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One year into a relationship with an Algerian man living abroad, before Ramadan we talked about marriage. He said, "I'm going to Algeria and I'll tell my parents I want to marry you." While he was there, he sent her a message saying they didn't accept and that he would try to talk to them again. He eventually returned and proposed marriage without his family knowing, saying that with time, when they saw it was done, there was no going back. She accepted because she believed in him and thought he could resolve the situation. However, one fine day, four months later, you find a marriage certificate. It turns out that when he went to talk to his parents, they quickly involved the whole family and married him off to a distant cousin. According to him, he had no choice; he couldn't disobey and embarrass his parents in front of everyone. He wants to leave his cousin there and marry you as his second wife, but obviously she won't accept it because having two wives could become a bigger problem than facing his parents. The issue is that he doesn't want to end the relationship; he wants you to accept being his second wife, getting married, having children, and living away from home while his first wife stays at his parents' house. He says divorce is impossible because he doesn't want problems with either family. The girl wants to leave him but at the same time loves him very much. He begs her not to tell his wife anything; according to him, the marriage hasn't been consummated yet, and she remains at her parents' house. What's your opinion on this? PS: She's going to read the comments.

I want to surprise my Algerian boyfriend with some food, can you give me some easy recipes?

A while ago I posted that my Algerian boyfriend had asked me for €2500 to borrow for a business deal. I deleted the post because of the negative feedback. It turns out I lent him the money, he didn't give me a deadline to pay it back, I just waited and never asked him to pay it back. Last week he finally returned the money. Few people here agreed with me doing this, but I followed my heart and did it, and now everything is fine!

Would you marry the person you love (whose parents don't approve) or the person your family chooses? (cousin)

My brothers, do not let your wife’s birthday or your wedding anniversary pass as just another ordinary day.
Many women do not expect expensive gifts, luxurious trips, or grand celebrations. What truly touches a woman’s heart is feeling remembered, appreciated, and loved. A simple “happy birthday,” a flower, a chocolate, a handwritten note, or even a few moments of sincere attention can mean more than you can imagine.
Many of us spend our days caring for our homes, cooking, cleaning, organizing family life, and supporting our husbands in every way we can. Others balance these responsibilities with work outside the home. Amid all these duties, there are certain dates that carry a special meaning because they represent important moments in our journey as a married couple.
It is painful when those days come and go without any acknowledgment, as if they have no importance. Not because we are expecting luxury or extravagance, but because everyone wants to feel that they hold a special place in the heart of the person they chose to share their life with.
If you are a married man reading this message, take the next opportunity to make your wife smile. You do not need to spend a lot of money. Love is shown through small gestures, attention, kindness, and the effort to remind her that she is still important to you.
Women remember for years how they were treated on these special occasions. A simple gesture today can become a beautiful memory that she will cherish forever.
May Allah strengthen the love between spouses, bless your homes, and place barakah in your marriages. Ameen.

I'll leave some basic information.

30 years old, widowed, no children, she is educated, works, Muslim but not strict, a foreigner living in Europe. Humble and kind-hearted.

I ask those interested to send their CV.

Requirements: Minimum age 29, working man, someone who genuinely wants to get married. Religious but not extremist.

Send a photo so I can show it to her.

In front of my house there's a large gym with a huge pool. My husband always goes there with his friends, but I always refused to go because all the women there wear bikinis. But today I finally got the courage after my husband invited me a few weeks ago. I bought a burkini from Shein and said I'm going, I need to overcome this. I was tired of making excuses to my husband. So today we went, and contrary to what I thought, I didn't notice any judgmental looks. I felt completely at ease in the pool, swimming with my husband and playing in the water. I even got emotional sharing this moment together for the first time. Now I want to buy more burkinis so I can go more often. 🤍

Slm, I humbly ask that you dua for me.

Lately I've been feeling very sad and emotionally exhausted. I don't know exactly what's wrong with me, but I feel the weight of loneliness has been very difficult to bear.

A few years ago I became a widow after a long marriage. After that, I decided to emigrate to try to rebuild my life and piece my heart back together. My parents are also no longer alive, and I often feel completely alone in this world.

I am 30 years old, I work in finance from home and live in Europe far from most of my family. My siblings already have their own lives and responsibilities. I live simply, I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't go to parties or go out at night. I try to eat halal, dress modestly, and maintain my connection with Allah, although lately even praying has become more difficult because of the emotional exhaustion I feel.

I spend most of my time between home, work, the gym, the supermarket, and the shopping mall. I know how to cook, cook for myself, and after more than two years alone, I truly feel ready to love and start a family again.

I ask you, from the bottom of my heart, to make dua for me. Ask Allah to alleviate my sadness, strengthen my faith, heal my heart, and grant me a pious, kind, and compatible husband.

Perhaps, if many people make dua for me today, Allah will accept one of them and open a door of happiness for me that I can no longer see.

May Allah reward each person who dedicated a few seconds to making dua for me. May He also fulfill their requests, alleviate their difficulties, and grant them happiness in this life and the next.

Amen. 🤲

Can someone help me with study materials or even online lessons for Algerian Darija? I need someone who speaks Spanish or Portuguese.

