u/Latter-Film-697

I (24F) still live with my parents.i came from a very traditional middle class family.

Last week, I made plans to go out with a friend for a few hours. My mom wasn't happy about it and wanted me to stay home, but I decided to go anyway because I didn't think I was doing anything wrong. I wasn't sneaking around, getting into trouble, or doing anything illegal. I just wanted to spend time with a friend. she even made my brother make a phone call to me asking me come home asap, when it was only 7pm

When I came home, my mom was furious. Since then, she's barely speaking to me. It's been about a week, and if she wants to tell me something, she'll usually ask my brother to tell me instead of speaking to me directly.

From her perspective, I knowingly went against what she wanted. From my perspective, I'm 24 years old, I went out for a few hours, came home safely, and don't think that deserves a week-long silent treatment

Some family members think I should have just listened to her because I live at home. I think adults should be able to have a social life without being punished for it, so AITAH?

So yesterday I 23(f) went to meet my friend , me usse literally 20 days bad mil rhi thi, she is my childhood best friend my mum knows her very well, but when I told her around 4pm in the evening. that I am going to meet my parent and we are gonna meet in the market (the market is 10 mins walking distance from my house) she started scolding me saying "Tera roz ka hi hai, hmesha hi bhar jati rehti hai dhup wagera kuch nhi dekhti , jo Krna h kar, mujhe mat bta", I was excepting the reaction but not this extreme anyway

I still went out because we were planning to meet for 2 days, also I would've told her earlier but I knew her reaction would be like this so I waited till last moment ,before leaving I even said bye to her she didn't reply,

so around 7pm my brother calls me and said jldi Ghar aa ja mummy papa bht zyda ghusse me hai , so I was in a mall, and we immdetaley left but due traffice I reached at home around 8:30 , when I entered the house no one said anything. Like why , and that was yesterday she is still not taking to me today , I don't even care anymore , I am just chilling in my room since morning lol

Also i don't go out every single, we only meet once or twice a month, and I don't leave my house for anything else except classes , I don't know why she is giving this extreme reaction.

Pata hai aaj kya hua..

Before covid I remember in my home my mum or dad would only pray for max 5 mins in evening and morning , and we only had to follow the no nails cutting , hair wash, no non veg , on tues or thursday , it was fine managable but after covid my mum started watching these baba's on tv , one in particular, now everything has changed literally

Now she literally pray 1 hour in the morning and it takes her 1-2 hours in the evening , also she made me (basically forced ) to keep the fast every wed,, I cant even wake up and have my coffee , no no I have to shower first then go to temple , and then I can do anything else , if I don't she doesn't talk to me for days ,

Also if I am on my periods she won't even come in my room and won't touch me , before she is done with her evening Puja. Treats me i am untouchable in my own home. Also I can't go in the kitchen or sit on any furniture except my own bed.

About non veg , back then we used to have non veg on anyday , except tues or thursday, but now even Sunday we have to check the calander to see if there is something , like amavasya or purnima , so the plan is cancelled .

Every day she just keeps adding the new ritual , I swear its exhausting, she spends her whole day, yes whole day in puja path , in the early morning she goes to collect leaves and flowers , and then do her puja , afternoon she listens to Katha on tv , in the evening she plays aarti on tv for 2 hours , afterwards 1 to 2 hours of puja in evening.

Yesterday there was live session of the same baba she watches, he was live doing some puja and everyone had to follow the steps in their home, we all have to sit and do puja in our home. It was an hour long session.

And again you do you, but she is making me and others do all that with her , like I dont even have an option to say no , I just have to say yes otherwise she stops talking to me,

I came from a very middle class family and I have lots of friends , from school , college , work , neighbourhood etc , but personally I have never met a athesit in real life , I dont know why? Maybe it's because people are afraid to come out as an atheist or almost all people are genuinely religious?

I have met or know multiple people who are overly religious like they spend hours everyday in temple , doing Puja and all and some people who do very minimal puja and all , but somehow never ever met an athiest person irl.

What do you think could be the reason behind this?

Hey guys , can you please suggest some budget friendly cafes , I just need a break.

So I 23(f) belong to typical middle class family For the past few my family has been struggling financially , the situation is slightly better now, because of this problem my mum has become overly religious for the past few years

And I don't any issue with that you do you , but she is making me do all that too everyday , i am not the kind of person who goes to temple everyday, yes I was religious but I didn't pray every day

Like last month she asked me to wake up early , take shower and go to temple and then do anything else , fine I did it for few weeks but now I can't do this anymore , like somedays I just dont to get in the shower as soon as I wake up , but I literally have no choice , if I skip one day she'd get mad at me and would give me silent treatment for 2-3 days atleast, I literally have no choice she also gives me example of neighbour girls that look at they spend hours in temple everyday, but that's their choice, isn't it., it feels like an obligation rather than sprituality, and it's making me stepping away from religion, I dont even pray when I go to temple I just stand there with closeed eyes.

She also makes me do fasting on every Wednesday, fine no problem , but again I have to visit two temples that day, offer 11 ladoos everyweek I have been doing this since almost two years, i even started to hate Wednesday.

I can't do normal everyday grooming stuff (cutting my nails , shaving , hair cutting ) anyday , mon to thrus and sat its prohabitited because fasting (tues is my brother , wed is mine and thurs is hers ) so no grooming on those days , so it lefts us with only 2 days

She also asks me to wear some tabeez and a ring , I did wear that for 2-3 months but now I just don't.

Every normal day has become some kind of puja and ritual now, I really feel emotionally burnt out , I don't even sleep at night , because I feel thats the only time I have control over my day.

I don't know what to do , if it was for a week or something I'd understand but no this has become my life now.

Before covid I don't think my mum was that religious sure she used to go temple and all but not overly , but now , since few years she is doing it a lot and she is making me do all that too

For context I was religious before , but right now I am confused, also she is forcing all that on me and it's making me stepping away from religion even more ,

For eg:- when I was 15 I got my first period and since that year she made me do a fast (once a year) you have to fast for whole day not eat anything with salt that day and do puja so that all your sins you commit while youre on your periods (accidently going into kitchen, touching anything ) , now I never believed that period is impure, so why am I even doing this fast when I just don't believe in something , once I tried to explain her and she got made at me saying you're an atheist, so I have no choice

She also made me do fasting once a week (on Wednesday) on that day I can't do anything like cutting my hair , nails etc , (I do it still but without her knowing )

Last month she asked me to wake up early in the morning and immediately take a shower and go to temple and after that I can do anything else , I have no choice but to follow her ,because she'd get mad at me

One Sunday I had to clean my room (dusting etc) so I thought well after cleaning my room then I'll take a shower in the noon , but no she suggested to take a shower , go to temple , have my coffee and after that clean my room and can take another shower , why would I take shower two times? So I didn't , and she got mad at me and didn't talk to me for 2-3 days

She spent almost 2-3 hours daily doing Puja, again you do you, I have no issue but why force me to do , when I dont want to. She also listens to baba's pravachan all day

And can't even eat non veg now , because she made my brother keep fast on tues , me on wed , and she does on thurs , so these 3 days no non veg and when my dad asks on Sunday if we can have non veg, shed say you guys can eat , it's shivratri today or amavasya or purnima , so she won't eat , so my dad just cancel the plan.

she started to believe in non sense superstitions. There are many many more things , but again you do you, why force all that on me.