u/LivingWestern1038

Just had probably the worst doctor's visit of my life. I went to establish care with a nurse practitioner, and we were going over my diagnoses. Suddenly she got very argumentative and wanted to know why I wasn't more active. I explained how debilitating my symptoms were, but she kept arguing that I should be more active and repeatedly criticized me for not being 'ambitious' enough.

I have at least four serious diagnoses, including CPTSD and severe depression.

She abruptly ended our appointment by telling me that I wasn't putting in enough effort to work with someone as 'hardcore' as her and snarkily told me, "Good luck with your life."

I cried for an hour afterward.

Anyway, I'm going to report her, but any advice on who to get people to listen to me would be most welcome.

Oh, the receptionist and another nurse saw me crying and comforted me. I got the feeling they've had to clean up after her before.

UPDATE: I've reported her to three different agencies, and two have responded to let me know that that they can't help me. (Those were my state's Division of Professional Registration Board of Healing Arts, also known as the licensing board, and my state's survey agency, which had a site called "Stop Adult Abuse".) I looked up The Joint Commission, but it looks like they don't deal with this kind of thing.

Apparently, the only ones who can help me are patient advocates from the medical group that *that nurse* works for... And (surprise, surprise!) they're the only ones I haven't heard back from.

Just had probably the worst doctor's visit of my life. I went to establish care with a nurse practitioner, and we were going over my diagnoses. Suddenly she got very argumentative and wanted to know why I wasn't more active. I explained how debilitating my symptoms were, but she kept arguing that I should be more active and repeatedly criticized me for not being 'ambitious' enough.

I have at least four serious diagnoses, including CPTSD and severe depression.

She abruptly ended our appointment by telling me that I wasn't putting in enough effort to work with someone as 'hardcore' as her and snarkily told me, "Good luck with your life."

I cried for an hour afterward.

Anyway, I'm going to report her, but any advice on who to get people to listen to me would be most welcome.

Oh, the receptionist and another nurse saw me crying and comforted me. I got the feeling they've had to clean up after her before.

Just had probably the worst doctor's visit of my life. I went to establish care with a nurse practitioner, and we were going over my diagnoses. Suddenly she got very argumentative and wanted to know why I wasn't more active. I explained how debilitating my symptoms were, but she kept arguing that I should be more active and repeatedly criticized me for not being 'ambitious' enough.

I have at least four serious diagnoses, including CPTSD and severe depression.

She abruptly ended our appointment by telling me that I wasn't putting in enough effort to work with someone as 'hardcore' as her and snarkily told me, "Good luck with your life."

I cried for an hour afterward.

Anyway, I'm going to report her, but any advice on who to get people to listen to me would be most welcome.

Oh, the receptionist and another nurse saw me crying and comforted me. I got the feeling they've had to clean up after her before.

Just had probably the worst doctor's visit of my life. I went to establish care with a nurse practitioner, and we were going over my diagnoses. Suddenly she got very argumentative and wanted to know why I wasn't more active. I explained how debilitating my symptoms were, but she kept arguing that I should be more active and repeatedly criticized me for not being 'ambitious' enough.

I have at least four serious diagnoses.

She abruptly ended our appointment by telling me that I wasn't putting in enough effort to work with someone as 'hardcore' as her and snarkily told me, "Good luck with your life."

I cried for an hour afterward.

Anyway, I'm going to report her, but any advice on who to get people to listen to me would be most welcome.

Oh, the receptionist and another nurse saw me crying and comforted me. I got the feeling they've had to clean up after that NP before.

Hi, I'm looking for a way to transfer my designs onto some of my darker colored clothing. I tried self adhesive wash away stabilizer, but hated how sticky it made the needle. Are there other (easy) options?

I saw some water-soluble, non-adhesive, transparent topper that was meant to be used with machine embroidery on fluffy fabrics. Can I draw a design on that and use it to transfer designs? ("New brothread Light Weight Clear Wash Away - Water Soluble Embroidery Topping Film")

My Nsister (34 yrs old at the time) has always wanted to marry, but her relationships have been unsuccessful so far. She's always been an immature bully who barely puts enough effort into relationships to keep them alive. A couple years ago, she announced that she was dating someone; she said (as relayed through my mom) that her boyfriend reminded her of our dad. (Red flag number one!) I also gleaned that he was argumentative. (Red flag two!) I already predicted that the relationship would end in an explosion.

They got engaged within a couple months and were married about three months after that.

Nobody seemed concerned about how fast the relationship was moving. I couldn't talk about it with my Nparents because I've never been allowed to criticize my sister.

Six months after the wedding, they were having serious marriage issues. My sister called my parents, crying, and of course they ran to help her without question. (Sidenote: they tried to manipulate me into playing midwife for their sheep while they were visiting her, even though I was very ill and completely inexperienced.)

Turns out, my Nsister hadn't told her hubby before the wedding that she was DEEP into debt. Long story short, he was yelling at her regularly at 3am. They've now been separated longer than they were together, and Sister is finally filing for divorce. I'm rolling my eyes at them, but it's maddening that I can't talk about it even though I knew from the beginning that this marriage was a disaster waiting to happen. Meanwhile, my mother is reacting as if every turn of events is a surprise to her.

Wild. Just wild.

I hate the phrase 'You don't need to let your chronic illness define you'. It feels very invalidating. My illness requires about 90% of my attention and energy throughout the day, so I feel like that phrase tries to deny just how severe the problem is. It feels like people are trying to deny the limitations my illness puts on me so that they don't have to be supportive. As a chronically I'll person, I constantly have people trying to pretend my illness 'isn't that bad'.

Am I the only one with a serious chronic illness who HATES this phrase?

I hate the phrase 'You don't need to let your chronic illness define you' but struggle to define why. It feels very invalidating. My illness requires about 90% of my attention throughout the day, so I feel like that phrase tries to deny just how severe the problem is. It feels like people are trying to deny the limitations my illness puts on me so that they don't have to be supportive.

Am I the only who hates this phrase or is this one of the phrases that annoys almost everyone with a serious chronic illness?

I'm autistic, and sometimes people talk to me like I'm a child. (For context, I have an above average IQ and most people can't tell that I'm autistic. They just seem to pick up on a "slight vibe".) This story happened when I was a young adult, but people still do this to me as 34 year old.

One of my mom's acquaintances asked me a question in *that voice*, as if she were speaking to a child, "So what it's like being....(yadda yadda I don't remember)?" I quipped back, "Well, people talk to me like I'm a child a lot!" And her face instantly fell. She understood, and I'd obviously cut deep.

What's a mature way to handle this? Do you swallow the disrespect, clap back, or approach the person privately afterward to talk it out? Is it normal to approach someone privately over something like this when they're practically a stranger to you?

I know this is a situation that will happen again in the future.

Edit: Thank you for the thoughtful answers. I think from now on I should try to address the problem directly and just say, "Please, don't talk to me like that." (Funny how it's easier to be snarky than honest!)

2nd Edit: For those of you who are implying that I did something wrong by appearing autistic, go work on yourselves