u/LooseMarionberry1241

I had others accounts were I posted here years ago.

At those times I got a bunch of people in my dm asking stupid questions about my sa experiences or offering a space to talk to try to manipulate me later, some of them even tried to threat me into passing them nudes knowing I was a minor.

I hope you all get what you deserve and live with the guilt of what you´re doing. Looking for people to revictimize in a safe space for SA survivors is fucked up. Get fucking professional help dude, what the fuck are yall doing with your lives?????

Survivors of sexual assault have experienced what is like to lose control completly. Is something that changes you forever, sometimes even pyhsically and they seek a space to let it go and get validation and confort, this subreddit is THEIR SPACE.

This space is NOT for you.

(This is also a reminder to turn off your dms, let´s avoid this situations.)

Hablando más que nada de secundaria. El tema me pareció interesante y me gustaría escuchar opiniones de docentes.

And I would appreciate recommendations for any books or essays on the subject!!!

So, I'm 15f and I'm basically the opposite of shy. I enjoy talking to others because I see it as an opportunity to see the world differently, since inevitably in every conversation you're giving your opinion on something. I like understanding people, and that's why I've always been one to approach and talk to anyone, whether they're classmates, teachers, random people on the bus, or whatever.

I often enjoy these interactions, but it doesn't feel like I belong. I know that the most normal thing about adolescence is trying to fit in or feeling misunderstood, but I don't know how to fix it. Many times I feel like I'm not part of what I'm seeing. I see my friends talking and I realize that I don't see myself like them when I'm with them. I know I'm not a safe haven for any of them either, and I know that many times they put the same distance between themselves and me that a teenager might put between themselves and an adult. Many times, seeing them feels like seeing something for the first time or like watching a documentary.

I like seeing them having a good time; I just wish I could have that same ease with people my own age. I don't think it's something I've experienced before. I remember when I was six, I was bored with my classmates because they laughed at me or were just plain boring, so I would go play with kids twice my age or at least three years older. That hasn't changed over time. I still get along better with older people, even if that's limited to older teenagers. Even so, I feel out of place around them. I feel like I think like an adult, and I don't know how to fix it. I want to be a normal teenager too, and feel like I belong. I feel alone. The issue is that I could "belong" if I wanted to like I do but I wouldn't be myself so that means I won't find what I what for another few years? I think I'm might just be dramatic but I'm not sure.

Adult people always tell me I'm different, sometimes because im more mature, sometimes because I'm more advanced in class that my classmates, sometimes because I'm more empathetic or responsible or this or that or whatever.

I dont like when someone uses the "you're more.." cause I feel they're putting me above people my age and I don't think someone is more than others and even less that no one is different, like, if some people are different the rest aren't? What is even normal then? I don't think I've met a "normal" person ever. Anyways, there is something I can do to change what I feel or it'll just dissappear when I grow up?

**TL;DR; Im more mature than people my age and I have a hard time finding belonging somewhere. There's a way to fix my problem or it'll just go away as I grow up? I already participate in activities like my high school choir, the student union and I go to alternative people hangouts sometimes**.

Okay, I love history. I've been totally obsessed with it since I was about 10 years old. I love it so much that I plan to be a history teacher, and it really strikes me that in my country, Eurocentrism is mentioned, even if only briefly, in the last years of elementary school and the first years of middle school, like, the term is usually introduced through maps, talking about cartography and all that so, how can it be so heavily criticized, yet almost the entire program is profoundly Eurocentric? It's unbelievable. They talk for years about the Cold War, the First and Second World Wars, they still call the colonization of America "the discovery of America," and on top of that, it's always incredibly superficial; they never go into much depth on any of these topics. I mean, I understand that not everything fits into a one-year program, but if it's something that's touched on in several different years, wouldn't it be better to delve deeper gradually? It's not just history; any subject that revolves around the humanities is profoundly Eurocentric (there are some expecions, 9th grade was really focused on the history of Uruguay and its culture) but apart from that its really annoying. World Wars and the cold war are usually general knowledge so why invest so much time on it? There is so much to talk about. Maybe its just me and I´m being an annoying teenager but it feels so empty and uninteresting. (English its not my first language, sorryyyy)

Edit: Now that I think about it World Wars are probably general knowledge cause we learn about it in school all the time. Ignore that part.

