u/Joe-Schmoe9

I’m 31m and have a lot of anxiety stemming from CPTSD. That being said I’ve never been a clencher or grinder.

I have right side neck and back pain due to asymmetries i am working through.

I take magnesium and melatonin and that’s it.

I have hemochromatosis and I suspect, hypermobility.

Other than that.. fairly average person. I do have a hyper vigilant nervous system from the trauma , working on it.

I went through a really hard break up recently and my insecurities started flying. I saw videos on mewing and I tried it. But I think I was forcing my tongue up very hard for 3-4 days total. This was about a month ago.

I stopped , however during and after this time I started noticing my front teeth, or more specifically two teeth kept clashing. In my anxious state I was unsure “has this always been this way, is it normal?”

I still don’t know the answer. I saw a dentist who did a bite paper test and basically said I could get Invisalign. But in 31 years I’ve had the same teeth and unless I moved them from 3-4 days mewing, I can’t see how that’s the solution.

Some info: I wake up feeling my jaw is more forward and if I shut my teeth it’s from the front.

If I let my jaw hang without tension, it seems to swing slightly to the left (which is the side the teeth hit on)

My right side jaw muscles do hurt and I’m getting some clicking now.

Please advise what to do. This started about a month ago, I’m nervous to develop real TMJ issues and/or break a tooth.

Is there a specific specialist I should see? Does this simply happen and I just need to stop focusing on it and let it rest? I’m nervous I’ve messed up my joint . I feel as if my jaw went back to normal my teeth would stop clashing. I can close my back teeth with space on the front , I don’t feel like I should need corrections.

I am also very nervous about a bite guard. I am hypermobile and read they can mess up your teeth.

Any help appreciated.

TLDR: please suggest a wash, moisturizer , and daily spf that hopefully won’t sting my eyes, and will protect well against UVA. Bonus points for a SPF to use at the lake/running. I have dry eye disease and so it’s also really important that none of these products are harsh on the eyes/meibomian glands, and I also believe I have seb derm so ideally it’s compatible with not making that any worse. Big flakes in my beard and sometimes next to my nose becomes raw and scaly.

I’m looking to take good care of my skin. I’m going through a lot of mental health troubles right now, making it harder than ever to decide what to buy. Some say cerave is good, others say you should have dedicated spf, others say you actually need a European brand for UVA protection (???? Have I been aging my skin like crazy using US products my whole life??)

I’m 31m and I believe I have EDS(hyper-mobility) and my eye skin is super sunken and purple. I have seb derm I believe which makes me feel like I don’t know what products to buy. I don’t know my skin type, my nose seems oily but the rest of my skin doesn’t really.

Anyway I’m feeling overwhelmed. I started doing research and apparently, spf+ moisturizer isn’t great? I have been using cerave moisturizer+spf for my face. I want something that’s really good at preventing aging, and won’t mess with my sensitive skin, and won’t cause problems with seb derm.

I am looking to see a dermatologist for the skin condition but I’ve already been to one and they were useless and next appt is months away.

I’m also unsure if my vanicream gentle cleanser is good? I guess I’m just second guessing everything.

I ALSO need something (if the daily spf isn’t the best fit for this) that will be water and sweat resistant , I spend a lot of time running and at the lake.

And finally, if I’m using dedicated SPF, idk what to do to moisturize/hydrate my skin. I don’t know how to tell what I need. I don’t really know if my skin is hydrated or whatever.

Anyway. Any help is appreciated .

Hey fellas. 31M. Long story but I started dating a wonderful girl in October of 2024.

I had just been through a rough breakup but thought I was ready to move on. Shortly after, my ex took my dog via legal threats, and my whole life collapsed.

I developed bad health anxiety, stomach troubles, jolting awake from insomnia and much more. I kept the dating casual as I kept making sure she knew I wasn’t really ready to fully commit, but we both really loved talking and spending time together.

After about a year, I realized I felt like I was stringing this wonderful woman along and I asked her to be mine. She said yes, and I was so happy.

I continued to struggle with my mental health, but she was so understanding and loving. We kind of never fully started spending a ton of time together though, she’s not much of a tester and she seemed happy with this. To the point more recently we had discussed moving in together (5 or so months ago).

This is where things got not perfect. She went through a tough time at work with increased responsibilities, and at the same time she needed to start helping her sister with her newborn and with it being winter she kind of seemed to change from this very excited happy woman who everything rolled off, to life hitting her kinda hard. She seemed to just want some space, and she had been so understanding of me and trusting that I wanted to honor that and not smother her. I can vent quite a lot, and I asked her if she felt I was weighing her down whatsoever, and she said no it’s her dad, the job, etc.

Fast forward a few months, things are going well, and I get laid off. This is where my mental health took a serious toll. I felt the intimacy and passion dropping. I was kinda hyper focused on a diet and also trying to improve my memory and because she’s a rambler it was really tough to just be present as I have trouble following her stories if I try to remember them.

I also struggle with porn and food addiction so I felt myself falling into those habits and when I watch a lot of porn I become a shell of a person. I believe she really felt this difference and we just weren’t connecting like we used to.

Anyway, fast forward a little more, and a lot of my issues have improved, I have a good woman, I’m excited to move in with her and get my life together. I decide I’m done not facing my struggles and self sabotaging and I want to make sure she knows how much she means to me as I feel I’ve been somewhat distant in a way. A few times I had a hard time getting it up, too.

I shared this with her one day when I made her dinner and we had margs and it was a great night. I opened up and told her I think my chronic masturbation was affecting me and that it wasn’t fair to her. She understood and seemed optimistic.

Back to deciding I’m done being in this pit. I go get her some flowers and write her a nice letter about how grateful I am for her, and how I’m ready to really dive in fully with her. I apologize for not showing enough gratefulness for such a wonderful woman to enter my life.

Well that night, she comes over and before I can say anything, she asks me to sit down and breaks up with me.

Her reasoning was along the lines of it started to feel one sided and heavy and it just never evolved into the easy smooth relationship she was hoping for, which is what I want to really make happen. She mentioned the winter when she was struggling with her own mental health and says she’s been feeling it since then.

I tried to talk to her and she said she’s not going to change her mind. After about an hour she was getting annoyed and wanted to leave and I haven’t spoken to her in about a day, since.

I know this is a lot, however i just truly believe this is more of a miscommunication and something that can be worked through. We never fought ever. We share all the same ideals down to every detail, we can talk for ages, etc. for a couple months though, it didn’t feel like that as much.

I want to try to talk to her again, explain that I just needed a kick in the ass and that a lot of this is misunderstanding. I thought she wanted some space and I wanted to honor that and not be needy. I love her so much, I’m absolutely devastated. I’ve never been excited to be a father before this woman.

I want to call her in a week or something so bad. I just don’t know what to do. I know that rarely works, but I just feel like we are throwing away something really wonderful, it just had a hiccup. I know her feelings are valid and I wish I had realized these things on my own. Obviously there is more to the story but hopefully you get the idea.

What the fuck do I do.