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In my experience, they’re not the type to coddle people’s feelings, but they also don’t go out of their way to be assholes just for the sake of it either like the online mbti community says. Most of them just like arguing and teasing and debating. I have many ENTP family members and friends and I don’t remember one of them being an asshole. Direct, combative, stubborn, blunt, assertive, yes, but not actually rude. But again, I like hanging out around mature people.

One thing that does bug me though is how they treat every discussion like it needs a winner and always expect victory when sometimes it’s not about being right, it’s about trading ideas or just conversing normally.

Every type has their flaws and I could list plenty for all of them. But as a pretty "unlikeable" isolated INTJ who doesn’t conform to society at all, with morals that a lot of people would call questionable I’ve noticed something.

Most people are quick to judge me. They don’t take the time to understand my perspective or where I’m coming from. They see the surface and immediately write me off as cold and selfish.

INFPs are genuinely one of the rare types that actually listen and make me feels safe venting my complex emotions to them. Even when they don’t agree with me, they’ll take the time sit with what I’m saying for hours, try to understand my perspective, and actually hear me out on everything and even ask for more. It’s rare, and I really appreciate the way they sympathise with the "outcast".

ENFPs and ENTPs are the same way, they won’t judge, they will listen and relate but the second the heavy topic lands, they’re like “yeah that’s so true I relate so much … anyway, check out this cool thing I found!” and we’re off to the next shiny distraction.

Anyone else notice this pattern?

I’m probably gonna get laughed at for believing in mbti compatibility chart but whatever.

I am an INTJ male and I’ve realized I’m really drawn to INFP women. There’s something about that soft, feminine energy combined with the ability to have deep, meaningful conversations at the same time that just hits different for me.

I know the classic MBTI compatibility charts say INTJs pair best with XNTPs, but that hasn’t really matched my experience or preferences. ENTPs are fun as friends and super stimulating but they tend to overwhelm me and they don’t give me the soft, gentle femininity I’m looking for in a woman, and I have found out through my experience that they’re mostly just talk. Plus I mean no offense to anyone but I really don’t get along with very assertive and argumentative women at all. I know many ENTPs and they all have this one thing in common. They LOVE debating and arguing constantly and while I enjoy it greatly in a friendship context it’s such a turn off for me in a relationship if my woman is just trying to argue and debate with me constantly or tynna dominate or "outsmart" me in a conversation, I genuinely can’t stand it

My ex was an INTP and she was cool and intellectually compatible but the romantic spark just wasn’t there

ISFJ are also apparently high in our compatibility chart, I know one as a friend and she is lovely but our discussions never go anywhere beyond surface level conversations and I need more than that in a person I’m going to spend the rest of my life with

I have known INFP women and I like the gentleness they have and the introspection in general. A friend of mine is dating an INFP and she is very agreeable, feminine, doesn’t talk much and is actually very smart and funny but in a non "trying to outsmart you" way and i like that. I have never been with one personally so I’m asking for the experiences of those that have, please do share your experience in the comments

Assalamu alaikum brothers and sisters, so I am not gay or anything I’m a straight man who prays fasts and fulfills islamic obligations etc, and obviously believe homosexuality is a sin according to Islam and I know that nobody is free from sin as we all have our tests, but I don’t, like, actively go out of my way to mistreat or disrespect gay people

At the lowest point in my life, a homosexual person who was a stranger actually helped me when straight family members or friends didnt even lift a finger for me and I owe him a lot, and the gay people I’ve personally met have been kind and respectful in general so I have no problem being friends with someone who is gay as long as we vibe and they’re a good human being, and I even feel bad when I see them being judged or mistreated as bad people just because of their sexual orientation. I don’t celebrate it or anything, but I dont really have this hatred for them either that lots of other muslims have

I was discussing this with a friend earlier and he told me I’m going to hell for this and he brought up the story of Prophet Lut’s (AS) wife (you know the story, even though she was straight, she was still doomed to eternal punishment because she had nothing against them or sided with them in some way)

This has been weighing on me. I’m not trying to change Islamic teachings or anything but I just genuinely don’t feel hatred in my heart towards them as individuals or towards anyone in general provided they are a good human being

Does this really put me in danger of punishment?

Would appreciate sincere, knowledgeable responses , thank you

I’m trying to get a realistic sense of my chances and could use some perspective from others. My paternal grandma developed dementia toward the end of her life around age 73 (her parents didn’t have it). She was illiterate. My dad is now early 60´s and still very mentally sharp despite not very healthy lifestyle like smoking heavily and lack of exercise, while his older siblings are in their 70s and also doing great cognitively. On my mother’s entire side of the family there is zero history of dementia and everyone stays mentally healthy. I know age is the biggest risk factor overall but I wanted to know whether having a grandparent who got it raises your chances a lot?

Hi there
I’m really struggling and hoping for some sincere Islamic advice. I have a big problem with uncontrolled anger that I let out on people around me, and I don’t care honestly about the people I do this to except that I do it to my mother as well who is the only person I care about

Sometimes I get angry and I snap at her and make her feel disrespected, even though I love her and immediately regret it. I always apologise to her every time it happens and promise her and myself I’ll do better, and it did get better but it still happens when I’m under stress. She forgives me everytime like it’s nothing which is both a blessing and something that makes me feel even more guilty because I know I don’t want to keep hurting someone who is so patient with me.

