u/Matcha-lattecookie

I could really use some perspective.
I was talking to this guy for a while and everything seemed fine. We were texting pretty regularly and then out of nowhere he stopped replying for a couple of days. I checked in to see if everything was okay and he just said he’d been busy.
A few days later he told me he wasn’t looking for a committed relationship right now. I just said thanks for letting me know because there wasn’t really anything to argue about. Right after that he invited me over, so I went. We had a good time and nothing seemed weird.
Now it’s been almost a week since I left his house and neither of us has reached out. I’ve been trying to match his energy and not text first or chase him, but it’s honestly eating at me.
I know he probably just wants something casual and he was upfront about that. I think what hurts is how he went from talking to me pretty consistently to almost nothing. I keep wondering if this is just how casual dating works or if it’s a sign he lost interest.
Has anyone else dealt with this? How do you stop thinking about it?

I started a new job about 2 months ago, and today I had a frustrating interaction with my supervisor.

I had a doctor’s appointment and was planning to text her as I was leaving, but she called me before I had the chance. She told me I should have informed her ahead of time, which I understand and can take responsibility for.

What upset me was that she also said some coworkers had mentioned that I leave for too long during lunch. The thing is, when I’m out, I’m usually meeting with collaborators, community partners, and doing outreach, which is a major part of my role.

I’m the newest person on the team. Most of my coworkers have been there for years and are close to retirement. They spend a lot of time in the office, while I’ve been trying to actively recruit participants, build partnerships, and get our program out into the community.

Now I feel like I’m being criticized for not being physically in the office, even though I’m trying to do the work I was hired to do. If the expectation is that I need to communicate every time I’m out of the office, that’s completely fair. What I don’t understand is whether I’m supposed to prioritize outreach and relationship-building or prioritize being seen sitting at my desk.

I’m genuinely trying to succeed in this role, but today left me feeling discouraged. Has anyone else experienced this as a new employee? How did you navigate the difference between being proactive and fitting into an office culture?

I’m trying to understand this from a man’s perspective. I’ve been dealing with the same pattern with a guy for almost a year. About a month ago, he was very persistent about seeing me, texting me, and telling me he wanted to make things work. He seemed genuinely interested and was putting in effort.

Now, only a few weeks later, it’s like I’ve been moved to the back burner. He barely puts in effort, doesn’t seem interested in seeing me, and communication feels completely different.

He says he’s been dealing with pain, and maybe that’s true, but what’s confusing me is how someone can go from being so insistent and motivated to seeming almost indifferent in such a short time.

Men of Reddit: have you ever done this? What was the reason? I’m honestly ready to move on, I just don’t know how to fully let it go. My pride gets in the way because I’ve allowed this on-and-off pattern for so long, and I’m struggling to make sense of it.

I’m not looking for reassurance, just honest perspectives.

This guy is on his 30 cmon

I’ve been talking to a guy for about 2 months. In the beginning, things were more casual, but I made it clear that I wasn’t just looking for a hookup. He said he understood and that he was trying to see where things could go.
We talk pretty much every day and generally have good conversations. The problem is that when it comes to actually seeing each other, I feel like I’m always the one bringing it up or trying to make plans. If I don’t mention it, it doesn’t seem to happen.

For example, tonight we were talking and I suggested getting together. He told me he wasn’t feeling well and was in a lot of pain, which is completely fair. I’m not upset that he couldn’t meet up. What bothers me is that this feels like part of a larger pattern where there’s very little initiative on his side.
I even tried being a little flirty today, but the energy just didn’t seem to be there on his side, which only added to my frustration.
The worst part is that I don’t want to come across as needy, so I try to play it cool and act like it doesn’t bother me. But honestly, it does.

We’re adults. After 2 months of talking, I don’t feel like wanting to spend time together is asking for too much. At this point, I’m getting tired of feeling like I’m the one trying to move things forward while he just goes with the flow.

Am I expecting too much, or are his actions telling me everything I need to know? Has anyone been in a similar situation where the communication was consistent, but the effort to actually see each other wasn’t?

I’ve lost about 4 pounds over the past month, but it feels like the medication starts to wear off during the second half of the week. When I’m drinking and there are snacks around, I can keep snacking even when I’m not really hungry. It almost feels like the appetite suppression disappears in those situations.

Has anyone else experienced increased alcohol consumption, more snacking while drinking, or the medication feeling like it wears off before the next injection? Did it get better over time?

My starting stats were 5’1” and 128 lbs. I haven’t checked my weight yet, but I can definitely tell my clothes are fitting better.

