u/Lemonade867

Hey everyone.

I recently started a role with a government contractor. I work on a military base. My coworkers are very nice people, I make $115k, boss/GS is also nice, but I feel like my role is totally pointless. I have a PhD in social science, and honestly most days I just learn sql or run pointless tests with the company AI or just read random articles. Technically I have a supervisor, but I sit right next to her and I see that all she does is scroll LinkedIn and Google scholar and whenever she produces a product it’s some AI slop that our GS just gushes over,

The hours are flexible and despite my PhD, I’d probably take a pay cut going into private sector. Other research/analyst roles pay low, like $75-90k. I can’t justify taking the pay cut, but I also am just sick of trying to “keep busy.” Honestly the only guys who seem to actually have work to do in my SCIF are the former military guys, who have roles I wouldn’t qualify for, and the comp sci dudes. As I transition into industry vs academia, I’ve realized that if I’m going to have to sit at a desk all day I might as well have shit to do. Not to mention my whole job feels like I’m scamming the tax payer.

I have a TS. I’m a fast learner. I saw a post here where some guy was essentially recruited to become a software engineer. I know R, SPSS, learning SQL. I want out of my role so badly but I don’t want to screw my fiance and future kids over by taking a pay cut. Help?

Hi all. I live in Colorado Springs and have a TS/SCI. I also have a PhD in Experimental Psychology from a prestigious school (T15). I am currently working for a government contractor as a 'behavioral scientist' but it is a dead end role and quite boring. I am 29 and I want to make a change and get into the business world/consulting so badly.

I applied for a Business Analyst role with Deloitte GPS that requires a TS/SCI but I think I was auto-rejected. I submitted my app at 5 PM and was rejected 8 AM the next morning. Deloitte GPS has an office right near me. I have added some people who work there on LinkedIn but I'm not sure what any of them can really do for me. I worked really hard on my resume to get through ATS but no luck.

I am proficient in SQL and R. But I have no business experience on my resume. Maybe this role is primarily filled through campus recruiting? But it requires TS/SCI....hm. Help? What are a few things I can do to increase my chances of getting into Deloitte GPS? Are there roles other than Business Consultant that I might be eligible for? I just don't see general 'consultant' or 'analyst' roles on their site.

Advice? Thank you

Hey everyone. I'm 29 so I graduated college 7 years ago. That's a long time. When I graduate, I didn't stay in touch with many people besides through Instagram. Most people lived in NY/Boston and I lived in the South for grad school. It was very hard to stay in touch with people. I also just became extremely depressed and stressed during my PhD, I was in a hole, isolated, lonely, etc.

My fiance and I are trying to choose between two dates for our wedding, so I messaged a couple of friends. One from college who I knew all four years, and one from my town in grad school. The second girl I only was friends with from 2022-2023 but we hung out a ton, confided in each other, and I organized a going away party for her! In my grad school town people were very transient, given it was a college town, so even if I made a friend they usually would leave after a year or two. Neither of them even replied!

It's also been 10 years since high school, and I never really went back home. There are a couple people I would invite, but they're not like, 'my girls' who would really make me feel good and comfortable. I mean I hardly know them any more.

IDK this is all making me so depressed that I almost want to call off the wedding and engagement because my fiance is absolutely insisting on a big wedding. I can't just be there while he parties it up with his bros and I'm all alone. Plus what makes matters even worse is my sister and cousins are very judgmental and bullied me throughout my childhood, so I really needed my friends at my wedding as a buffer. I feel bad depriving my fiance of the big wedding he has always wanted, but like, I just can't make myself feel this insecure and humiliated.

This whole thing makes me feel so insecure and awful. Like I am just trying to move on with my life and start a family and I'm left dealing with these awful feelings. I hate weddings. Anyone relate?

Hey everyone. I'm 29 so I graduated college 7 years ago. That's a long time. When I graduate, I didn't stay in touch with many people besides through Instagram. Most people lived in NY/Boston and I lived in the South for grad school. It was very hard to stay in touch with people.

My fiance and I are trying to choose between two dates for our wedding, so I messaged a couple of friends. One from college who I knew all four years, and one from my town in grad school. The second girl I only was friends with from 2022-2023 but we hung out a ton, confided in each other, and I organized a going away party for her! In my grad school town people were very transient, given it was a college town, so even if I made a friend they usually would leave after a year or two. Neither of them even replied!

It's also been 10 years since high school, and I never really went back home. There are a couple people I would invite, but they're not like, 'my girls' who would really make me feel good and comfortable. I mean I hardly know them any more.

IDK this is all making me so depressed that I almost want to call off the wedding and engagement because my fiance is absolutely insisting on a big wedding. I can't just be there while he parties it up with his bros and I'm all alone. Plus what makes matters even worse is my sister and cousins are very judgmental and bullied me throughout my childhood, so I really needed my friends at my wedding as a buffer. I feel bad depriving my fiance of the big wedding he has always wanted, but like, I just can't make myself feel this insecure and humiliated.

This whole thing makes me feel so insecure and awful. Like I am just trying to move on with my life and start a family and I'm left dealing with these awful feelings. I hate weddings. Anyone relate?

Hi there! So my fiance got engaged in early April, found a date we thought was perfect, but then had to scrap it because our parents objected (it was a Thursday). Some critical background is that we are jewish and my fiance's family is quite religious so we can't have a Friday or Saturday wedding due to the Jewish sabbath. A Thursday is too much to ask though, we've learned, because you're asking people to take quite a bit of time off work.

So we have decided to find a Sunday ASAP, and thankfully there are a few venues with Sunday availability that we like. But we are just so torn on whether we should choose August 30th or September 6th! On one hand I think labor day is good because people won't have to take off work, but my fiance thinks people might already have plans, or they just have labor day family traditions. In that case maybe Aug 30th is better, but then you're asking people to take off Monday.

Jewish people are somewhat used to non-Saturday weddings, so I don't think it's a huge deal to ask people to take off Monday, but I'd say only 75%-80% of our guests will be jewish and only 40% or so are religious and will 'get it."

I can't decide! What do you all think?