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So I saw this video on Tik Tok that was saying that some men use "females" because it covers both women and girls. This resonated with me because sometimes I find myself thinking it would be easier to write "females" instead of "women and girls" when discussing sex and gender based oppression. So it makes sense that predatory men would have a similar line of thinking and use it to give the illusion of speaking about women when they really mean girls (or they mean both but dont want people to know they are including girls).

I know the use of the word "females" as a noun is already problematic due to the dehumanizing nature but I thought this was also an interesting take.

I'm posting here because I am wondering what others here think.

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I am quitting (again) and today is day 1. I've attempted a few times but the headaches, irritability, insomnia, and increased anxiety I find really difficult to deal with so I end up giving in and even getting deeper into my use after a few days. I suppose I find what seems like mild withdrawal symptoms to be unbearable because I fell into marijuana use to cope with intense anxiety, irritability, and meaninglessness. Its also been my main "hobby" for nearly a year. To be clear, I am not asking for help in solving chronic mental health issues and I do have a psychiatrist.

How do you get through the initial stages of withdrawal and find a new way to engage your mind in the early days?

Having an emptional day. Did you or are you also going through this thought process? Like I want human companionship, and I would still like a partner to share the burden of life with one day. I just cannot get myself to feel that way anymore. When I go on dates I feel nothing so I stoppee dating. Even the sense of attraction is mostly gone, and when present its brief in nature.

Im no longer hung up on my ex. It just feels like desire is gone and a part of me died.

Songs that speak to your experience as a woman. I wanted to leave it pretty open as it doesn't have to necessarily be only applicable to the lives of women and the interpretation of songs can be very personal.

Some of mine:

Werewolf by cocorosie: the electra complex is a theme but to me it really speaks to grief and loss

Cool Girl by Tove Lo: an old theme but it still feels relevant

The Moon Will Sing by The Crane Wives: giving up our true selves to follow the path society gives us

Ceilings by Lizzy McAlpine: longing and romantic loneliness.

The Run by MXMS: emotional trauma and mental health using female pronouns

Fast Car by Tracy Chapman: classic

Peggy by Ceechynaa: gender swap of themes often heard in rap music

In Canada you have to be separated for a year before filing. Just got notified that the judge approved it.

I am officially and legally a single woman again! No more arguments with that man. No more awkward "technically married but single" discussions. No more worry if I will have to put in more money or give up more assets for this relationship. No more trying to keep the peace to prevent any vengeful behaviour. Its over. Im free.

Many great American authors, and I do appreciate them, but I would like to read from someone else for a change.

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Also I am tired of reading from a males perspective even when written by a woman.

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My contributions: the Vegetarian by Hang Kang, All the Lovers in the Night by Mieko Kawakami, and Alias Grace by Margaret Attwood.

Somehow all the podcasts im subscribed to are hosted by men so can someone recommend some good podcasts hosted by women?

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My podcasts are mainly history and related interests which is likely why its male dominate.

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To be clear im open to any topic for podcast recommendations. Thank you!

Sorry if this is the wrong sub.

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Recently Ive finally started to allow myself to really notice and accept misogyny for what it is rather than endlessly explaining it away or giving the benefit of the doubt. As a result I feel extremely angry and betrayed. Im trying to limit my time on social media (including reddit) but this bs is everywhere. I tried to find local feminist groups and the results were for men's rights groups (wtf?). Why do people hate women so much? Why do we have to fight just to be seen as equal human beings to men? How is it socially acceptable to question if women should be able to vote but saying women are systematically oppressed is crazy talk? I am so confused.

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What helped you? Is there anyway I can help bring systemic change? Should I just disengage? Will the anger pass? I would really appreciate any advice because the amount of anger Im feeling is overwhelming and paralyzing.

I recently became aware of this article from March 2026 by the UN.

As someone who has always been bothered by gender roles and sex-based discrimination this has really gotten me upset. I have found myself asking "what can we do to stop this?" and "What can I do to help protect and advance women's rights?"

I wanted to make this post in the Girl Survival Guide because this is about survival. As we have seen rights taken away with concerning swiftness and alarming silence. So I thought we could discuss what we can do.

Some suggestions I have come across:

• Get involved in local politics which can include going to city council meetings, going to protests/rally's, supporting politicians and bills that are pro-women, signing petitions, putting up signs/flags, and speaking out against anti-women rhetoric in politics.
• Vote. Protect your right to vote by trying to remove the barriers you face when voting. Vote at all levels of government. Vote for organizations you are a part of and join organizations you care about. Don't silence yourself.
• Vote with your wallet and support women creators. Support businesses that are women owned and/or women friendly when you have the choice. Try to read books, watch movies, listen to podcasts, consume art made by women. I also recommend seeking out media/art from women of a variety of cultural/ethnic/racial backgrounds. Representation matters. Solidarity matters.
• Speak up. This can be scary but do not silence yourself. I have found it can be surprising to find how many people will agree with you and are just waiting for someone else to bring it up. Or people who don't think about it but recognize and validate your point.
• It is not embarrassing to call out bad behaviour. The person doing the behaviour is the embarrassing one.
• Accept that some people will not respect your boundaries and act accordingly. People over the age of 2 understand what no means. If someone is continuing to ignore your discomfort, you boundaries, or insisting that you continually explain yourself that just shows they don't respect you.
• Don't every diminish, dismiss, or invalidate yourself for men and their comfort. I think this is both the easiest and most difficult part. I also think it is the most important. You do not have to take any political or job action. You do not have to be a leader or do anything extra. But it's a habit so deeply ingrained into society and our psyche that it can be difficult to even notice we are doing it. So many women are socialized to consider the perspectives of others and put the well-being of others first. This only works if other people will do the same for you, but unfortunately men are not socialized this way, which creates an imbalance. You deserve the career you want just as much as the men around you. Your voice and perspectives are just as valid. You deserve to take up space in the conversation, in the room, at the table, in workplace, in the home.
• Just because other's have it worse does not invalidate your struggles. I often hear discussion about misogyny get shut down because "women here do not have problems. Look at the women in x region." Other rhetoric is "x group has it worse" or "x women don't actually face oppression." Even in the most progressive and privileged societies systemic inequality exists against women and is just waiting to to deepen as we have seen.
• Edit to add: Don't accept blame for what is not yours to carry. Women are often the scapegoats of society. The father who abandoned their child needs to be held accountable for the family suffering and not the single mom who struggled to do it alone. Abusers and enablers are accountable for the community falling apart not the victims who were brave enough to speak up. To bring up a popular topic "mens loneliness" is not a women's problem. People will blame women for single men being violent but that is not our burden to carry. It is not reasonable, fair, or just to expect women to be a personal punching bag for men to keep society peaceful. We are just as human and deserving as men are so why are we expected to sacrifice for them but not them for us?

Women and girls are often left behind when rights for others are pushed forward (i.e. voting rights, anti-capitalist movements, LGBTQ moments, immigrate rights, education rights, anti-racism movements, etc). Don't let yourself be left behind because others gladly will if you let them.

To end I just want to say I led with a UN article because this is a global problem.

TLDR: Use your voice and don't let others silence you. Have the audacity.