone has experienced episodes of severe derealisation after a seizure in their sleep? It must be a focal seizure because my night cam doesn’t capture any movement, I simply wake up and nothing feels real. They only ever happen at night, seizures during the day can make me feel a bit strange post ictal but never anything like this.

The main thing that makes me question if it’s my epilepsy or mental health is that they began after I’d increased the dose of an antidepressant (mirtazapine), happening almost every night, lasting days. And now that I’m off the medication and I’ve been prescribed diazepam as a rescue med, they’re very rare, and I wake up okay the next morning after taking a diazepam.

Until recently I’ve been calling them panic attacks, but as I think about it more, I feel the symptoms match a derealisation episode more.

Most the time they’re not too severe, but the other night it was awful. I had a tonic clonic during the episode which makes me it feel more likely epilepsy related. The tonic clonic isn’t what triggered it though.

TL:DR Has anyone experienced severe derealisation episodes after a nocturnal seizure, possibly triggered as a medication side effect, then it’s like my brain has learned how to have one. If they’re caused by a seizure it’s one without any physical symptoms, I’m simply sleeping if and when the focal seizure occurs.

Just wondering if anyone has experienced awful dissociative, anxious episodes at night, I’m assuming caused by a focal aware seizure in my sleep. I highly doubt it’s an ongoing seizure, since it’s the anxiously overthinking that make it worse, but I don’t know if it could be a seizure in my sleep causing this post ictal symptom, or if I’m just waking up feeling weird. It’s awful, lasts for hours, only manage to cut it short when I take a diazepam. Obviously only take it when it’s getting really bad. Feels similar to a panic attack.

Not 100% sure it’s even my epilepsy causing this, might just be my mental health, but has anyone experienced this as a post ictal symptom, and found any useful ways to feel normal again. Only ever happens at night, causes anxiety when I think about it during the day, but only gets really bad when I wake up in the middle of the night feeling that way.

I've been considering a career in Occupational Therapy, and was wondering if anyone here works as an OT, and how their experience has been working with uncontrolled seizures? Suitable safety plans/reasonable adjustments easy to get sorted? Did getting a job feel more difficult? Found ways to work around any memory issues you experience?

Or even just anyone here in the UK working any role within the NHS, have they been supportive and helped build a safe and suitable workplace for you?

I don't have a degree in it or any health related fields yet, simply exploring possible careers.