u/Lucid002

Hey everyone 17M, I need perspective on a horrific experience I just had with an underqualified therapist.

My Situation:I live in a highly toxic household where I am the family scapegoat. My mother constantly screams at me, causing severe emotional abuse and narcissistic trauma. I am highly analytical, and my goal is to safely leave this house.

Session 1: She was very nice. When I said my goal was to leave the house, she acknowledged how bad things must be. Afterwards on WhatsApp, she praised me, saying: "You are very insightful and very intelligent... I'm looking forward to hearing everything you have to say."

Session 2 (The Switch):I came in ready to dive into the real trauma. Everything completely flipped. It turns out her actual qualification is an Educational Psychologist who handles school reports and study skills. Because she was out of her league, she panicked, raised her voice, and took her anger out on me.During the session, she: Explicitly told me:

"No negativity and no complex terms."

She hated me using precise psychological vocabulary because it threatened her authority.

Drew a pair of binoculars and told me to look at my abuse through a "positive lens."

Demanded I "write that I'm grateful for having food" (basic survival).

Blamed me, called my trauma "excuses," and told me to stop blaming my family.

Told me to stay at home and "grow to be better" (telling me to tolerate the abuse).

Her clinical advice for severe trauma? "Just go boxing."

Demanded I send her my academic school reports, treating me like a child.

Also said I was playing the victim

And she kept cutting me off when I was trying to speak

I left with my self-esteem destroyed. It felt like she repeated the exact screaming and blaming dynamic my mother inflicts on me. i want to cry after that session 😢

Hey everyone 17M, I need perspective on a horrific experience I just had with an underqualified therapist.

My Situation:I live in a highly toxic household where I am the family scapegoat. My mother constantly screams at me, causing severe emotional abuse and narcissistic trauma. I am highly analytical, and my goal is to safely leave this house.

Session 1: She was very nice. When I said my goal was to leave the house, she acknowledged how bad things must be. Afterwards on WhatsApp, she praised me, saying: "You are very insightful and very intelligent... I'm looking forward to hearing everything you have to say."

Session 2 (The Switch):I came in ready to dive into the real trauma. Everything completely flipped. It turns out her actual qualification is an Educational Psychologist who handles school reports and study skills. Because she was out of her league, she panicked, raised her voice, and took her anger out on me.During the session, she: Explicitly told me:

"No negativity and no complex terms."

She hated me using precise psychological vocabulary because it threatened her authority.

Drew a pair of binoculars and told me to look at my abuse through a "positive lens."

Demanded I "write that I'm grateful for having food" (basic survival).

Blamed me, called my trauma "excuses," and told me to stop blaming my family.

Told me to stay at home and "grow to be better" (telling me to tolerate the abuse).

Her clinical advice for severe trauma? "Just go boxing."

Demanded I send her my academic school reports, treating me like a child.

Also said I was playing the victim

And she kept cutting me off when I was trying to speak

I left with my self-esteem destroyed. It felt like she repeated the exact screaming and blaming dynamic my mother inflicts on me. i want to cry after that session 😢

Hey everyone 17M, I need perspective on a horrific experience I just had with an underqualified therapist.

My Situation:I live in a highly toxic household where I am the family scapegoat. My mother constantly screams at me, causing severe emotional abuse and narcissistic trauma. I am highly analytical, and my goal is to safely leave this house.

Session 1: She was very nice. When I said my goal was to leave the house, she acknowledged how bad things must be. Afterwards on WhatsApp, she praised me, saying: "You are very insightful and very intelligent... I'm looking forward to hearing everything you have to say."

Session 2 (The Switch):I came in ready to dive into the real trauma. Everything completely flipped. It turns out her actual qualification is an Educational Psychologist who handles school reports and study skills. Because she was out of her league, she panicked, raised her voice, and took her anger out on me.During the session, she: Explicitly told me:

"No negativity and no complex terms."

She hated me using precise psychological vocabulary because it threatened her authority.

Drew a pair of binoculars and told me to look at my abuse through a "positive lens."

Demanded I "write that I'm grateful for having food" (basic survival).

Blamed me, called my trauma "excuses," and told me to stop blaming my family.

Told me to stay at home and "grow to be better" (telling me to tolerate the abuse).

Her clinical advice for severe trauma? "Just go boxing."

Demanded I send her my academic school reports, treating me like a child.

Also said I was playing the victim

And she kept cutting me off when I was trying to speak

I left with my self-esteem destroyed. It felt like she repeated the exact screaming and blaming dynamic my mother inflicts on me. i want to cry after that session 😢

Hey everyone 17M, I need perspective on a horrific experience I just had with an underqualified therapist.

