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I got married recently Alhamdullilah and before marriage it was so easy to say I will not fall into the ungratefulness of the husband that leads a lot of us sisters in hellfire. And im also realizing more and more how prevalent this disease of the heart is in our society. Not saying all, this is not a hate post for sisters- I am a sister. In realizing how rare it is for a woman to reach that level of contentment, most the woman I’ve seen in this area are older in life and HAD to put in the work to get there. I believe sisters will truly never be fully satisfied with every part of their husbands I mean naturally no one is perfect. Because of this it’s upon us to be more accepting of our husbands small flaws ( that we magnify) so what is the work that needs to be put in because I believe it’s one of the greatest tests for us sisters especially wives and I really need assistance on how to work on this- JazakAllahu khair. May Allah reward you all.

I got married recently Alhamdullilah and before marriage it was so easy to say I will not fall into the ungratefulness of the husband that leads a lot of us sisters in hellfire. And im also realizing more and more how prevalent this disease of the heart is in our society. Not saying all, this is not a hate post for sisters- I am a sister. In realizing how rare it is for a woman to reach that level of contentment, most the woman I’ve seen in this area are older in life and HAD to put in the work to get there. I believe sisters will truly never be fully satisfied with every part of their husbands I mean naturally no one is perfect. Because of this it’s upon us to be more accepting of our husbands small flaws ( that we magnify) so what is the work that needs to be put in because I believe it’s one of the greatest tests for us sisters especially wives and I really need assistance on how to work on this- JazakAllahu khair. May Allah reward you all.

I got married recently Alhamdullilah and before marriage it was so easy to say I will not fall into the ungratefulness of the husband that leads a lot of us sisters in hellfire. And im also realizing more and more how prevalent this disease of the heart is in our society. Not saying all, this is not a hate post for sisters- I am a sister. In realizing how rare it is for a woman to reach that level of contentment, most the woman I’ve seen in this area are older in life and HAD to put in the work to get there. I believe sisters will truly never be fully satisfied with every part of their husbands I mean naturally no one is perfect. Because of this it’s upon us to be more accepting of our husbands small flaws ( that we magnify) so what is the work that needs to be put in because I believe it’s one of the greatest tests for us sisters especially wives and I really need assistance on how to work on this- JazakAllahu khair. May Allah reward you all.

Got new niqabs and the forehead part is hard like cardboard I don’t want to wait so long for it to loosen. Anyone have any advice?

Bismillah, Alhamdulillah
I was sitting and reflecting about the recent events that have happened in my life. A year ago I was in a state of iman I was so proud of. Once I reached my peak though I was brought completely down. I felt so low, so disconnected and over time the more I spent feeling that agonizing pain of distance from Allah-
I got so desperate for Allah.

I Alhamdulillah was blessed by Allah the opportunity to make umrah this past week. During the first few days all I thought about was “I wish this duaa was answered sooner” I wish I could do this umrah when I was in higher iman, when my Ibada was stronger, when I could stand longer on my feet without it feeling so heavy.

But as I did my last umrah of the trip Alhamdulillah I realized something. Over the span of these few days I became so desperate that I made duaa and spoke to Allah in ways i hadn’t in a while. I felt the loss and came back to Allah stronger than I could’ve done a year ago. A year ago if I did this umrah- my duaa would be short, I would feel “safe” in my state thinking nothing can knock me off my rhythm. But Allah chose right for me as he always does and he knew I would call upon him more now than I would’ve then.

My point is not have low iman so you can be more desperate. It’s understanding that Allahs timing for us is never for nothing. The lows are always a means for better connection later, a delay is always for better results later, and low iman doesn’t mean Allah has given up on you maybe it means he wants you to call upon him harder so he can answer you more. Allahuakbar.

May Allah keep us firm on desperation for Allahs love and always be striving in any way we can because Allah is Al shakoor and appreciates all we do.

And just a side piece- I was watching the street from my room and was overcome by a feeling of bittersweet grief. Happy I’m here, sad I’m leaving, wishing I took advantage more a few days ago but I stopped myself and realized one more thing. Allah knew the last day would hit the hardest for me- saying goodbye, and if I felt this a few days ago I would procrastinate the reflection of missing it all. So he chose now and I’m so happy with Allahs timing.

Im staying in new Cairo city and am looking to get clothes from areas around - places like city center is eh but I don’t want to come from American prices to more American prices. What are the more affordable places ( where locals usually shop) where I can get abayas, hijabs, and just good quality cute clothes but like many options around not just like one stand alone store because that’s too much of a risk if I don’t find anything yk.

There was this one area I went to a few years back where it was like outdoor and many shops lined up and down a street- maybe near a place called Al montazah? ( that’s what it said on the address on the pic i remember taking around that area)

Thanks!

If you have any duaa requests please write them down below.

The Prophet ﷺ said:

“There is no Muslim servant who supplicates for his brother behind his back except that the angel says: ‘Āmīn, and for you the same.’”

“The supplication of a Muslim for his brother in his absence is answered. At his head is an angel appointed; every time he makes a supplication for good for his brother, the angel appointed over him says: ‘Āmīn, and may you have the same.’”

I see often when describing someone religious one of the traits that’s stated is “ prays 5 times a day” like that’s not the base of our marriage.

I am in no way saying this in arrogance, or like I’m perfect. I’m simply curious if praying 5 times a day is that rare in the Muslim community to the point where it’s even commendable if you do do it because of how scarce it is.

Like you don’t talk about how you brush your teeth every morning because you always just do it- unless you don’t brush your teeth and one day you decided to brush your teeth then it’s like “ I brushed my teeth today”

Do you understand me?

If it isn’t obvious my modding skills are weak lately. I just wanted to remind everyone to mod mail, or Dm me when there is a concern with a user or a post you think is better to take down/ban. I will answer and see those quicker.

Don’t hesitate ever. JazakAllahu khair for all your patience and may Allah elevate each and everyone of you.

What are y’all’s daily musts for woman’s mood and health regulation?

I barely eat, I barely take vitamins- now I’m starting because I’m deficient in iron ( not surprised we all are) vitamin D, and B12 I also added zinc and magnesium. What other vitamins do yall take the essentials.

I’m like super minimalist in health which is horrible. I can’t keep up with much I just want a reasonable daily routine because everytime I try and stack I just get overwhelmed.

I’m low energy all day, I feel weak, my brains foggy, im so moody too sometimes 😞I’m like a mess! And I need the energy!!! Woman’s body’s are hard- help a sis out please.

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh! Inshallah everyone is in good health and high iman.

I’ve been a little busy these days so forgive me for my shortcomings in moderating. I’d love your input on how to improve the sub!

May Allah bless you all and allow your posts and comments to be a means of Sadaqah Jariyah