u/M0rbiddd2

I wish I could post screenshots. I found out about the bpdlovedones subreddit and holy fuck.

This page is filled with people just shitting on the WHOLE community. Making memes, calling all of us selfish, self centered, some people even said how we should be locked away? There was so much more honestly I was in tears.

Thats really what they think of us? Like FUCK man. I knew we were unlikable but to be locked away? To be told we don’t deserve love because we “abuse it”?

Questions on degreasing/degunkifying bones. Additional question on preservation-

Hi friends-I have quite a few animal bones that I’m working on. I have one deer skull with a bunch of neck tissue I can’t get off, some rabbit vertebrae/ribs, rabbit arm/leg bones, one full rabbit paw that I CANNOT get the tendons off of, one bobcat paw with a bunch of stuck tissue, and a fawn hoof

In isopropyl I have a fawn hoof given to me, fawn tail and fawn ears.

I feel like the water isn’t getting warm enough. It’s been a few months and my skull seems to have made minimal progress. It’s definitely degreasing but the tissue is stuck?

This is my first time doing any of this from start to finish so I’m really not sure what I’m doing besides what I’ve researched. Here are my questions

1. What type of heater do you recommend if at all? The big bones are in a 5 gallon and the rabbit paw is in a take away soup container 🫙 both face the sun but by the time it’s noon it’s out of the light and I can’t move it anywhere else

2. How long can removing tissue take? Tendons? Like I said, I feel like it’s making minimal progress. The most progress I make it when I scrub at it and even then it’s very stringy and doesn’t want to come off

3. Any further tips on preserving ?

Like I said, I have a fawn tail, I’m going to take them out tomorrow (72 hours) let them dry for 48h, put them in borax for 2 weeks and see how they feel?
I didn’t skin them fully but I did razor off any flesh and brought them down as far as I could without actually skinning(never done it before) So far the area of the head that I cut is hard(defleshed), so is the outer part of the ear. The inner is still fairly soft

TYIA!

Hubby and I are moving to Salem for his job. We already found an apartment near the ferry/downtown but a little further down.

Where do the locals like to go to escape the tourists?
How bad is the morning/afternoon commute in downtown on a typical day?
Where do the tourists typically park during season?
What utility companies do people use down there?
What phone company works best? My atnt only had 1 bar
Where do the young adults typically go? We would really like to make friends with people with the same interests

TYIA!!!

We got my cat, Winston when he was about 1.5. Since the very first day he has hurt us. It was bad at first, then really bad. Now it’s okay but he really can have moments.
He’s ripped my arm apart multiple times, eaten the carpet, the wall, he’s eaten 2 computer monitors and has already bit the third. He’s eaten Xmas lightbulbs, choked on my hoodie string, and honestly there’s probably more. He’s a hazard to himself and us.

Obviously he’s been to the vet. The first woman told me that it was normal and if I can’t handle it I need to surrender. Because of that visit I didn’t take him to the vet for years unless it was urgent like the bulbs. (Which they told me to just let him pass)
About a year ago I couldn’t handle it anymore. My fiancé and I have to take turns on who shares the living room couch with him that night, we can no longer let him in the bedroom because he started attacking me in my sleep. So we brought him to a new vet.

The second vet is where I was first told about behavioral euthanasia. He also suggested medication or getting a friend.

During this we were going to euthanize but we cancelled last minute and decided that we could in fact handle another cat and so we cancelled, got him on meds and got him a friend.

Long story short, he bullies the ever living fuck out of Charlie. He’s left puncture wounds, ripped out whiskers, still eats the carpet. This is all when supervised too. It’s like a switch goes off. One second he’s okay, the next he’s making the most ear piercing hiss I’ve ever heard a cat make. He’s a lot more vocal now too and not in a good way sometimes. I know for a fact getting the second car has made him more territorial, but this cat is so sweet. He tries to play with him sometimes too but Winston isn’t having it.

I’ve tried absolutely everything. Special play, treats, making him an outdoor cat. I tried adopting out; no one wants him. Of course, who would want an aggressive cat?
I tried calling barns and absolutely nothing. I’ve called shelters and they all say he’s not adoptable, he’d get put down, they won’t take him bc he’s on meds but won’t take him if I wean him.

Back in December he ripped my hand apart and we made the appointment but I couldn’t do it and cancelled.

Since BE was originally brought up, I’ve made so many appointments with pet behavior specialist, I talked to a program called losing lulu, more than 1 vet at the office. Everyone says this is the best option for all of us. But why do I feel so fucking heavy?

Lately he’s been worse. I’m not sure if it’s the heat getting to him or maybe a med adjustment but he’s going after the other cat a lot more and today he attacked my leg out of no where again.

We decided we’re going to euthanize as of last month. My fiancé got a job offer across the state and I know the move is going to be too much for Winston to handle and honestly, I hate to say this but I can’t do this anymore.
It’s been 3 1/2 years of this and trying to work it out but I’m so fucking exhausted. I’m covered in scars, I’m tired, I miss my fiancé, I miss not being scared in my own home.
We rarely have sex anymore because of how distant we’ve gotten since having to sleep apart. I miss him but fuck I feel so guilty! That’s my little baby and I have to put him down. What the hell did he do?

Who am I to make this choice? I have mental health issues, do I need to be put down too? Who am I to play god?
I feel like we didn’t try hard enough. Like we’re missing something. Idk. I just needed to get this out. I feel sick.

His appointment is tomorrow at 3 and I’m realizing a lot of lasts. The last time I bought his food. The last time I buy his medicine- I just gave him his last dose before he goes.
I’m so broken. I want to be with him so bad. I feel so disgusting and sad