u/LeftHuckleberry447

There is a cute guy at church. We are the only ones on the top floor. He seems sweet, simple and is consistent with coming to church in the mornings. And thats all I know about him. We look at each other when we give each other the sign of peace. Yesterday, we saw each other outside church. We smiled at each other before going our separate ways.

I just wish I could savour a silly crush, without telling myself Im stupid. A part of me wants to speak to him, but I struggle to see a point. I keep telling myself that I will be shifting soon, only being able to come back to attend Sunday mass. Im not looking for anything (romantic, friendship or sexual). A part of me feels this could just be a genuine curiosity to know more about him, without expectations. I will be talking about this to my therapist.

So I have filed a rape case. Investigation is still going on.

I will be starting a new program next month, and I want to share my progress on Instagram. Mostly to get attention for my skills from other people in my field + Ive always wanted to make reels related to this topic.

I wont share any personal info, apart from where Im studying and my face. I will absolutely not share any info about my case.

Could this harm my case when it goes to trial? In a way to show that Im not acting like a victim?

Hi, Im currently looking for a consistent work buddy to stay productive together and keep each other accountable in a low-pressure, supportive way.

What I’m looking for:

• Female / non-male only
• Someone open to body doubling (working on call silently or with light check-ins). We can use google meet, zoom etc.
• Daily or near-daily availability (flexible timing, we can figure it out)
• Willing to share goals, track progress, and reflect on what worked/didn’t

What I’m working on right now:

• Mental health + self-care (this is important for me, I’m trying to stay consistent and kind to myself)
• Tasks that I find hard to finish/things I procrastinate
• Finding a new place to stay
• Building consistency in daily routines.

If you are a man, do not bother replying.

If you are interested, you can DM with info about your goals, etc

Hi, Im currently looking for a consistent work buddy to stay productive together and keep each other accountable in a low-pressure, supportive way.

What I’m looking for:

• Female / non-male only
• Someone open to body doubling (working on call silently or with light check-ins)
• Daily or near-daily availability (flexible timing, we can figure it out)
• Willing to share goals, track progress, and reflect on what worked/didn’t

What I’m working on right now:

• Mental health + self-care (this is important for me, I’m trying to stay consistent and kind to myself)
• Job search (applications, resume updates, outreach)
• Finding a new place to stay
• Building consistency in daily routines.

If you are a man, do not bother replying.

If you are interested, you can DM with info about your goals, etc

We have been roommates and friends for 5 months. We'd go out a lot and opened up to each other (fairly quickly).

I had helped her deal with creepy men in her life and she helped me get an acting gig once.

2 months ago, I was raped (by a male friend) on a trip. And she was the first person I called after it happened. She had told me to call her if anything went wrong and she was the only person who I knew I went on this trip.

She went around asking for legal advice, spoke to her mum as well about my experience. And then, when I decided to report she backtracked. She said she didn't want to get involved.

She keeps talking about my rape as some weird eye opening experience about society and rape culture. I have to bite my lip to prevent myself from asking her how she is any different from the people she thinks she is better than.

A few days ago, she promised to come with me to give her statement. All she had to say was "yeah she called me right after and she looked very distressed." Despite reminding her about the police coming in, she went out for a work thing (that she was not required to go for and had never told me).

When the police called her, they yelled at her for being a horrible friend and woman. But this girl doubled down, saying that she isn't a witness, since she was not in the room when it happened.

I do not feel safe around her anymore. And I dont want her as a friend. I surely want her to give her statement but I do not want to speak to her. I dont deserve this.

I want to know what I can do. Im already doing breathing exercises, going to therapy (have to tell my therapist about this), going to church, visiting my family (that have been more supportive) and I've been trying to focus on my career more.

I cant stand her presence. I still have 2 weeks to move out. And I cant stand this bitch laughing and pretending like she has done nothing wrong. A part of me feels like she is trying to take up more space to compensate for how shitty she feels. In addition, I also feel guilty for betraying myself by still talking to her till the day she stood me up (when the police came to take her statement).

I keep wondering if she never liked me. Or if she treats everyone in her life this way. I keep trying to figure out if she probably has done some illegal shit that she is scared will come up. Its either that or she is the most performative, fake feminist.

A few weeks ago I had spoken about my rape here on reddit. It happened on a trip. (I dont want to get into the rape in this post)

Before I went on this trip, she had specifically told me that I can call her if anything went wrong.

Sure enough, right after the rape, I had called my friend/roommate, telling her what happened.

When I was writing my police complaint, I told her that her name was in it as a witness. She freaked out and asks me to remove it. I told her that its protocol. I did kind of let it make me feel bad. But I knew I wasn't doing anything wrong and that her statement would help prove my story and help me get the rapist punished.

Even on the day I was supposed to go to file the FIR (I had to travel to the state the crime happened) she talked about "not being able to sleep" knowing that she was "involved". I felt rage (as to why the fuck am I consoling and comforting her at such a horrible time) and fear (if I didn't accommodate her, she might not give an accurate and helpful statement).

I burst out crying when she said this because it was too much to handle and I assured her it would be fine. And then she talked about how she knew it was hard for me but it was "hard for her as well" (because she was "involved").

Cut to when she had to give her witness statement the police. They had come all the way to my state. (I was very grateful for this). I told her they asked her to come with me. I gave her notes and a lot of reassurance. I reminded her multiple times about it too.

