u/Left-Difficulty-2318

I (28F) met my husband (28M) through a matrimony app. Our roka happened in Feb 2024, but his family said there was no wedding date before Dec 2024. He convinced me to quit my job and do a court marriage in April because he was "insecure" after his ex left him and said he couldn't risk losing me.

After the court marriage, he became extremely emotionally dependent on me. Every tiny disagreement turned into hours of him crying. He told me he had childhood trauma because his mother was emotionally unavailable, so I kept excusing his behavior and treated him with patience.

We had our traditional wedding in Dec 2024 (1 year and a few months of official marriage). I moved from Mumbai to a small town in UP to live with him and his family...

On our honeymoon, the first few days felt amazing. One night in Amsterdam, we had sex seven times in about two hours, and I remember thanking God because I felt I had found the perfect husband. But after that, everything changed. He started picking fights over the smallest things. Every confrontation ended with him crying uncontrollably, and I would end up consoling him. Good moments became rare.

Back home, things got worse. If my facial expression changed even slightly, he would repeatedly ask if someone had said something to me. Even after I denied it multiple times, he wouldn't stop until it turned into another emotional meltdown. This happened almost every single day. I became so anxious that I started practicing my facial expressions before he returned from work. He also didn't like me spending time with the women in his family, especially his mother.

Within one year of marriage, he cried almost every day for hours. He would usually drink only on Saturdays, but for the next few days he would become extremely cranky and aggressive. He became verbally abusive, broke things during emotional outbursts, and then behaved as if nothing had happened the next day. He expected me to comfort him every single time. The constant emotional meltdowns exhausted me physically and mentally to the point that my own sexual needs became irrelevant. Financially, he took care of me and often stood up for me against his family, which made everything even more confusing.

Our sex life was also unusual. In one year, we had sex only around 10 times, and every time he took Viagra. When I asked why, he said it was only to "enhance pleasure."

Then, in January 2026—just 13 months after our wedding—his family suddenly forced a separation. I returned to my parents' home. Ten days later, he filed for divorce without informing me. His family kept us and our parents waiting for three months, saying they were giving us space to work things out, while the divorce case had already been filed.

After returning home, I consulted a marriage counselor. After discussing everything, including my married life, the counselor felt that my husband might have an untreated psychological condition and possibly sexual dysfunction. I understand this is only one professional's opinion and not a medical diagnosis.

Even today, I don't know what was actually happening during that entire year.

Does this sound like unresolved trauma, a mental health disorder, manipulation, sexual dysfunction, or something else entirely? Has anyone experienced anything remotely similar? I'm genuinely looking for objective opinions because I'm still trying to make sense of what happened.

I (28F) met my husband (28M) through a matrimony app. Our roka happened in Feb 2024, but his family said there was no wedding date before Dec 2024. He convinced me to quit my job and do a court marriage in April because he was "insecure" after his ex left him and said he couldn't risk losing me.

After the court marriage, he became extremely emotionally dependent on me. Every tiny disagreement turned into hours of him crying. He told me he had childhood trauma because his mother was emotionally unavailable, so I kept excusing his behavior and treated him with patience.

We had our traditional wedding in Dec 2024 (1 year and a few months of official marriage). I moved from Mumbai to a small town in UP to live with him and his family...

On our honeymoon, the first few days felt amazing. One night in Amsterdam, we had sex seven times in about two hours, and I remember thanking God because I felt I had found the perfect husband. But after that, everything changed. He started picking fights over the smallest things. Every confrontation ended with him crying uncontrollably, and I would end up consoling him. Good moments became rare.

Back home, things got worse. If my facial expression changed even slightly, he would repeatedly ask if someone had said something to me. Even after I denied it multiple times, he wouldn't stop until it turned into another emotional meltdown. This happened almost every single day. I became so anxious that I started practicing my facial expressions before he returned from work. He also didn't like me spending time with the women in his family, especially his mother.

