u/Lime1765

Here’s some context: I’m in my mid teens, and I live in a more conservative leaning area (though homophobia isn’t a huge problem here to my knowledge). I go line dancing with friends often at my local VFW. Other than my friends and I, the people there are mostly pretty old.

Last time I went I noticed a boy who looked like he was around my age. He was really cute too, and I think I developed a crush! I wanted to talk to him, but it feels like it’d be weird if I just walked up to him randomly because he typically doesn’t dance too much. He’s related to the person running the music I think, so he mostly sits up there by who I think is his grandpa and some loud speakers. That’s why I feel weird going up to him to talk without a good reason. I asked my friends about him, and they said he’s there often.

The main problem is that I don’t even know if he’s gay. I don’t want to accidentally make him uncomfortable if he isn’t. “Why not just ask him? I already hear you asking me. The answer: I don’t want to make things weird. I go line dancing often, and I have a feeling I’ll see him again. I’d also feel very awkward just asking him if he’s gay when his grandpa is like right next to him. And if he tells people there that I’m gay, then I’m not sure what all of the old, likely conservative, people would think. I just don’t want my dancing experience to change because of a single interaction. (I think I might be overthinking things)

I’m asking for advice. I would really like to talk to him, but I don’t know how to approach him. I’d also really appreciate some ways to know if he’s gay so I can know how to approach this rather than just asking him.

Thank you so much for reading this far! Advice would be deeply appreciated, and I’m happy to answer anything questions you may have in the comments🙏

Here’s some context: I’m in my mid teens, and I live in a more conservative leaning area (though homophobia isn’t a huge problem here to my knowledge). I go line dancing with friends often at my local VFW. Other than my friends and I, the people there are mostly pretty old.

Last time I went I noticed a boy who looked like he was around my age. He was really cute too, and I think I developed a crush! I wanted to talk to him, but it feels like it’d be weird if I just walked up to him randomly because he typically doesn’t dance too much. He’s related to the person running the music I think, so he mostly sits up there by who I think is his grandpa and some loud speakers. That’s why I feel weird going up to him to talk without a good reason. I asked my friends about him, and they said he’s there often.

The main problem is that I don’t even know if he’s gay. I don’t want to accidentally make him uncomfortable if he isn’t. “Why not just ask him? I already hear you asking me. The answer: I don’t want to make things weird. I go line dancing often, and I have a feeling I’ll see him again. I’d also feel very awkward just asking him if he’s gay when his grandpa is like right next to him. And if he tells people there that I’m gay, then I’m not sure what all of the old, likely conservative, people would think. I just don’t want my dancing experience to change because of a single interaction. (I think I might be overthinking things)

I’m asking for advice. I would really like to talk to him, but I don’t know how to approach him. I’d also really appreciate some ways to know if he’s gay so I can know how to approach this rather than just asking him.

Thank you so much for reading this far! Advice would be deeply appreciated, and I’m happy to answer anything questions you may have in the comments🙏

Here’s some context: I’m in my mid teens, and I live in a more conservative leaning area (though homophobia isn’t a huge problem here to my knowledge). I go line dancing with friends often at my local VFW. Other than my friends and I, the people there are mostly pretty old.

Last time I went I noticed a boy who looked like he was around my age. He was really cute too, and I think I developed a crush! I wanted to talk to him, but it feels like it’d be weird if I just walked up to him randomly because he typically doesn’t dance too much. He’s related to the person running the music I think, so he mostly sits up there by who I think is his grandpa and some loud speakers. That’s why I feel weird going up to him to talk without a good reason. I asked my friends about him, and they said he’s there often.

The main problem is that I don’t even know if he’s gay. I don’t want to accidentally make him uncomfortable if he isn’t. “Why not just ask him? I already hear you asking me. The answer: I don’t want to make things weird. I go line dancing often, and I have a feeling I’ll see him again. I’d also feel very awkward just asking him if he’s gay when his grandpa is like right next to him. And if he tells people there that I’m gay, then I’m not sure what all of the old, likely conservative, people would think. I just don’t want my dancing experience to change because of a single interaction. (I think I might be overthinking things)

I’m asking for advice. I would really like to talk to him, but I don’t know how to approach him. I’d also really appreciate some ways to know if he’s gay so I can know how to approach this rather than just asking him.

Thank you so much for reading this far! Advice would be deeply appreciated, and I’m happy to answer anything questions you may have in the comments🙏

Mine is, “I’m here, I’m queer, and I’m prepared to invoke fear into the hearts of all who spite me!” Leave yours in the comments >:3