u/Mammoth-Zeal-123

Reposting, incase someone didnt see it.

Age: 25 (2001)
Height: 6"2
Location: Germany
Ethnicity: Somali
Nationality: German+Dutch

Madhab/Sect: Sunni
Religiosity level: I pray 5 Times a day, visit the mosque regularly and learn classical arabic

Education: Electrical Engineering
Occupation: Businessadministration, Fulltime

Marital Status: Never married
Do you want kids?: Yes

Personality: I would say im more of an A-Type personality. I have high ambitions, want to achieve success in both dunja and akhira and i am patient.

Hobbies:

1. Gametheory (The study of strategic thinking)
2. Reading books
3. Going out with brothers
4. Gym and fitness

Non-Negotiables:
• Prays 5 times a day
• Never did Zina + Never had boyfriends.

Seeking:
Agerange: Maximum 24 (2002)
Someone who wants to get married and prioritizes founding a family over Uni/Career. There will always be the time for these things later.

Height Preference: There is none, any height is welcome.
Location: If youre willing to relocate, it had to be from somewhere, where it doesnt take long, where there there is a treaty between my country and yours, so that relocation is possible

Madhab/Sect:
Religiosity level: Sunni or Salafi, Prays 5 Times day and wakes up for fajr.

Qualities I value:

1. Kindness
2. Loyalty (Meaning no gendermixing or male friends, both IRL or online)
3. Soft, Mannered, Loving, truthful, forgiving.

Age: 25 (2001)
Height: 6"2
Location: Germany
Ethnicity: Somali
Nationality: German+Dutch

Madhab/Sect: Sunni
Religiosity level: I pray 5 Times a day, visit the mosque regularly and learn classical arabic

Education: Electrical Engineering
Occupation: Businessadministration, Fulltime

Marital Status: Never married
Do you want kids?: Yes

Personality: I would say im more of an A-Type personality. I have high ambitions, want to achieve success in both dunja and akhira and i am patient.

Hobbies:

1. ⁠Gametheory (The study of strategic thinking)
2. ⁠Reading books
3. ⁠Going out with brothers
4. ⁠Gym and fitness

Non-Negotiables:
• Prays 5 times a day
• Never did Zina + Never had boyfriends.

Seeking:
Agerange: Maximum 24
Someone who wants to get married and prioritizes founding a family over Uni/Career. There will always be the time for these things later.

Height Preference: There is none, any height is welcome.
Location: If youre willing to relocate, it doesnt matter where youre from.

Madhab/Sect:
Religiosity level: Sunni or Salafi, Prays 5 Times day and wakes up for fajr.

Qualities I value:

1. ⁠Kindness
2. ⁠Loyalty (Meaning no gendermixing or male friends, both IRL or online)
3. ⁠Soft, Mannered, Loving, truthful, forgiving.

The women of the families my parents tried to contact arent interested in marriage, because they would rather go to school.

I think overall in the west, there is just no incentive structure for women to marry. To women the idea of being obedient to their husband isnt desirable, so they rather be obedient to their employer.

Men do not want to be responsible and protect a woman that doesnt allow the man to have authority over her.

The perfect compromise is having a boyfriend/girlfriend and zina.

Noone has to obey anyone, and noone has to be responsible over or protect anyone. Only fun, no strings attached. Anyone can leave and go for the next, whenever.

This is why zina is normalized, because the environment incentivizes it.

People say that there are too many women available for marriage, compared to men, while in reality only a very small number of girls are actually practicing, actually religious and good suitable spouses

The woman i am discussing marriage with has said this:

„That’s why I’m pretty sure my future husband and I won’t have problems with me travelling by myself because I need to, or go with my girl friends to a nice vacation.“
„So I’m telling you, if you’re going to be the type of guy that is irritated by me travelling by myself because I need to, or because I want to go with my girls, then yeah it’s no point to talk“
„Because I’m not going to sit at home the whole day doing nothing. I’m an active person, and I’m going to do stuff on my own too“

What do you think?

