u/Lost_inworld

Hi all, need some guidance please. I used to live in future fantasy and past very much but could focus on my things whenever i wanted to. But then i got to know that this is overthinking and we don't need to stay in the head all the time so i started noticing and monitoring thoughts all day which can't be undone now. Also, what is the true meaning of being mindful like should i be mindful all the time and should not engage with my thoughts at all?

I went through a rough time after I started to notice that i really do Overthink and my mind chatter doesn't stop at all.

If you just stay mindful of the activity by returning your attention to the activity again and again so won't you be disconnected from the world outside? I live alone because of job so if i just stay mindful of the things i do then how do i stay connected with my family and friends? Thoughts like fantasizing future of my family, career dreams and random thoughts about family, friends or whatever appears is mind keeps me connected to them and i can feel the love and connection to people.

But lately, after i started noticing and monitoring then i don't know what kind of thoughts are ok and when to stay mindful. I need some guidance on my way of looking at this.

Leaving at 8 AM and returning at 8 PM to home from the job.

Going to the gym after that.

Doing household chores after that as i live alone.

Have calls with family, friends and then GF.

Then it's already around 11:30 and by the time I'm ready to sleep, it's already 12, then wake up around 6:30 - 7:00 AM and try to have a morning brisk walk for 30 mins and get ready for the office.

Still not having deep sleep in those hours.

I am fat so can't exclude workouts and morning walks because trying to get in shape. I quit smoking around 50 days ago.

Recently was dealing with overthinking (managed mostly) and brain fog (maybe because of quit smoking) still now.

Feeling tired and sleepy during the day, can be because of less sleep or other issues?? A little suggestion or opinion would be appreciated. Thanks!

I used to overthink which i didn't realise earlier like getting lost in thoughts or keep planning about the future. I started meditation then i realised that i have so many thoughts and my thinking pattern is more of overthinking.

Then, my mind started monitoring thoughts and constantly kept checking whether thinking or not and present or not. Tried multiple ways now but got frustrated. Now even when i talk to friends or family then i keep checking about thinking or not.

This self awareness has made me more aware of my thoughts (which were in the background earlier but now actively interfering), made me more aware of my brain fog. Now i think that thinking or overthinking was a small problem compared to "Checking or Monitoring" or this hyper-awareness mode.

Any suggestions would be appreciated regarding should i let thoughts flow as it is and should cut ties with "monitoring" or any other way out.

I used to overthink which i didn't realise earlier like getting lost in thoughts or keep planning about the future. I started meditation then i realised that i have so many thoughts and my thinking pattern is more of overthinking.

Then, my mind started monitoring thoughts and constantly kept checking whether thinking or not and present or not. Tried multiple ways now but got frustrated. Now even when i talk to friends or family then i keep checking about thinking or not.

This self awareness has made me more aware of my thoughts (which were in the background earlier but now actively interfering), made me more aware of my brain fog. Now i think that thinking or overthinking was a small problem compared to "Checking or Monitoring" or this hyper-awareness mode.

Any suggestions would be appreciated regarding should i let thoughts flow as it is and should cut ties with "monitoring" or any other way out.

As per the title, i maybe was thinking or living in my head like forever. I tried meditation, then got to know that there are so many thoughts present in my mind every time. And I became self or hyper aware, now my mind keeps checking all the time if i am present, thinking or focused.

I used to live in my head in thinking and when something was necessary, i was able to do that as my attention used to shift but now when i shift attention outwards then i start questioning whether I am present or not, am i thinking or not. How does a normal person lives and thinks.

I talk to myself like all the day that i did this right, i did this wrong, i was thinking just now, don't think too much. Or i just stay in the constant loop of "solving it".

The thought always stays in my mind now, i can't focus outwards and stay in my head only all the time. Thinking about thinking or checking. This is so damn frustrating.

Feels like something happened to me and i can't stop thinking about my current state, having discussions with myself, getting confused in very small decisions, "feels like i am detached from the real world, not fully present mentally with parents, family or friends.

Working memory has been affected a lot, relationships are affected a lot etc..

Used to smoke weed and enjoy activities like watching a simple movie which i watched 10 times still felt great and now my mind keeps drifting, checking, blaming myself, staying in discussion with myself. Now after weed, i can't stop my mind from checking whether present or not in the moment.

Is this overthinking/hyper-awareness or Maladaptive daydreaming?

Help or suggestions of any kind will be appreciated. Sorry to make it that long.

Hi, as the title mentioned, i overthink a lot which i recently found out about. I used to think that this type of thinking is necessary and will save me from uncertainty, will help me planning etc...but i truly now understand that this is just a trick played by the mind. No i accept that this is overthinking not planning or active thinking.

But this still exists as i drift into thoughts quite easily and many times to check if i am thinking or not lol.

This has ruined my focus completely, now i can't listen to a song for 4 mins without getting pulled by thoughts, cannot read even 30 mins in one go, cannot even focus on planning or active thinking because i get dragged by thoughts automatically. This has made an impact on my mind to store memories as well.

If you guys got any idea to solve this or getting better in focusing so please help me as i literally need it?

Hey guys,

Please help me out if you can in any way as this is ruining my daily life, health, sleep, family and friends relationships.

I don't know when i started to overthink (maybe a year ago it got worse i joined a private job) but lately when i read and listened to a few podcasts then i got to know that i used to overthink for a long time now. I used to just sit quietly and think a lot about so many things which i thought were positive and making me better but i was wrong as i was analysing every moment, something small happened to me seems big to me etc..

Then i started trying meditation also and researched so much and listened to many podcasts etc to stop overthinking. In the meditation phase, i realised that there are so many thoughts in our mind that keep popping and when you ignore one then another appears then another and so on.. Because of that i became hyper aware of my thoughts, even though i understood the logic to not get attached with you thoughts but let just them stay in the background but as i became aware of thoughts so now i notice that thoughts keep appearing everytime in my mind even when sleeping so sleep got disturbed and now it feels like i haven't slept for a few weeks that good.

Now when i just sit, my mind goes if I am thinking or not, if I ignore these thoughts then i get into the thinking loop of something (random thoughts positive, negative, neutral, sometimes benefits so i find thinking important as well)

Now, the main issue is that i know that i should not engage with thoughts and when thoughts arise then i should return to the present. But if i do it then i need to do it for of thousands times in a day to keep returning.

Earlier when i used to think then when i am occupied in something like doing a task, listening to music, chilling with friends or family then i don't used to pay attention to thoughts or was present in the moment. Now even doing other things, i just keep noticing that there are thoughts in the background, notice while i am asleep, doing tasks, talking with friends so i just get zone out.

It is so frustrating, poor sleep, poor memory, brain fog a lot, not able to focus on anything (main problem), can't even listen to a 3 minutes song which is ruining my personal and professional life.

Any ideas on how to not keep checking all the times, or just keep thouyin the background so i don't notice them all the times, anything that can help please..

Sorry for making it a long and detailed post but i tried to keep it minimum possible with explanation of mostly relevant things..