u/Intelligent_Boot6068

Hey everyone! I'm 21 female in the southeast WI area and looking for some like-minded friends both in person and online. I'm into fireworks, motorcycles, airplanes and vintage style. I own a 1929 Ford that I love taking to local car shows. I'm an artist and professional musician, blue collar 9-5. I like to go ice skating in the winter and love learning languages and writing. I'm a big fan of kitties and other people's dogs 😅

Hey everyone 🙂 I'm new to the whole asexual community and a bit curious about some things. So to begin, most of my life growing up was very sheltered from sexualities other than heterosexual and other orientations. My parents are very religious and don't believe that other orientations besides heterosexual are right, though they acknowledge that they exist. I just was never immersed in them, or felt the need to explore them until recently.

I'm 21 now and have been realizing how closely I identify with asexuality. I've had a few boyfriends since I was about 16, but only went all the way with one of them, and it was indeed coerced. I just never felt the want or need for sex, or thought it was a vital part of a relationship. It just doesn't interest me. However, I am completely at ease with making flirty and suggestive comments and jokes to my boyfriend or very close friends, and that leads them to believe that I am as interested in sex as they are.

I guess my main questions are these--

How do you navigate being in a relationship with a non-asexual person? I feel like that could be such a recipe for cheating (not on my part), resentment and frustration.

Is it easier to be in a relationship with two asexual people vs just one half being ace?

Is it something that should be addressed right off the bat when entertaining the idea of dating someone? It doesn't even cross my mind on a first date bc, well, sex just doesn't really cross my mind ever😅

Are there good places to meet other people of like mindedness to form relationships and make good friends?

Sorry if any of this comes off as ignorant or offensive in any way, that's not at all what I intend! I'm just super new to all of this and not sure about how anything is talked about here. Thanks!!

Hey everyone. I'm a competitive dancer and performer, and trying to find a specific type of hardshoes. If anyone remembers the 1990s Riverdance production, the lead dancers wore hardshoes that I think had metal covers on the heels at least, and possibly metal plates on the toe block. I think a more recent comparison would be the Gardiner brothers, they have them. Does anyone know where I can find them, or are they custom? Any tips would be much appreciated as I've been looking for these for a while. Thanks!

TL;DR: an event I love with a passion and have for years now seems like a thing I am dreading because my grandfather plans to go too, and I feel like an absolute jerk.

I, 21F, have a great affinity for vintage cars, vehicles and eras. I was raised into that world mostly by my grandfather, 70M. I own my own vintage car and am proud of it, and take it to all the car shows I can. I always went with my grandfather growing up, and it was a major highlight of my childhood.

Several years ago, my grandfather developed severe issues linked to his diabetes which has resulted in several heart attacks, strokes and amputations, leaving him without much balance, stamina or dexterity. It has become stressful and anxiety-inducing to go anywhere with him as he can hardly walk or stand up on his own, refuses to use a wheelchair and falls constantly. I am 5'2". He is over 6'2" and over 200 pounds.

One of my favorite events of the year is coming up, and I planned to take my car. He plans to take his, and now I don't want to go anymore. Having to constantly look after him to make sure he doesn't fall or hurt himself has taken the joy and anticipation out of anything surrounding my passion and hobby, because it was his passion first, and he still wants to live in it. I'm watching him literally fade away before my eyes but he still wants to do all these things he used to, and it leaves nothing but stress and anxiety for me, who has to take on all the supervision. It hurts like you wouldn't believe to watch this happen, and I'm afraid of becoming resentful.

My problem is this-- if I don't go, he can't go, because he needs someone there with him. I have been to *countless* events with him while he has been in need of help, so in case anyone thinks this is a one-off thing and that I never help--you'd be wrong.

I want him to be able to be happy and do the things he loves--but he can't without help, and I don't feel like I can enjoy myself while trying to literally make sure he doesn't fatally injure himself, and I don't even feel like I *could* help if he were to fall. But if I don't go, he can't. My parents say I should go and just keep an eye on him, but that's never how it works.

Let me clarify -- I know he doesn't have much time left and I know that once he's gone I'm going to want nothing more than to have him with me. But I don't even think it's as good for him anymore. He always was the type to do everything himself, so having to rely on his 125 pound granddaughter has got to be hard. Other than my even smaller sister, no one else in my family really cares about this hobby, so they don't go.

So am I as selfish as I feel for this? Am I the jerk for deciding not to go?

Reddit, I am in need of your help. I, 24/F, have a date tonight with an old friend, 27/M, who I have been going out with for a little bit now, about two and a half weeks. We've gone out together probably five or six times already, and I am wondering when I should bring up a sensitive topic regarding my body and personal history. I had a period when I was in my mid teens where I made a mess of the skin on my stomach due to some unfortunate choices. I am no longer in that dark place, but it's now an ugly mess of sc@rs, and I feel like that's something that should be brought up with someone who may see it before seeing it happens, so it's not a shock or off-putting.

Do I bring it up tonight or wait a bit longer, and how do I explain it without it sounding like trauma dumping?