r/Gayteenagers

Hola, 15m I am a very social person but I feel like everyone Im friends with aren't gay and even new people I meet aren't gay like I've tried so hard to make it obvious without coming out but it's not working and I want to have more gay friends so I can feel more comfortable and eventually come out or find a relationship in one. But I know I'm ranting but is there any like good ways to find other gays without just straight up asking.

Hello everyone! I’m 17 and I’m Gay. I’ve been struggling with dating. I don’t know if I’m unattractive or just unlucky. For reference I’m a 6’2 chubbier guy. But it’s like no one asks me out or anything. Does anyone know how to attract people and men?

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So I would say that one of the things the queer community is gender stereotypes. So why the fuck do the flags use stereotypical colors for their flags.
For instance, let’s take the bi flag, blue for boys and pink for girls…
The trans flag, blue for boys and pink for girls again…

Hey y'all, 14M here. I know definitely that I'm either pan or omni, but I'm not entirely sure which one I identify with better. On one hand, I think gender MIGHT play a role if I ever date someone. On the other, I have barely kissed anyone yet (girl) and I might be entirely wrong.

The only thing of note here is that my name is Peter and if I identify as pan, I'll be Peter Pan. As good of a pun that is, I wanna look at both options equally.

Hi all,

I (13M) have posted on here previously where I talked about coming out to my parents. (Which did not work out to great)

It’s been two months and we still have yet to have a discussion about it again. Since then I also came out to some other kids at my school, 9 now. And they have all been super supportive and been helping me through the thing going on with my parents. Unfortunately they are all straight Christians, so they don’t “get” the full picture because this isn’t something they will ever have to worry about, or at least think they won’t.

I also use to be bullied a lot, which luckily has calmed down but I do face the minor bullying or teasing, mostly from the rugby or hockey boys.

There also are quite a few other queer kids in my grade. Though they aren’t my type of people so we never really hang out. There are also rumours going around about a boy who might be bi (And I also might like said boy and kind of always thought he have bi vibes). I don’t really know if I should trust the rumours (which I won’t). Some kids say he talks about being bi and his friends have confirmed it but I haven’t heard either of those things.

I need some advice on what to do here, or on how to go to an adult about this. And since South African law says nothing about religion in schools I go to a (public) Christian school. With all the teachers being either of a Christian denomination or Jewish. There are some teachers who I trust and think I can go to. Specifically my drama teacher, Ms G. She is really nice and understanding and she is practically the school counsellor (Since we don’t have any). We only see her once a week, Thursdays, for our last lesson. After our last lesson for the day we have a 20 minute homework lesson that teachers use to do admin and kids use to complete homework, clean the class and pack their books away. I don’t really know how to approach her after a drama lesson and I feel like I will need a lot more than just 20 minutes. And staying longer would raise suspicions with my grandma and brother (she picks us up from school).

And since we don’t have drama in the third term I don’t have an hour after school before it, which she gives. So I can wait until next term (Which starts in 2 months), or I can do it this term. My third option would be waiting until the schools Orange River tower which she is going on with the 53 other kids.

So any suggestions on what to do?

(Also sorry if this doesn’t make any sense or the writing is bad English is my second language and I am so overwhelmed by this whole thing)

So ive been bi for like a month and a half and now im starting to think in just gay like I get a way more noticeable feeling when thinking about guys than women women feel like normal like yeah there there but I have been more strongly attracted to guys I found out like my first guy crush out ways all my women crushes combined like i feel way stronger attracted to guys but im still kinda worried some people ima have to re tell and stuff but idk yet so yeah ive just been recently been thinking maybe im gay idk yet I just wanna know whats it like is it good better idk ive just been thinking recently that I might be gay rather than bi so I joined this subreddit for some advice so yeah just comment your thoughts and stuff about this

I need advice

Im 16 i'm a sophomore in high school and there are no gays at my school I find attractive, just beware I'm going to go on a rant that could offend a few people.

Ive been gay asl for a long time and I used to hate myself for it but now since I have came out and started to tell people I realize how lonely I am all the time. The problem is I don't like ANYONE at my high school and the LGBTQ+ community at school is genuinely f'd up. Half of them fake POTS and other disorders for clout on TikTok and it makes me sick as someone who actually has POTS and ADHD. Also I simply don't find them attractive. I don't typically find the type of people who make disorders and sexuality their entire identity. If this is you, do that, nobody is stopping you and I still support it. It simply is not for me.