Slm, My husband and I recently got married, and everything is going well, as well as can be expected. However, lately something has been bothering me a lot: the fact that he has an open Instagram profile with many women following him, and him following them back. They are probably people from his past, women from dating sites, since he used to have profiles on those sites, etc. Anyway, things from his past. I also have an Instagram account, but it's private and doesn't have more than 100 followers—family and very close friends—and I don't post photos of myself; I don't like having public photos on social media. I would like you to give me advice on how to convince my husband to delete these women and make his account private. I don't want to seem toxic or insecure, but this is really bothering me; I feel publicly disrespected! I need arguments, and I don't know how to approach this subject with him!

Slm, My husband and I recently got married, and everything is going well, as well as can be expected. However, lately something has been bothering me a lot: the fact that he has an open Instagram profile with many women following him, and him following them back. They are probably people from his past, women from dating sites, since he used to have profiles on those sites, etc. Anyway, things from his past. I also have an Instagram account, but it's private and doesn't have more than 100 followers—family and very close friends—and I don't post photos of myself; I don't like having public photos on social media. I would like you to give me advice on how to convince my husband to delete these women and make his account private. I don't want to seem toxic or insecure, but this is really bothering me; I feel publicly disrespected! I need arguments, and I don't know how to approach this subject with him!

I'm 30 and he's 28. I decided to stop talking to him, so I blocked and deleted him. After my last post, I became suspicious because he wanted to meet in Tunisia. Plus, randomly he said: "Send me photos of you at the gym, I want to see your physique." OMG! I could hardly believe what I was reading. Obviously, I thought it was very inappropriate. Besides, he'd already seen me in person at least three times when I was in Algiers, even from a distance, he could have gotten an idea of ​​my body type. Anyway, do you think I was overthinking it or did I do it?

Hi, I was in Algeria last month visiting my aunt. She's a distant relative of my father, basically family. I'm not Algerian; I'm Latina on my mother's side and Arab on my father's. I don't speak Arabic beyond basic levels.

When I was in Algeria, I decided to make my Snapchat location public. Then a guy started trying to talk to me. He was already my friend on Snapchat, but I'd never paid him any attention. He said, "Hi, I'm very close to you." I ignored him, and he started insisting. We started talking, and he wanted to see me in person, but obviously I couldn't go on a date with him or even talk to him because I never go out alone, and how would I explain that to my family? So, about three times he started following me and only saw me from afar. On the last day before I left for Europe, he wanted to give me a gift, so he left something for me at my aunt's door. I asked my cousin to pick it up without my aunt noticing. I asked my Algerian cousin what she thought of him and she just said: wtf he's poor

He's a pretty simple guy, I'm 30 and he's 28. We started talking and blah blah blah, he's an engineer but currently works doing deliveries, you know how the job situation is in Algeria. He said he wants to immigrate, that he wants to leave Algeria, etc…

I told him that I'm an immigrant and I can't help him with a visa or marriage paperwork, nothing more. I'm also an immigrant here and the most I can send him is an invitation letter. Anyway, he said he's liked me for a while, that he's always tried to talk to me and I never responded.

Well, we've been talking and talking, but I'm hesitant. I'm not very experienced with relationships, I don't know how to tell if his intentions are good, I don't know what to ask to sound him out and find out if he really wants something serious or just help to leave Algeria.

What should I ask?

What are the red flags?

What are the green flags?

I live in Europe and have been in a relationship for about a year with an Algerian man who also lives here. We have a good relationship, but recently he’s been having some problems at work and is financially unhappy.

He decided to make a new investment to try to improve his situation, and he asked me to lend him between €1000 and €2000. This is the first time he has ever asked me for money.

The issue is that this is money I’ve been saving for something very important in my life. I would like to help, but I’m worried about lending it and not getting it back.

I’m not sure if I’m being selfish or just careful.

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Edit: After reading all the advice and comments, I’ve decided that I’m not going to lend him any money.

When he brings it up again (probably next month), I’m going to be honest and tell him exactly how I feel. At this moment, I don’t have enough trust to lend that amount of money.

I want to make it clear that it’s not a lack of support I already help him in other ways: I cook for him on weekends, sometimes buy basic things he needs, and offer a lot of emotional and motivational support.

It’s also important to mention that we don’t live together and we’re not married. If we were, I might see things differently, but in this situation I’m not comfortable taking on that kind of financial responsibility.

Olá a todos,

Trabalho há mais de um ano numa empresa na área de apoio ao cliente, em Portugal. O meu contrato é presencial, mas após alguns meses passei para teletrabalho. No entanto, a empresa pode pedir o regresso ao escritório a qualquer momento.

Além disso, só me é permitido trabalhar a partir de Portugal.

Neste momento, estou à procura de uma oportunidade 100% remota que me permita trabalhar a partir de qualquer país. O meu objetivo é conciliar o trabalho com o estudo de um novo idioma, passando algum tempo fora de Portugal.

Alguém conhece empresas que contratem em Portugal (ou na UE) e ofereçam este tipo de flexibilidade, especialmente na área de apoio ao cliente?

Obrigada desde já pelas sugestões!