u/Intelligent_Aside750

I graduated in 2024, and my ex-bf and I are from the same college. After graduation, I started preparing for bank exams, and he started preparing for CA. It has been almost 2 years, but unfortunately, I haven’t cleared even a single prelims exam, and he hasn’t cleared even one group of CA Intermediate. We both are trying, but somewhere we feel stuck. During our relationship, we used to fight a lot. I decided to break up not because I hate him or because I don’t care about him, but because I want both of us to grow if not together, then individually. I feel we are not compatible because our fights were affecting both of us. It has been a month since the breakup.

Now, my ex texted me saying that he can’t focus on his studies without me and that he can’t live without me. I still care about him, but I don’t know what to do. I told him that he should focus on his studies, and if we are truly meant to be, we will find our way back to each other. But he says he needs me to study and move forward. I don’t want to hurt him, but I also don’t want both of us to stay stuck because of our relationship.

One more thing I want to add this is not the first time he has said these things. Every time we broke up before, he said that he couldn’t live without me and that he would change. Those breakups never lasted more than a month because I always gave another chance, hoping that things would improve and the fights would stop.

But unfortunately, the same patterns kept repeating. This time, I decided to stay apart because I feel we both need time to grow individually and work on ourselves.

What should I do? Should I give him another chance, or should I maintain distance and let both of us focus on our own lives?

I have noticed a pattern with two people in my life (one is someone I was in a situationship with for about a year, and the other is my ex who I broke up with a month ago). When things are good, they are really kind and caring. But whenever I bring up something that hurt me or something I feel they should improve, the conversation turns into them defending themselves. For example, if I say "you didn't do this" or "I felt bad because of this", instead of discussing it, they reply with "you also don't do this" or bring up my mistakes. It feels like they are trying to prove they are not wrong rather than understanding what I am saying. From my side, I feel like I am not trying to argue, I am just expressing a need or asking for something. But they see it as me starting an argument. Because I have experienced this with two people, I am wondering if the common factor is me. Am I communicating badly, expecting too much??

I’m posting on behalf of a friend because she’s really stressed and doesn’t know what to do.

She dated a guy a few years ago, but the relationship ended because he was very controlling, possessive, and dominant. They broke up around 3–4 years ago, yet he still hasn’t completely moved on.

They are from the same town and are also distant relatives, which makes the situation more complicated. Even after all these years, he keeps stalking her on social media from time to time. He also tells lies about their​ relationship to her friends, cousins, and other people they know.

The biggest problem is that my friend is terrified that details about the relationship could reach her family. Her family is not very understanding or supportive when it comes to relationships, and she feels that if they found out, she would be blamed far more than her ex. She's also worried about relatives gossiping and judging her.

She feels trapped because she can't openly talk to her family about it, and she doesn't know how to stop her ex from spreading rumors and involving other people.

Has anyone dealt with something similar? How can she protect herself and deal with someone who keeps bringing up a relationship that ended years ago? Any advice would be appreciated.

I’m posting on behalf of a friend because she’s really stressed and doesn’t know what to do.

She dated a guy a few years ago, but the relationship ended because he was very controlling, possessive, and dominant. They broke up around 3–4 years ago, yet he still hasn’t completely moved on.

They are from the same town and are also distant relatives, which makes the situation more complicated. Even after all these years, he keeps stalking her on social media from time to time. He also tells lies about their​ relationship to her friends, cousins, and other people they know.

The biggest problem is that my friend is terrified that details about the relationship could reach her family. Her family is not very understanding or supportive when it comes to relationships, and she feels that if they found out, she would be blamed far more than her ex. She's also worried about relatives gossiping and judging her.

She feels trapped because she can't openly talk to her family about it, and she doesn't know how to stop her ex from spreading rumors and involving other people.

Has anyone dealt with something similar? How can she protect herself and deal with someone who keeps bringing up a relationship that ended years ago? Any advice would be appreciated.

What’s your daily screen time and how many hours do you study?I always feel like my screen time is way higher than my productive hours, so I’m curious about others too. And how do you stay focused without getting distracted by your phone?How people balance studies and phone usage.

can we trust people here to date..not like casual one ....a serious relationship..I am not looking for anyone...only want to know what are your opinions on this.