It's been so hard to deal with the loneliness that I've made some poor decisions on myself that have led to harm and I don't know what to do anymore. I might just hold out until im 18 and hit Grindr hard to make up for missed time 😭 .

hi!! this is to people who might have experience and can maybe share in the comments when they had their first kiss and boyfriend i would really appreciate it bc my friends all get boyfriends and girlfriends now, and i just feel really left behind. But i also didnt out myself yet so i guess it makes sense bc no one knows im gay. Do you have any advice for dating as a teenager or what to do?? ty

#representation lol

Basically we’ve always made those gay jokes with each other. Like a lot. He always claimed to be straight though. I came out as bi fairly recently. However a couple weeks ago, he told me he made out with a guy while drunk, and now he’s questioning himself. The thing is he’s been sending a lot more gay reels than usual which is making me suspect he sort of has a crush on me. The problem is I don’t know if I’m into him. He’s literally my best friend in the entire world I don’t want to mess up our friendship. I’m too scared to ask him if he genuinely likes me and I don’t even know what I’d do if he did. I don’t think he’s my type idk.

For context, I’m 15M and I am not really out yet. (I am to my parents as they are lesbians (yes lucky Ik) and only a few friends) every time I meet someone at school or become friends with them, they are either straight or straight (that’s it) and every time I’ve met one of them it’s through a very stereotypicaly gay activity like theater or music or choir, and yet none of them are. I don’t know how to deal with this because like my school admin is super supportive of all identities and eveything, but then you have high schoolers which are to say the least, generally not. Like I dyed my hair rainbow for fun in march, and I had to lie to everyone and say it was to support my parents with the current administration and not cause I wanted to in fear of being outed. And I swear even though I don’t do anything to people, I still get weird looks and comments in the locker room as if gay people are attracted to every person they see like I would want you Roman 🙄. All this to say any suggestions for finding queer friends to hang out with aside from the gang I already do who I know are not interested in me lol.

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So theres this guy I'll call him Talon. But me and Talon have been friends for a couple years but a couple months ago we were hanging out together and I said something like "if you don't admit your cheating ill have to figure out your dark secret..." And he said with no hesitation "what that i like you?" And me in all my stupidity asked "what did you say?" Because I was a bit flustered and confused and he said "never mind" but after that he was a bit softer around me than normal and he puts up with a lot of my crap and I mean way more than others and during school he'd flirt with me lots and sometimes hold my hand under the desk but in June I finally confessed but he didn't reciprocate those feelings kind of but I thought it ruined out friend ship but he started sending me flirty reels but a couple days ago he texted "hey are you single" and for some reason I just cant text him back and don't know what to do

(Mods please let me post this I genuinely need help)

Im 15 and struggled to find the reason why I think some guys are cute and got jealous when they started dating girls at first I thought it was just bc I had a crush on the girls which is true but I also realized I had romantic feelings for the guys and now that ive cane out as bi I dont know how to flirt or even to find gay guys because there are none around where im from so if anyone can teach me good ways to flirt or how to notice if someone is bi or gay please let me know

Popping in to say you all are valid and good things await everyone :3

I've been dating my BF for 7 months. And I haven't done it yet but I want to break up because I don't think he understands me. I have AuDHD(ADHD + Autism) and yesterday I told him if he wanted do meet up and hang out and he told me that in the morning he is working and in the afternoon he should rest. After reading they I thought we'll then I'll meet up with my friends. And that afternoon he told me if I wanted to meet up the next day.

I said they I had met up with my friends but If he wanted I could tell them I couldn't met up because I wanted to be with him and he told me they he doesn't want to change my plans so I said that I'll meet up with my friends then.

We usually say each other good night but yesterday it was different he told me that I should care more about Us. And I was like Excuse me? You literally said I could met up with my friends I calmly said that if he wanted I could cancel it and go with him. And we exchanged words for quite some time and I went into a nervous crisis, and a shutdown at the same time... The heaviest thing I've experienced It's been 1 day and I still have a headache in the morning I told him everithing I felt and apologised but I'm not sure he meant it and I also told him I would turn off my phone and I also went my whole day without any communication whatsoever because I didn't want to go on a crisis again. And a few hours before posting this I messaged him telling him that my trip got cancelled and that we could meet up and asked him how his day went. His response was:"It could be better". And that's it. Not, a are you feeling good?, are you Ok... I told him that I was better but my head still hurts and I'm still sensitive to sound more than before and he left me on read. And for context he once told me he hated when people leave him on read and that he wouldn't do it to anyone.

I feel like he doesn't get me or that he straight up doesn't care anymore. I have a hard time opening myself to people and with him I've done it and he thinks I don't care about US? Like really WTF.

This has hurt me a lot because I haven't been able to sleep, I've stayed all night hiperventilating, curled up with my pillow and walking all arround my flat, and with headphones, with a headache and more things.(Really the list I've sent him of what happened during the night is 600 words long). And now that I need him he left me on read, this is the man I have to Love?

Please I need more opinions about this because I'm honestly lost and still with a headache.