u/Maki_chi

I didnt know where to post this but its been in my head for few weeks so here i go

I (17)f have bad relationship with my mom, to the point im tense when i see her. I moved to my dad abt 2months ago so its also still a fresh situation

Im working at a store and most of my coworkers are aware of my complicated relation with mom. No details, just complicated.

Few weeks ago one of my coworkers was asking me if i didnt want new beauty product we have, i said no but she kept pushing. When i said that i wouldnt evenuse like half of it (it was a set) she said "than u can give it to ur mom".

I was alredy annoyed by her actions and i automaticly anwsered with "I dont have a mom".

THE LOOK ON HER FACE WAS SO GOOD. She was shocked and looked like she wanted apologize until she realized thats not true and started lecturing me that i shouldnt say stuff like that but i didnt give a shit and just left to do my job.

Its not trurly a traumatize them back but the pure dread on her face that was there for like 2 seconds was too good not to post

I was 13 at the time and now im 17. Im fine and im living a great life now. I was there becouse of suicidal thoughts.

Im a trans masc but i have a lot of internalised transphobia going on so im keeping girly appearence for now. Im out only to my closest family and friends which doesnt include my grandparents

Today i came to my grandparents house and my granddad started fixing my shirts collar cuz it was folded. I aked why he was doing it (pure curiosity, i simply dont understand why he cared enough to fix it if were at home and all)

and he said "to make you look more feminine".

So i anwsered "what if i dont wanna be feminine, maybe id want to be masculine"

So he asked me "why do you wear bra?"

"Cuz i have boobs" that was my anwser.

"Exactly. So youll never be a real man."

It made me feel like shit. My internalized transphobia grew like a thousand times and now i cant stop thinking abt it. My granddad isnt homophovic so i didnt think he'd say anything like that...

I (17F) am posting this with hopes to reach other teens who are struggling with making that hard decision. (It will be long cuz i wanna explain the situation, even if its unnecesary i need to just get it off my chest)

First of all let me clarify this. My mom isnt abusive in physical way, nor is she abusing any substances, she is just emotionaly manipulative person and we argue a lot which in her eyes is all my fault. (She is great manipulator. After all she is a psychologist)

So my parents are divorced and on bad terms, since i was young my mom was talking crap on my dad and that made me an emotional wreck cuz i started seeing dad as a bad parent, despite him being a lot better. (Thats why i didnt move sooner)

A month ago i had an argument with my mom. A big one. And the worst we ever had. She ended up hitting me multiple times, and than she told me she will call police and say i attacked her (i didnt touch her at all, she was the one who made the things get physical). I said "good luck, i have it all recorded" (i started recording our every argument at some point cuz she was gaslighting me a lot and twisting stuff and i felt like im crazy) and left to my room to calm down.

Not even five minutes passed and she comes into my room with her own phone recording on and tries to talk to me, when i said that i dont wanna talk to her cuz she just hit me, she started saying that she didnt. I couldnt belive my ears, i tried telling her what she did and she denied it, just so she can have it recorded if my dad calls police on her, so they wouldnt arrest her...

After that i started cussing and insulting her, i didnt care at that moment, and i still think its a valid reaction.

I started packing my things and also packed my dogs documents into my bag, so she wouldnt be able to sell her or something (my dad cant have dogs). When she saw that she tried to stop me. She hit me few times and tried to take it away from me. I ended up hitting my head on the ground cuz she basicly tackled me. When i got up and said my head hurts? She told me that i threw myself on the ground (for the sake of her recording)

After that i left and called my dad who picked me up, and i made the big decision to finally move out.

My mom tries every way to get me back (every wrong way), manipulating, guilt triping, begging and than yelling at me but i didnt give in.

Now im at my dads and ive never felt calmer in my entire life. Dad is chill, he is much nicer and respectful toward me. He comunicates like an adult human being and does his best for me. I actually have full fridge, i do chores and if i forget he just reminds me and not yells at me.

I dont regret my decision and i dont think i ever will. I finally feel fully safe. I was always scared of big changes so it was really hard to do it.

If u are in a similar situation to which i was, if u are too afraid to move from parent to another... im telling u it will be fine. You can do this just like i did (hopefuly skipping the hudge argument part tho. Just make that move and it WILL make your life better. Good luck

Me (f17) my mom (50) and my sister (21)are going to my lil cousins bday. When we were preparing the gift my mom told my sister to pack it into a suitcase that we are taking (my aunt needs it).

