u/Lordofcapitalism

I finished high school 4 years ago and have been studying at a pretty good university in my country, but I still feel like I'm lagging behind everyone I know, both socially and career-wise.

My friends have an easy time finding connections, internships, joining competitions that are related to our degree, yet all I do is study, go home, and mess around with friends. I feel like I don't put enough effort into my career or network.

Part of why I don't put effort into these things is that I feel that I'm a naturally unlikeable person, I imagine that if I were to go to conferences and try to meet new people, most of them would just ignore me or not give a damn about me. So I just never rarely leave my comfort zone, because if I did I'd just be putting myself and everyone through a bad and, frankly boring time.

I try really hard to be more outgoing, to relate to people better, and be more calm around new people, yet I always fail miserably. I either end up letting someone else that is with me take the lead, or just not do anything.

I sometimes think that I am perhaps destined to live a miserable life. I'm a social disaster, I can't talk, I can't have fun, yet I feel like my inner world is so full and I like to read and think a lot. But whenever I'm with people the light inside me just turns off and I become the dullest person imaginable.

As much as I try to take a step back and analyze my behaviours with people, I ultimately revert to old habits of being quiet and dull and unlikeable

So last February this girl (20F) sent me (21M) a message and told me she wanted to be friends, let's call her F. I accepted and we got along very well, and then she told me that her friend who we'll call B (20F), was interested in me and that I should talk to her. I did and we got along VERY well, but we only kept on texting and calling because B lives very far away and we couldn't meet up until school starts.

In the mean time, I also got very close with F and I thought I might have found a best friend in her. I told her everything and she told me everything and I feel like I would've taken a bullet for her.

Anyways, back to the present. Yesterday I sent a message to B asking her if we should go out, since she came like a week ago and we already planned it. She told me "No, I actually talked with F". I didn't know what she meant and when I asked her she explained it.

F told B a secret about me, and if anyone wants to know the secret just ask me in the comments, but this story is already getting long.

When I confronted F about it in messages, she told me I was overreacting and it wasn't such a big deal, and she sent me voice messages with her friends in the dorm laughing and saying that I was making a big deal out of nothing. And when I told her she was being immature she turned defensive and started saying that we shouldn't be friends anymore then. So I blocked her.

But then I cried so hard man, it was unbearable. I feel like everything that happened this summer was wasted. I lost a person I thought would be a lifelong friend and a girl I really loved. I just feel like things never seem to go right for me, something always has tm happen to ruin everything. I try to be grateful to what I have, but when something like this happens it just makes me doubt whether I should even try to be happy.

I mainly wanted to rant, but your views of the matter will help me a lot. Thank youu!

I've found a summer job at the ZEN clothing shop in Algiers, and during my interview the employer clearly stated that I'll be working from 8:30 to 15:30 some days and from 15:00 to 22:00 on others for 28000 DA a month, with each friday being a day off.

I thought that was great! I can work and still have enough time to do many things I enjoy, like learning new stuff and going out, but it turned out I was too optimistic.

This past week I've been asked to work from 12pm to 22pm, and apparently my day offs aren't really day offs, they're just a "recuperation" from those additional hours that I'm working that I never planned on.

And the final straw was the fact that they asked us to work a full day shift from 8am to 22pm today (Friday) while I was planning to do some other stuff. Needless to say I didn't show up and I fully expect to get fired.

But I just feel like I'm doing way too much work for 28000 DA. I already worked at Mega Pizza before and they treated their employees just as poorly for just the same poor wage.

I know that this is Algeria and they can't afford to pay us generous amounts, but I'd be completely happy with my 28000 da if I just could follow the schedule I agreed upon previously with my employer.

What do you think?

So I (20M) and my best friend (19F) have been really close for 2 years now. What I love most about my relationship with her is how authentic we both are, neither of us never had any romantic interest in the other yet we express our love for each other so freely and it feels really good.

Recently she told me her friend was interested in me, and that she wanted to date me. I was interested in her friend too so I got to know her more by text and we went on some kind of "dates" around campus, but I never actually asked her out which I think is my first mistake. Everytime we were together it all went really well but she could very well just see me as a friend.

I expressed my doubts to my bestie and she kept reassuring me that her friend likes me and is really interested in me. I believed her and I let myself get attached to this new girl knowing that when the time is right I'll just express my love (again, a big mistake from my part tbh)

Anyways my bestie came out of nowhere yesterday and told me that she wasn't actually sure all this time whether her friend liked me. She told me that all she knew was that she was physically into me, but nothing else was sure. I honestly got pretty mad at how she kept giving me false hopes, and now I don't know whether this madness is justified or whether she just wanted the best for me and wanted me to make a move on her friend...

I communicated my displeasure to her, and she completely dismissed it and said that I should just "move on". And then immediately after that she started talking about a new guy that she got really close to and was talking to that had the potential to be a new best friend to her 😭. I don't mind her having other friends but I just think the timing was kind of awkward, I feel like she should've helped me deal with my dissapointement a little more before telling me all about her new friend.

Anyways I understand this might all be in my head. Maybe I annoyed her with all the talk about her friend and she just wanted to talk about something lighter. I still really like her and I'll probably be over all this soon enough, but right now I'm feeling like shit. So any advice on how to deal with this situation would be welcome.

Thank you!

So I (20M) and my best friend (19F) have been really close for 2 years now. What I love most about my relationship with her is how authentic we both are, neither of us never had any romantic interest in the other yet we express our love for each other so freely and it feels really good.

Recently she told me her friend was interested in me, and that she wanted to date me. I was interested in her friend too so I got to know her more by text and we went on some kind of "dates" around campus, but I never actually asked her out which I think is my first mistake. Everytime we were together it all went really well but she could very well just see me as a friend.

I expressed my doubts to my bestie and she kept reassuring me that her friend likes me and is really interested in me. I believed her and I let myself get attached to this new girl knowing that when the time is right I'll just express my love (again, a big mistake from my part tbh)

Anyways my bestie came out of nowhere yesterday and told me that she wasn't actually sure all this time whether her friend liked me. She told me that all she knew was that she was physically into me, but nothing else was sure. I honestly got pretty mad at how she kept giving me false hopes, and now I don't know whether this madness is justified or whether she just wanted the best for me and wanted me to make a move on her friend...

I communicated my displeasure to her, and she completely dismissed it and said that I should just "move on". And then immediately after that she started talking about a new guy that she got really close to and was talking to that had the potential to be a new best friend to her 😭. I don't mind her having other friends but I just think the timing was kind of awkward, I feel like she should've helped me deal with my dissapointement a little more before telling me all about her new friend.

Anyways I understand this might all be in my head. Maybe I annoyed her with all the talk about her friend and she just wanted to talk about something lighter. I still really like her and I'll probably be over all this soon enough, but right now I'm feeling like shit. So any advice on how to deal with this situation would be welcome.

Thank you!