u/Lonely-Ant-6992

I (28F) and my boyfriend (30M) have been having some conflict over my garum project. He agreed that I could have one fridge shelf for my goat milk kefir but all of a sudden he has an issue with the 5 foot tall amphora of salted sardines that I’ve put on our apartment balcony. I’ve already told him that the rotting smell should go away after three months of outdoor fermentation but he says the smell “causes him to gag” and “bothers the neighbors.” 🙄

I can’t exactly scrap the project before it’s done. Should I break up with him because he doesn’t support my hobbies?

Hi all, I have a condition called vulvodynia which causes fluctuating vulvar pain along with other pelvic health problems that means there are often long stretches of time I can’t have penetrative sex and often don’t want any kind of genital stimulation. I recently got in a breakup with someone I really loved and it was my first serious polyamorous relationship. I haven’t been in a monogamous serious relationship since my pain started years ago and now I’m realizing if I did want to by monogamous it might complicate my relationships because I would be fulfilling all my partners sexual needs.

I have a high sex interest for other kinds of stimulation and exploration so I want someone who has a high sex interest but is okay with the fact that I have physical limitations that don’t have a good prognosis for improving. Anyone have any advice or commiseration? I know this isn’t really polyamory’s problem but I just have been reflecting on this a lot and I have a fear that if I did return to monogamy that no one would want to be exclusive with me.

Edit: I am interested in men exclusively

Hi all, I (24 F) am moving to Fairfax next week and will be starting a Master’s program at GMU. I was moving there to be with my partner but unfortunately he broke up with me a week and a half ago and I’ve been trying to pick up the pieces. Any suggestions for how to form connections? I’ll try and join clubs but they’re primarily targeted towards undergraduates.

For fun I like to write poetry, read, go out dancing, have deep conversations about life, play bass, go see live music, play board games, and spend time in nature. I have lots of love to give but I have trouble approaching people to strike up a conversation. It doesn’t help that I’m too visually impaired to drive at night so it’s expensive to uber to nightlife. How should I go about meeting people? I’m open to any kind words and advice on how to move forward and start building my new community. I’m particularly looking for any local groups to join or venues to go to that might be good places to meet people.

I’m really scared. Im 24 with lvl 1 autism. I’m partially visually impaired too. I feel like I need him. I didn’t think I was going to start socially from knowing nobody and now I am. I love him so much and he loves me. But he thinks our future plans don’t align which is absolutely true but I thought he would change his mind one day. I guess he hasn’t. I’m really sad but I don’t want to let this ruin all my emotional progress. At least I have an academic program waiting for me and housing all set up (not with him, I was going to give it a yrs before moving in together). The last time I saw him was 4 months ago at my sisters wedding when I introduced him to literally every family member. :(

Wish me luck and give me some kind words

I don’t do moving well, I don’t know anyone there. I wanted to be with him. Now I’m going to be alone across the country and he’s going to be living nearby. And we’re going to be separated. I don’t know how I can handle this. I’m leaving behind my support network. We’ve been together for two years, long distance for one.