u/InternationalPush723

Everyone says ISFPs are idealistic…but I’m the most nihilistic realist you’ll ever meet. I’m prone to episodes of nihilism and nihilism comforts me. I don’t feel the need to justify why I feel comforted by nihilism. Or perhaps you could call it absurdism. Either way I’m not…idealistic. I believe people can be blinded by idealism that they forget the reality that’s in front of them. I also think that idealism can lead people to not holding others accountable- if someone does something completely out of line they find a way to justify it or make it seem like they’re not a bad person. Or imagining the world as a utopia where people can do no wrong. Reframing things like murder and lying or any immoral acts as “well maybe they did it for a valid reason” or whatever. Believing everyone is good and wishing the world was a utopia but that just isn’t possible. That doesn’t mean you can’t do good things for others. Just don’t be blinded by idealism.

My cousin said to me he believes in idealism which is the idea that life will eventually get better…but that’s just realistic thinking to me? Not idealism. More like realistic optimism.

Avril Lavigne is obviously an ISFP…but I saw someone say she’s an INFJ. Genuinely what content these people watch that makes them think Se doms/Se aux are INFJs?

As we know I’m an ISFP and autistic + ADHD on top of that so I am very protective of my personal space. But my parents (who are ESFJ and ISFJ, high Fe users) don’t respect my boundaries when I have my headphones in- it just reeks of such entitlement, lack of manners and lack of basic respect to me. They want 24/7 access to me, and will try to get into my space, even if I have a neon red Do Not Disturb sign plastered on my face. I was thinking that a closed door and headphones indicated that someone is unavailable, but to my family boundaries are optional, negotiable, or simply don’t exist.
Like, forgive me for assuming that headphones = I’m in the zone, do not disturb

Why do Fe users not understand that I don’t want to talk and interact 24/7? They don’t even acknowledge the fact that I am neurodivergent and certain things that they don’t think twice about cause me straight up agony. For a type that is supposed to be “accommodating” or whatever idk my family surely override every one of my needs when it inconveniences them or doesn’t benefit them (things like my privacy and personal space and sensory issues)

And emotional blackmail and guilt tripping is embedded into their DNA. They constantly use the “but we’re your parents, why do you need space from us? Do you hate your family? Why do you hate your parents so much?! We only do this because we love you” and start crying in order to make me feel bad for having needs

Also Slipknot is awesome. Just saying…😋

Pretty sure Corey Taylor is an ESTP at least that’s what PDB says

Imo the lyrics on their songs are VERY STP coded!

What kind of rock and metal bands do you people like?

I know she's most likely an ENFP, but a lot of her lyrics are very Se-heavy to me...maybe I am biased and saying this because I feel seen by Paramore/Hayley Williams songs, so I am not the person who would have a good reading on her type LOL. Hayley is a source of comfort and acts as a mirror for me. Perhaps it's the shared Fi. Maybe Se artists' lyrics and Ne artists' lyrics are not that different on the surface. Or maybe it's because high Ne types are able to take on multiple different views/show themselves as various personas or characters in their art

I think many ISFPs tend to overly rely on their Fi and Ni or have Fi-Ni loops. For whatever reason. On the other hand, I barely use my Ni lol. It only comes out when I’m talking philosophical stuff. But I can only talk about philosophical things so much before I explode. When my cousins or a friend asks me deep questions about the future, my life’s purpose, or my plans for the next 20 years I legit don’t know how to answer. Hell, my “philosophical musings” are VERY Se heavy, there’s a minuscule amount of Ni. I find myself relying on my Se a lot, and I love leaning into it.

Just wanted to say y’all are some of the coolest people I’ve ever met. If you need someone to talk to about anything, I’m totally down, nothing is too weird or off limits for me.

I could really use some insights and advice from an estp too

I could really use some insights and advice from an estp too

Because I have no Fe yet my experiences with bullying and neurodivergence and family issues as a kid really make me look like an XXFJ sometimes, such as RSD, which is really just my brain chemistry LOL. People with ADHD tend to be sensitive to rejection to an extreme level and can be any type.

I’m autistic and ADHD, I am more inclined towards “bromances” and hanging out with dudes at the gym than going out for girls nights LOL, I don’t ever get invited to girls night. I don’t have any female friends, for some reason it’s harder to make friends with fellow women:( nothing against anyone, my brain is just wired a certain way.

I’m so in love with entps. Like I could talk to an entp for hours and still find a way to be entertained by them, y’all are very versatile and interesting people. I feel like isfp and entp is an underrated bromance dynamic

I believe most of my habits and behaviors that read as Fe are 99% ADHD or autism LOL

So I am insecure and generally don’t have a good image of myself, I view myself as a dumb, stupid, defective, subpar human being, a totally incapable and incompetent incel who doesn’t even know 2+2 because I’m that much of a loser. (Even though everyone around me says I’m incredibly smart and capable and skilled at many things). So because I feel this way about myself no matter how far it is from the truth, whatever anyone says- any feedback, any advice, hell- even them talking about their life and their plans and asking me about mine blah blah whatever- you get the gist. I instantly get defensive, I start to get all tight and small internally, I think they’re judging me, I think they’re thinking “ew she’s stupid and I’m SO MUCH BETTER THAN HER LMAO” I think they’re judging me the way I so cruelly and callously judge myself.
I know this is completely illogical and nonsensical and yeah I am intelligent and talented you could say. Deep down I know I’m better than the words I describe myself to be, but it’s a long journey. I’m actively trying to be kinder to myself and not take peoples’ harmless words as anything more. Most of the time people are just stating facts about their lives, are well aware that not everyone is on the same path as them, and are genuinely curious as to what you’re up to.

Like I’m not a people pleaser or anything and I don’t let rejection ruin my life but I perceive the most unimportant, minor things as “oh this person hates my guts” and then I ask people I care about if they’re mad at me or if I did something wrong or if they still want me in their life. Even if they say nothing’s wrong and everything is all good I still make it hard for them by continuing to ask questions as if I’m testing them until I get the answer I want and I don’t ever get the answer I want because I’ll find a way to interpret everything as them hating my guts and wanting me dead lmao.

For me it’s kind of like- I’m unsatisfied with the relationships I have currently, especially with my family. I feel alone in my own home because I don’t bond well with my family and there’s alot of conflict. They have very clashing values and I don’t feel much connection, respect or consideration at home. I really want to make new friends because I’m bored and need homies to entertain me.