On the day of, because of some time issue, I told her Id ask them if the statement could be online. By the time I told her that it wouldn't be possible, she had already signed up to go for this project visit (that she was not expected to go for+never EVER told me about). She gave me the excuse that she "assumed she could give it online".

Sure enough, the police asked where she was. I told them I didn't want her as a witness (I felt like I couldn't really trust her anymore, god knows how she'd twist things just to get back at me for fucking involving her). They told me that they cant just take her out of my case because of this.

The police yelled at her on call when she said she was not technically a witness since "she was not there when the crime happened". This girl told them the same shit. That she never agreed to be involved. And that she told me she was not comfortable with this.

Learning how shameless she was, felt incredibly embarrassing. That THIS girl was my so called "friend" and was supposed to be my witness. And that Im possibly taking a huge risk. But yeah I think the police also saw how unreliable she was and I told them about her past behavior surrounding my case. So idk maybe if something happens I can intervene and prevent a false, harmful statement.

She constantly talks about and shares info about rape cases around the country, on her social media.

It really makes me mad that she thinks that this she is completely justified here. She thinks listening to me talk, is enough and its completely appropriate to keep trying to slither out of testifying as my witness, potentially ruining my chance to get justice.

Ofc its hard for her and its only natural to be scared, but what she is doing is completely unacceptable.

During one such conversation, she told me how she wanted to write about how my case affected her, and what it made her realize about society. It filled me with rage and at that time, I couldn't say why.

But yeah, it's clear now. And I want to tell her that she cant use my story for a little thought piece on her social media. Not after how she reacted.

Not all women can be trusted.

I feel bad for ignoring past incidents where she'd promise to come for certain things but then come up with elaborate excuses that were so completely out of her control.

Till my rape, they were just excuses for unimportant things. Which is why I didn't take them too seriously.

After this whole incident, I feel like I really need to work on myself. To heal from the rape, and to also learn how to make decent friends. I dont think she even understands how much stress she has put me through at a time like this. I hope no one ever has to deal with such crap.

I want to create a sort of diary entry account, to post are and poems. I don't want it to be tracked back to me (by friends and coworkers)

A few years ago, I made a finsta and a couple of my friends gave me a heads up, they got a notification about me making a new acc. Freaked me out.

How do I prevent this?

The user in question is currently in jail. Which is why Im concerned by the fact that he gained 5 followers and is following 5 new people.

It is impossible to gain followers without accepting them in real time.

Is it possible due to a glitch? Its unlikely that he gave his account to someone else.

Worst case scenario: He is out. Im trying to find any other reasons as to how this has happened.

He was arrested a few weeks ago for rape. The investigation is still going on. I have an hour till I can call the police to check. Which is why Im asking here.

There was some activity on his social media (gained followers on his private account). Is it possible he is out? He had not applied for bail till I had asked the police this week.

Is it possible he has been released and I have not been informed or is it normal to get your phone sometimes, while in judicial custody?

(I have already asked this on a legal sub)

I was talking to my mom today. And she talked about how she planned to cut off one of her friends.

So, this aunty asked what me and my sister were doing, careerwise. Which is an uncomfortable question for my parents (rightfully so) because Ive switched to a completely different path and Im still struggling to make a living and my sister, has only recently started preparing for her masters (she is in a field where its frowned upon to not do masters right after). Its not worthy of gloating about, sure. But I know our lives are not over because of this.

This woman literally replied with, "Haan toh phir dono ki shaadi hi karlo na, time waste toh nhi ho jayega". My mom shut her up by saying that we hate men and that marriage has never served women.

Context: This woman's husband left her and their son for a 20 something year old. She never divorced her husband and was ok with him coming to visit her and her son once in a while (till her husband ended up passing 10 years ago). And he left NOTHING to her.

How can such a woman suggest marriage to anyone?They have been friends since college. This woman has watched us grow since we were born. How can she ever say that?

Her son moved to the US and is currently working there. He has a girlfriend there too.

The only reason I can give for her marriage comment about us is because she has been showering said girlfriend with a lot of love and praise since Trump has tightened immigration laws. She hated her before that. Which in my head makes complete sense. She wants her son to marry that woman. Fair enough, you gotta do what you gotta do.

Maybe she has been thinking/ talking about marriage so much recently that she just said it for us as well idfk.

But yeah she has a history of pointing out that me and my sister were too social and smart (according to kid standards), she would say it in a condescending way, like it made no sense that my introverted parents could have such children. What a weird thing to say to YOUR FRIEND.

I feel like life is just so hard and tiring on its own. Why make it worse by being negative and secretly wishing ill on kids you have watched grow in front of your eyes?

Hi, Im currently looking for a consistent work buddy to stay productive together and keep each other accountable in a low-pressure, supportive way.

What I’m looking for:

• Female / non-male only
• Someone open to body doubling (working on call silently or with light check-ins)
• Daily or near-daily availability (flexible timing, we can figure it out)
• Willing to share goals, track progress, and reflect on what worked/didn’t

What I’m working on right now:

• Mental health + self-care (this is important for me, I’m trying to stay consistent and kind to myself)
• Job search (applications, resume updates, outreach)
• Finding a new place to stay
• Building consistency in daily routines.

If you are a man, do not bother replying.

If interested, feel free to DM