I’ve not seen my family in nearly 10 years, they were extremely emotionally abusive and controlling. I had to literally escape from them and do whatever I could to keep them from always finding out where I was, they’ve called numbers they weren’t suppose to know I had, they showed up at addresses they didn’t know I lived at and I had to call the cops to get them to leave. They last time I heard anything from them was right after Covid lockdown when they filed a missing persons report on me and I had to spend 3 hours on the phone with the police telling them I was ok and I wanted nothing to do with my family.
About 3 years ago, I moved as far away as I could afford, and it took all 3 years but I’ve finally started to get my life back together. I started talking to a therapist, I am starting to get my anxiety and depression under control, I have a good job, I got rid of bad influences in my life, things are actually starting to look good again. A couple months back I get an email from one of my uncles (I don’t speak to anyone in my family.) It was on an older email, I wasn’t too worried but I still hadn’t heard from him in years. Then yesterday, I went out to check the mail and there was a letter that had my parents return address on it. I spent most of the day half way freaking out feeling sick. They aren’t suppose to know I’m even here. I ended up sending it back saying that name doesn’t live at this address after I talked to my therapist.
I don’t want to see them again, I don’t want to listen to them, I don’t want them trying to control me again. I’m finally back in a place mentally that I enjoy playing music again, that I feel like I don’t always need to be doing something else. I am happier without them and I’m just afraid of losing all things I worked for, the things they had nothing to do with, that they can’t control. I decide for myself, they don’t control me.