Within one year of marriage, he cried almost every day for hours. He would usually drink only on Saturdays, but for the next few days he would become extremely cranky and aggressive. He became verbally abusive, broke things during emotional outbursts, and then behaved as if nothing had happened the next day. He expected me to comfort him every single time. The constant emotional meltdowns exhausted me physically and mentally to the point that my own sexual needs became irrelevant. Financially, he took care of me and often stood up for me against his family, which made everything even more confusing.

Our sex life was also unusual. In one year, we had sex only around 10 times, and every time he took Viagra. When I asked why, he said it was only to "enhance pleasure."

Then, in January 2026—just 13 months after our wedding—his family suddenly forced a separation. I returned to my parents' home. Ten days later, he filed for divorce without informing me. His family kept us and our parents waiting for three months, saying they were giving us space to work things out, while the divorce case had already been filed.

After returning home, I consulted a marriage counselor. After discussing everything, including my married life, the counselor felt that my husband might have an untreated psychological condition and possibly sexual dysfunction. I understand this is only one professional's opinion and not a medical diagnosis.

Even today, I don't know what was actually happening during that entire year.

Does this sound like unresolved trauma, a mental health disorder, manipulation, sexual dysfunction, or something else entirely? Has anyone experienced anything remotely similar? I'm genuinely looking for objective opinions because I'm still trying to make sense of what happened.

I (28F) met my husband (28M) through a matrimony app. Our roka happened in Feb 2024, but his family said there was no wedding date before Dec 2024. He convinced me to quit my job and do a court marriage in April because he was "insecure" after his ex left him and said he couldn't risk losing me.

After the court marriage, he became extremely emotionally dependent on me. Every tiny disagreement turned into hours of him crying. He told me he had childhood trauma because his mother was emotionally unavailable, so I kept excusing his behavior and treated him with patience.

We had our traditional wedding in Dec 2024 (1 year and a few months of official marriage). I moved from Mumbai to a small town in UP to live with him and his family...

On our honeymoon, the first few days felt amazing. One night in Amsterdam, we had sex seven times in about two hours, and I remember thanking God because I felt I had found the perfect husband. But after that, everything changed. He started picking fights over the smallest things. Every confrontation ended with him crying uncontrollably, and I would end up consoling him. Good moments became rare.

Back home, things got worse. If my facial expression changed even slightly, he would repeatedly ask if someone had said something to me. Even after I denied it multiple times, he wouldn't stop until it turned into another emotional meltdown. This happened almost every single day. I became so anxious that I started practicing my facial expressions before he returned from work. He also didn't like me spending time with the women in his family, especially his mother.

Within one year of marriage, he cried almost every day for hours. He would usually drink only on Saturdays, but for the next few days he would become extremely cranky and aggressive. He became verbally abusive, broke things during emotional outbursts, and then behaved as if nothing had happened the next day. He expected me to comfort him every single time. The constant emotional meltdowns exhausted me physically and mentally to the point that my own sexual needs became irrelevant. Financially, he took care of me and often stood up for me against his family, which made everything even more confusing.

Our sex life was also unusual. In one year, we had sex only around 10 times, and every time he took Viagra. When I asked why, he said it was only to "enhance pleasure."

Then, in January 2026—just 13 months after our wedding—his family suddenly forced a separation. I returned to my parents' home. Ten days later, he filed for divorce without informing me. His family kept us and our parents waiting for three months, saying they were giving us space to work things out, while the divorce case had already been filed.

After returning home, I consulted a marriage counselor. After discussing everything, including my married life, the counselor felt that my husband might have an untreated psychological condition and possibly sexual dysfunction. I understand this is only one professional's opinion and not a medical diagnosis.

Even today, I don't know what was actually happening during that entire year.

Does this sound like unresolved trauma, a mental health disorder, manipulation, sexual dysfunction, or something else entirely? Has anyone experienced anything remotely similar? I'm genuinely looking for objective opinions because I'm still trying to make sense of what happened.