Me and my mom went to the elevator and waited in it for my sister who was closing the door. At some point elevator door started closing so i pressed the button to open it multiple times (the elevator had been replaced with new one and some systems keep failing so it doesnt always work when u press button once). My mom scolded me, thinking i pressed the button to close the door...

The door opened and sis came in, but the door started behaving weirdly so with a sigh we walked out and went for the stairs. My mom got pretty annoyed at me, and told me its my fault cuz i pressed the button multiple times. I argued that it isnt my fault, i shouldnt have pressed it many times but at the same time elevator shouldnt do that.

After that, to make sure i asked if sis packed the gift. Mom anwsered with that annoyed voice "i told her to didnt i?" It stung me a bit so i asked why she's so annoyed with me, she anwsered "becouse youre annoying"

It hurt me so badly and deeply for some reason, it made me wanna cry than and there. My sister said that "mom doesnt like you. But i do" and my mom scolded her for saying mean things to me? It was actually nice of my sis to say that imo. Its truth too

After that my mom tried multiple times to play like nothing happened, pointing out nice flowers outside, trying to ask me abt our dog and trying to hold my hand, my arm, hug me, kiss me on cheek etc. After every attempt i pushed her away saying to leave me alone and that i dont want to be touched (which she keeps doing and im close to snapping at her)

one time when at my aunts place she basicly cornered me and forcefully hugged me and kissed my cheek. (I was walking out of the door and she stepped in, behind me was my aunt and ahead of me was she and my cousin)(nor aunt or cousin were in on it, they were just there)

PS. None of the times she apologized, she only confirmed that i am anoying few times after that

So Am I Overreacting? Should i just forgive her and move on?

(Sorry for bad grammar im not native and dyslexic)

Im (dysectic)(not native in english) 16F and with emotionally manipulative mom, and i cant take it anymore.

My mom was always like that, one day its cool second day she's sudenly angry at everyone and everything and threatens to take away whatever she can, but in the end she menadges to guilt trip me into thinking its my fault

She's been struggling financialy for a while now (shes a psychologist) and reminds us (me and my 21yo sister) of that every time it fits her narrative.

We also argue a lot, and no matter how hard i try to stay calm and composed she always yells, threatens and all.

Today we were at a thai restaurant and she spoke of me very poorly this whole time (we were discussing housing plans as my sister wants to move out)

Than we argued on our way home and she sudently started feeling bad. I asked if i should call an ambulance but she didnt anwser to me and only spoke with my sister. When after 10 mins we tried to help her to the elevator (which was like 15m away atp) she only took my sisters help and told me not to touch her

After that i just took care of myself while my sister and mom were talking. Now she asked me to come for a hug which i did becouse if i didnt id be labeled "mean"

And when i finally let her go she started crying, saying that she feels like i hate her, that she doesnt know what to do with our relationship, and that she'll take a second job at city thats like 2h away from us so she can afford us.

At this point i cant take it anymore. I feel like a burden and a failure, i dropped regural high school for online one, i couldnt handle the prezsure and social interactions. I am to lazy to wash my teeth or go out with friends and im taking depression meds.

I feel like if i died i wouldnt be a burden, she wouldnt struggle financially. I feel like im the problem.

I geniuenly feel like nothing is holding me on earth anymore. It would be easier if i died. But im so scard of pain. Im so scared it wouldnt work out and id go to mental hospital again.

I have had this explained so many times and yet i never understand what exactly happens in the body i also dont quite understand what makes them so dangerous

Do you also feel thirsty all the time?

Im 16(f) and i never really felt the need to drink or eat as much as other ppl, my mom is same so id call it normal, i usually just drink a glass or 2 of water every day and im not really that thirsty.

But 2 days ago in evening i sudently felt so thisty? I chugged down 3 glasses of water and in morning i woke up at like 5 am to dink as well. Since than i constantly drink and am thirsty, it feels really weird tbh.

Like i drink so much that my stomach is full and i feel naseus and yet im still kinda thirsty? Have you ever felt like that before

Ps. I usually drink juices, so i decided to try drinking pure water but it didnt really help, and rn im eating some ice+jucie cubes and it helps a bit? But i have a feeling ill be thirsty in a moment...