My Situation:I live in a highly toxic household where I am the family scapegoat. My mother constantly screams at me, causing severe emotional abuse and narcissistic trauma. I am highly analytical, and my goal is to safely leave this house.

Session 1: She was very nice. When I said my goal was to leave the house, she acknowledged how bad things must be. Afterwards on WhatsApp, she praised me, saying: "You are very insightful and very intelligent... I'm looking forward to hearing everything you have to say."

Session 2 (The Switch):I came in ready to dive into the real trauma. Everything completely flipped. It turns out her actual qualification is an Educational Psychologist who handles school reports and study skills. Because she was out of her league, she panicked, raised her voice, and took her anger out on me.During the session, she: Explicitly told me:

"No negativity and no complex terms."

She hated me using precise psychological vocabulary because it threatened her authority.

Drew a pair of binoculars and told me to look at my abuse through a "positive lens."

Demanded I "write that I'm grateful for having food" (basic survival).

Blamed me, called my trauma "excuses," and told me to stop blaming my family.

Told me to stay at home and "grow to be better" (telling me to tolerate the abuse).

Her clinical advice for severe trauma? "Just go boxing."

Demanded I send her my academic school reports, treating me like a child.

Also said I was playing the victim

And she kept cutting me off when I was trying to speak

I left with my self-esteem destroyed. It felt like she repeated the exact screaming and blaming dynamic my mother inflicts on me. i want to cry after that session 😢

Hey everyone 17M, I need perspective on a horrific experience I just had with an underqualified therapist.

My Situation:I live in a highly toxic household where I am the family scapegoat. My mother constantly screams at me, causing severe emotional abuse and narcissistic trauma. I am highly analytical, and my goal is to safely leave this house.

Session 1: She was very nice. When I said my goal was to leave the house, she acknowledged how bad things must be. Afterwards on WhatsApp, she praised me, saying: "You are very insightful and very intelligent... I'm looking forward to hearing everything you have to say."

Session 2 (The Switch):I came in ready to dive into the real trauma. Everything completely flipped. It turns out her actual qualification is an Educational Psychologist who handles school reports and study skills. Because she was out of her league, she panicked, raised her voice, and took her anger out on me.During the session, she: Explicitly told me:

"No negativity and no complex terms."

She hated me using precise psychological vocabulary because it threatened her authority.

Drew a pair of binoculars and told me to look at my abuse through a "positive lens."

Demanded I "write that I'm grateful for having food" (basic survival).

Blamed me, called my trauma "excuses," and told me to stop blaming my family.

Told me to stay at home and "grow to be better" (telling me to tolerate the abuse).

Her clinical advice for severe trauma? "Just go boxing."

Demanded I send her my academic school reports, treating me like a child.

Also said I was playing the victim

And she kept cutting me off when I was trying to speak

I left with my self-esteem destroyed. It felt like she repeated the exact screaming and blaming dynamic my mother inflicts on me. i want to cry after that session 😢

Some VERY important lines: She's Indian and Muslim, and mother's are treated as gods here, who can do no wrong She also has a: BA, BA in Psychology, Master of Education (M.Ed) in educational psychology

Also what therapist should I look for instead: Clinical psychologist?

Thank u guys for the nice comments ❤️

Hey everyone 17M, I need perspective on a horrific experience I just had with an underqualified therapist.

My Situation:I live in a highly toxic household where I am the family scapegoat. My mother constantly screams at me, causing severe emotional abuse and narcissistic trauma. I am highly analytical, and my goal is to safely leave this house.

Session 1: She was very nice. When I said my goal was to leave the house, she acknowledged how bad things must be. Afterwards on WhatsApp, she praised me, saying: "You are very insightful and very intelligent... I'm looking forward to hearing everything you have to say."

Session 2 (The Switch):I came in ready to dive into the real trauma. Everything completely flipped. It turns out her actual qualification is an Educational Psychologist who handles school reports and study skills. Because she was out of her league, she panicked, raised her voice, and took her anger out on me.During the session, she: Explicitly told me:

"No negativity and no complex terms."

She hated me using precise psychological vocabulary because it threatened her authority.

Drew a pair of binoculars and told me to look at my abuse through a "positive lens."

Demanded I "write that I'm grateful for having food" (basic survival).

Blamed me, called my trauma "excuses," and told me to stop blaming my family.

Told me to stay at home and "grow to be better" (telling me to tolerate the abuse).

Her clinical advice for severe trauma? "Just go boxing."

Demanded I send her my academic school reports, treating me like a child.

Also said I was playing the victim

And she kept cutting me off when I was trying to speak

I left with my self-esteem destroyed. It felt like she repeated the exact screaming and blaming dynamic my mother inflicts on me. i want to cry after that session 😢