Im talking to a muslim btw.

I reached my mid twenties and just kickstarted my career.

Im looking forward to get married and now im wondering, how would you go about finding a young woman who prioritizes religion, marriage and family over work/uni?

Im tall, look decent and i would say im kind and charming, but i dont know where to look.

Someone without a past, who saved herself up for marriage.

There is often a lack of infrastructure and leadership to facilitate things to be done the right way.

The apps are turning the process into a game, which im not fond of.

Those of you who actually pulled it off, whats your method?

I appreciate the answer of those who married an actually religious spouse who clearly prays 5 times a day.

Growing up there was an understanding that i have to get somewhere first before i „earn“ the right to look to get married. This is understandable because there are responsibilities on us men.
We have to be capable of protecting and providing.

But as im looking around, i dont get the sense that there is an active pursuit of women to prepare themselves to get married or to having an attitude that indicates some level of urgency that they have to appear or become suitable for marriage.

I had some conversations with trusted people and they said to me that its an environmental thing. It has been effectively erased from the culture, so since I live in the west, i cant expect the people to be the same as elsewhere.

What you think of that?

I currently have the pleasure of getting to know someone for the purpose of marriage, now that im finally ready.

We are just getting to know eachothers and i stated clearly that it would be a dealbreaker for me if she hasnt been able to save herself up.

The 2 women prior to her had let me know that theyre sorry to disappoint me in that regard.

This current girl hasnt clearly said that shes a virgin, but said that she keeps the mistakes of her past private. i would also feel unmannered to ask her very directly if she is.

I feel a little bit demoralized and lowkey depressed that this is what things have come to.

Is the wish, that she had no sexual partner in the past too high of a standard? Am i getting delusional?

The women im speaking to were all in their twenties.

Im seriously getting depressed over this.

I currently have the pleasure of getting to know someone for the purpose of marriage, now that im finally ready.

We are just getting to know eachothers and i stated clearly that it would be a dealbreaker for me if she hasnt been able to save herself up.

The 2 women prior to her had let me know that theyre sorry to disappoint me in that regard.

This current girl hasnt clearly said that shes a virgin, but said that she keeps the mistakes of her past private. i would also feel unmannered to ask her very directly if she is.

I feel a little bit demoralized and lowkey depressed that this is what things have come to.

Is the wish, that she had no sexual partner in the past too high of a standard? Am i getting delusional?

The women im speaking to were all in their twenties.

Im seriously getting depressed over this.

I currently have the pleasure of getting to know someone for the purpose of marriage, now that im finally ready.

We are just getting to know eachothers and i stated clearly that it would be a dealbreaker for me if she hasnt been able to save herself up.

The 2 women prior to her had let me know that theyre sorry to disappoint me in that regard.

This current girl hasnt clearly said that shes a virgin, but said that she keeps the mistakes of her past private. i would also feel unmannered to ask her very directly if she is.

I feel a little bit demoralized and lowkey depressed that this is what things have come to.

Is the wish, that she had no sexual partner in the past too high of a standard? Am i getting delusional?

The women im speaking to were all in their twenties.

Im seriously getting depressed over this.

I currently have the pleasure of getting to know someone for the purpose of marriage, now that im finally ready.

We are just getting to know eachothers and i stated clearly that it would be a dealbreaker for me if she hasnt been able to save herself up.

The 2 women prior to her had let me know that theyre sorry to disappoint me in that regard.

This current girl hasnt clearly said that shes a virgin, but said that she keeps the mistakes of her past private. i would also feel unmannered to ask her very directly if she is.

I feel a little bit demoralized and lowkey depressed that this is what things have come to.

Is the wish, that she had no sexual partner in the past too high of a standard? Am i getting delusional?

The women im speaking to were all in their twenties.

Im seriously getting depressed over this.