I know never raising your voice at your parents is one of the most important things in islam and thats why i feel terrible

On top of that, I’m plagued by jealousy and violent thoughts (that I will never act on but they disturb me a lot). The only thing that calms these feelings is alcohol, but I know drinking is a major sin and I genuinely want to quit because it became an addiction and now I drink everyday. I feel like a bad person overall I genuinely don’t even have the vocabulary to express how much I hate myself and think the only way to escape the hell that my thoughts are is to off myself

How do I deal with this from an Islamic perspective? Any advice from those who have struggled with similar issues would mean a lot.

Hi there
I’m really struggling and hoping for some sincere Islamic advice. I have a big problem with uncontrolled anger that I let out on people around me, and I don’t care honestly about the people I do this to except that I do it to my mother as well who is the only person I care about

Sometimes I get angry and I snap at her and make her feel disrespected, even though I love her and immediately regret it. I always apologise to her every time it happens and promise her and myself I’ll do better, and it did get better but it still happens when I’m under stress. She forgives me everytime like it’s nothing which is both a blessing and something that makes me feel even more guilty because I know I don’t want to keep hurting someone who is so patient with me.

I know never raising your voice at your parents is one of the most important things in islam and thats why i feel terrible

On top of that, I’m plagued by jealousy and violent thoughts (that I will never act on but they disturb me a lot). The only thing that calms these feelings is alcohol, but I know drinking is a major sin and I genuinely want to quit because it became an addiction and now I drink everyday. I feel like a bad person overall I genuinely don’t even have the vocabulary to express how much I hate myself and think the only way to escape the hell that my thoughts are is to off myself

How do I deal with this from an Islamic perspective? Any advice from those who have struggled with similar issues would mean a lot.

I’ve noticed a growing trend online where women (from both left-leaning “divine feminine” types and right-leaning trad circles) elevate pregnancy and childbirth to this almost mystical god-like status. It’s framed as empowering but it honestly comes across as super cringe and reductive.

Don’t get me wrong birth is biologically demanding and involves real risks and costs that fall disproportionately on women. That’s factual. It’s also a beautiful thing for a lot if women, but turning it into spiritual/mystical superiority feels like old-school essentialism dressed up in new language. It reduces half the population’s worth primarily to one biological function (giving birth) ignores the massive contributions women make outside of motherhood, and sidelines women who can’t or choose not to have kids. A lot of them even say that men are envious that they don’t have this "superpower" and that’s why misogyny exists. I mean, really? Like c’mon lol.

This shows up across the spectrum as far as I’ve seen, the left/feminist versions that often tie it to “reclaiming the divine feminine” and right/conservative versions that push it as the ultimate purpose of womanhood.

People might disagree with me for this but both seem to ignore trade-offs, complications (infertility isn’t rare) and the fact that reproduction is a basic evolutionary trait shared across mammals not some unique female superpower that makes us inherently “purer” or more magical and sacred or elevates us to sainthood.

Personally, I don’t want to be put on a pedestal or revered for my capacity to get pregnant and give birth. That’s not empowerment at all, it’s just another way of defining women by our uteruses

As feminists shouldn’t we push back against boiling women’s value down to reproductive capacity? I feel like it echoes the very patriarchal ideas we’ve fought against for decades. Why the need to mythologize biology instead of acknowledging it as one aspect of life among many?

Curious if others have seen this trend and what you think.

I’ve noticed a growing trend online where women (from both left-leaning “divine feminine” types and right-leaning trad circles) elevate pregnancy and childbirth to this almost mystical god-like status. It’s framed as empowering but it honestly comes across as super cringe and reductive.

Don’t get me wrong birth is biologically demanding and involves real risks and costs that fall disproportionately on women. That’s factual. It’s also a beautiful thing for a lot if women, but turning it into spiritual/mystical superiority feels like old-school essentialism dressed up in new language. It reduces half the population’s worth primarily to one biological function (giving birth) ignores the massive contributions women make outside of motherhood, and sidelines women who can’t or choose not to have kids. A lot of them even say that men are envious that they don’t have this "superpower" and that’s why misogyny exists. I mean, really? Like c’mon lol.

This shows up across the spectrum as far as I’ve seen, the left/feminist versions that often tie it to “reclaiming the divine feminine” and right/conservative versions that push it as the ultimate purpose of womanhood.

People might disagree with me for this but both seem to ignore trade-offs, complications (infertility isn’t rare) and the fact that reproduction is a basic evolutionary trait shared across mammals not some unique female superpower that makes us inherently “purer” or more magical and sacred or elevates us to sainthood.

Personally, I don’t want to be put on a pedestal or revered for my capacity to get pregnant and give birth. That’s not empowerment at all, it’s just another way of defining women by our uteruses

As feminists shouldn’t we push back against boiling women’s value down to reproductive capacity? I feel like it echoes the very patriarchal ideas we’ve fought against for decades. Why the need to mythologize biology instead of acknowledging it as one aspect of life among many?

Curious if others have seen this trend and what you think.

I made a gay colleague take the test earlier during break and his results were INTJ. It’s weird to me because I do have gay friends and they’re mostly xNFx or xxFJ types. Could he have been mistyped as INTJ while being INFJ? I feel like INTJ is the least personality type a homosexual man would have