u/Judith67617

i’m not saying you have to like kids. but holy fuck the amount of videos i keep getting of kids just being kids in public (im not talking about poorly raised ones) being filmed and then filming their dog and being like “oh look how good my 15kg drooling dog is in comparison ☺️” is crazy to me.
the last one i saw was of a little girl laughing in the train, seriously how is your first thought to pull your phone out and record a complete stranger let alone a child to post online and get approval from random people online?

i’ve seen so many tiktok videos lately asking women why they shave, whether they realize that it’s a beauty standard qnd whether they’ve ever thought about what they would do if they had never been taught that body hair on women is “dirty” or that being unshaven is unattractive.
and they get so mad. they get so heated because, deep down they know. but somehow, they get angry at us when we try to tell them that it’s okay not to shave, and then tell us that body hair is disgusting.
is it really that hard to understand?
i mean you can shave all you want. you’re completely free to do so, im not holding you at gunpoint. but why does no one seem to want to question why they do it?
they often say “it’s what makes me feel beautiful” “i do it for myself.” but why does what makes you feel beautiful happen to be the beauty standard?
do you do it for yourself when the vast majority of women i know only shave the small visible parts of their skin when they’re wearing long pants during winter? do you do it for yourself even when you complain about razor bumps, irritation, ingrown hairs…?
why is asking women to think about where that preference comes from treated as such a personal attack? it’s upsetting how we can’t feel comfortable in our own skin

they have never been for me.
being in a relationship makes me feel trapped, I start feeling like I owe someone an explanation for everything I do. If I do not feel like hanging out, I feel like I have to explain why. If I want to spend the day alone, I feel guilty about it. If I do not reply for a while, I feel like I am supposed to explain myself yadayadayada, basically it starts feeling like my independence is no longer completely mine.
it’s the expectation of having to be in constant contact that i find exhausting.
i have tried talking about this with my friends, but they do not really understand where I am coming from and of some og them have even called me selfish indirectly, which I guess I can understand because from the outside it probably does sound selfish, but that’s why i’m staying single, so that i’m not hurting a potential partner that way. Or
that i will change my mind, because i “can’t spend the rest of my life alone” i have friends, family, hobbies, a job, independence, im not alone.
and i couldn’t be happier to do whatever i want, whenever i want, and by myself. i finish law school in a year and i can’t wait for what the future has in store for me

i’m not saying being an introvert means you’re incapable of being in a relationship, but this is my first relationship and i’m starting to wonder if i’m just not built for one.
the first few months were great because we only saw each other about once a week since we were both busy with college. now that we’re on summer break they want to call every day and see each other multiple times a week and i just can’t handle it. i’ve tried explaining that i need a lot of time to myself, but i don’t think they really understand. i don’t blame them because i know it’s normal to want to spend a lot of time with your partner. i’m just not wired that way. if anything the more time we spend together the more overwhelmed i feel.
we’re currently taking a break, and honestly i feel so much better. i feel guilty admitting that, but it’s true.
does anyone else experience this? if you do how do you deal with it? i genuinely feel like if this relationship ends i probably won’t get into another one because i enjoy being alone so much, and i don’t want to be selfish

Im in my 20s and i’ve had boyfriends before but i’ve never slept with any of them

That being bluntly said ive always thought i was straight. i never really questioned it growing up, i just assumed i liked guys because that’s what felt normal and expected. it wasn’t until i actually started dating that i started questioning things.
For example whenever things started getting physical and they’d move their hand down there or try to take things further, i’d freak the fuck out. when i was by myself i’d think about it and convince myself i was ready, but when the moment actually came i’d always stop it.

And it wasn’t even just sex. i started realizing i didn’t really want a lot of the “normal relationship” stuff with them either. i liked having a boyfriend in theory and i liked the guys themselves, but a lot of the time when it came to actually being in the relationship, something felt off and i couldn’t figure out why. i could do pecks yeah but i didn’t FEEL like doing more than that, id be completely okay with never touching him or hin never touching me.
and for a long time i thought it was just nerves but now i’m not so sure because i genuinely don’t think i wanted it. i remember one time after a boyfriend left i sat there thinking that if he had been a woman i probably would’ve gone through with it.
the thing that’s confusing me is that i did think i liked those guys. i had crushes on them. they made me nervous. i liked spending time with them. but i never wanted more than being with them, this is gonna sound stupid but cuddling was whatever to me, i didn’t really mind that either

i’ve never actually been with a woman though, only men, so i keep second guessing myself. i don’t know if i liked those guys romantically but not sexually, or if i was forcing something, or what. Because i did crush on them i guess i did enjoy being around them but i don’t know if i just liked their company and wanted a friendship or just a relationship because that’s what was expected of me.

i also feel guilty in relationships with men (obviously) because i know i’m not giving them what they want and it doesn’t feel fair, so i stopped dating. but at the same time i’m scared to try dating women in case the same thing happens and im just unable to love at all.

And i know the answer is probably obvious but i needef to get this off my chest because i haven’t told anyone and i just do not want to miss out on actual desire

i keep having this thought that maybe if the guys i liked had been women everything would’ve felt right

Is anyone else having issues with this? i got an update this morning and after updating i can not exit the spirit box, open journal, move… Only option is wait for the ghost to kill me or exit the game.

not sure if this is a dumb question, I’m bisexual, and i’ve spent a long time not really being open or thinking about it and have some questions.
but does anyone else have completely opposite types when it comes to men and women?
I’ve never been attracted to blonde men with light colored eyes. I usually go for brunettes with darker eyes, like james franco in terms of looks.
but when it comes to women it’s the exact opposite. I’m much more attracted to blondes with light eyes. Emily Armstrong is a perfect example of my type.
Just wondering if this is common?

hellooo I’m looking for some WLW romance recommendations and would really appreciate recs. 🩷

what I’m looking for:

WLW romance

masc x femme dynamic preferred (not a dealbreaker tho)

first-person POV

modern day setting (no fantasy or historical)

aand no dark romance

i read inside her and loved it, i liked how her self acceptance journey and the past with her bf.

Also really liked tryst six venom although id prefer if they were actual adults.

i also tried make room for love and i actually liked the plot, but I realized i didn’t enjoy it being in third person as much because I don’t get as immersed in the story that way. please don’t judge me for that

i’m so sorry if it’s too specific but i’ve looked all over tiktok and can’t find anything!! 😓😓