I'm a 15-year-old girl, it's normal for guys around my age to be stupid. When we first start talking, it's not so bad, but once we're in a relationship, everything is awkard and annoying. I don't want to talk to them anymore, and I start wondering if I even like men. It happens all the time. I don't even know why I start dating them; they have nothing interesting and 70% of the time they're unattractive. I guess things are okay when we act more like friends than a couple, like, the second when we have to do things that boyfriends and girlfriends usually do, it's really awkward and unpleasant and I'm not even talking about something sexual. The concept of a relationship with a guy is awful. Maybe I'm not a bisexual and I only like girls or this is a normal experience as a teenager?

I'm talking mainly about directors, assistant directors and that kind of authorities.

There are violent situations that even endanger students' lives, and nobody does anything. I joined the student union to see if I could help, and all they get is the administration slamming the door in their faces.

At my high school, bullying and discrimination are rampant, even from staff members. The facilities are unsanitary, practically falling apart, and protocols aren't followed.

I reported a case of abuse, and nobody did anything. I went twice and told them that my friend has a boyfriend (both of them students) who harasses her, stalks her, threatens her, and physically assaults her, and nobody does anything. When I started crying because I was genuinely scared, they told me they didn't want me to think they weren't doing anything when really they weren't. They literally told me they referred the case to the psychologist and washed their hands of it, thinking it was resolved. Then they said they would call her mother and asked ME to remind THEM that they have to do something. How hard is it to forget that a student's life is at risk? Her boyfriend tried to kill her. They called her mother once, and since she never came, the case was simply abandoned.

I know I'm a teenager and that at some point I was going to run into the inadequacy of the system, but it's so frustrating. The teachers definitely aren't rich; I mean, you don't study for money, you study because you're passionate about it, and yet they're still so negligent. The same thing happens with social work. It's exhausting. I really want a reason that its not "that's how it is" "the world is just cruel".

This inefficiency is systematic even if someone wants to do something, if the rest don't move, it doesn't work, and that must be quite discouraging for anyone in the environment, but why is this systematic in the first place?

I'm part of the student union at my high school, and we were discussing institutional neglect. Especially situations where students reported to the high school authorities that they or other people were being abused and nothing was being done, even in cases where a life was in danger.

I suggested that a good management of the situations could do more than just help a victim. In other words, if the authorities acted properly (not just the high-school ones), we could help this x violent teenager become a citizen who contributes something positive tomorrow instead of another aggressor who will have more victims. So a treatment is a good long-term solution for everyone.

I know that things have nuances and that there is no single answer for every case, but it would be good to know in general terms.

I'm a girl and a teenager, so I guess romantic relationships are something new to me. I've discovered that I hate being with guys, well, I don't hate it, I'm with one now but I hate when they're super cheesy. I don't like having someone make exaggerated declarations of love to me, expecting me to respond something similar, it makes me really uncomfortable. Sometimes I wonder why it's like this. I mean, it's simpler and takes less time to be closer friends who kiss and that's it. I feel bad because I don't know how to handle it. This guy is really sweet, but this is so awkward.

I'm not saying I consider myself transphobic. When I talk about it, I'm referring to those things you don't usually realize are discriminatory until you pay close attention, like what happens with sexism.

I grew up in a conservative household, and now that I'm a teenager and have developed some critical thinking skills, I want to be able to distance myself from all the things I've heard since I was a child.

I think what made me realize that this is something I need to change is the amount of queer people in my social circle , it became super common to meet trans people and knowing that I still think transphobic things, even without knowing they're transphobic or that I actually have no idea makes me feel guilty. I want to be able to understand and respect properly.

Hii I don't know if this is the right place to ask this. I'm a teenager, and I've loved activism and feminism since I was a child. A few weeks ago I put feminist posters around my high school, but I started to question if its really fair for me to try to get involved on it when im privileged. I have a roof over my head, food, access to healthcare, education, the internet, technology, and enough time to do all this. Can I really pretend to be a representative if I'm so comfortable?