I’m microdosing and currently taking 1

As far as food goes, I still get hungry and have cravings. I don’t really restrict myself, but I’ve noticed that after one or two bites, I often don’t feel like continuing to eat. Before, I would usually finish the whole package or serving. I also don’t snack nearly as much as I used to. Looking back, I think a lot of my snacking was anxiety-related.

I haven’t had any major side effects. I’ve experienced some mild nausea here and there, but nothing too bad. One thing I have noticed, though, is some brain fog. I feel more forgetful than usual, and I’ve also had some mood swings. It actually reminds me a bit of how I felt when I was on birth control.

Overall, it’s been a pretty positive experience so far, and I’m curious to see how things continue to progress.

First dose of compounded tirzepatide with B12 and NAD, and I’m pretty sure I did it wrong. I was really nervous and injected a little less than I was supposed to. They prescribed me 1.25, but I had no idea how to measure that in the syringe. The bottle said 7.35 units, and then the paper they gave me said to count each unit as the little lines on the syringe.

Anyway, I ended up doing a little less probably around 6 units. I definitely felt the pinch when I stuck the needle in lol, it hurt a bit. I’m just hoping I didn’t mess anything up. I’m sitting down right now because I’m nervous about having a reaction. I also procrastinated doing the injection for about a week before finally doing it today.

AIO for leaving and not coming back after this weird hookup situation?

I’ve known this guy since 2020. We used to hook up back then, but I eventually ghosted him because there were things about him I didn’t like. A few months ago we reconnected and recently decided to hang out again.

The first time we met up nothing happened because I was on my period. This second time we started fooling around, but I already knew I didn’t want penetration because I’m not on birth control and honestly I just didn’t feel ready for that with him.

So we’re doing foreplay and suddenly this man randomly goes to the bathroom and comes back. Then I start giving him a blowjob and out of NOWHERE my entire mouth goes numb. Like fully numb 😭 I asked him if he had put lotion or some kind of numbing stuff on and he said no. The he said well I put “lotion”

After that he suddenly got weird/self-conscious, got dressed, and said maybe we should just watch a movie instead. At that point the whole vibe completely died for me.

Then I got super hungry because I had driven an HOUR to see him and hadn’t eaten. He asked if I wanted food, I said yes, and then he goes “okay well you can order it, I already ate.” 💀

We kept watching the movie and later he started trying to hook up again, but honestly I felt turned off because he had already killed the mood earlier and the whole situation felt awkward. I told him that. Then he said I made him feel bad because he thought I blamed him for my mouth going numb.

At one point I told him I was gonna go buy food because I didn’t want DoorDash. I even asked if he wanted anything and he said no. While I’m leaving he says “maybe we should just do this another day,” so I genuinely took that as the night being over and went home.

Then HOURS later he started calling me through Instagram and texted me:
“I just want to let you know that you really hurt me today. Saying that you were gonna grab food then not coming back.”

Now I’m confused because from my perspective HE basically ended the night first and I thought it was obvious I wasn’t coming back. AIO? 😭

I need reassurance after what just happened 😭

I’ve known this guy since 2020. We used to hook up a few times back then, but I eventually ghosted him because I didn’t like certain things about him. Long story short, we reconnected a few months ago and have hung out twice now. The first time we didn’t do anything because I was on my period.

This time we were doing foreplay and this man RANDOMLY goes to the bathroom and comes back. For context, I didn’t want penetration because I’m not on birth control and honestly I just didn’t want to. I don’t even know if I’m ready to fully give myself to him like that lol 😂 Which sounds dumb because I already let him touch me everywhere, but that’s not even the point.

The point is I started giving him a blowjob and suddenly my ENTIRE mouth went numb out of nowhere. So I asked him, “Did you put something on? Lotion or something?” and he said no 😭 Meanwhile my whole mouth is numb and this man suddenly gets all self-conscious, gets dressed, and says “maybe we should just watch a movie” and I’m like okay???

Then I start getting insanely hungry and he asks if I want food. I say yes and this man goes “okay well you can order it, I already ate” HAHAHAHAHA 😭 dudeeee… I DROVE AN HOUR TO SEE YOU.

At this point I’m already irritated because what even is this situation 😭 Then halfway through the movie (Star Wars btw… no hate to Star Wars fans but I had no clue what was happening 💀) he starts trying to kiss me and get things going again.

So I told him honestly that he completely turned me off because it felt rude as hell to randomly shut everything down in the middle of it for no reason. Then he says he felt bad because I made him feel like the numb mouth thing was his fault. SIR WHAT DID YOU PUT ON THERE??? Because I refuse to believe your mouth just casually goes numb like that 😭

So whatever, we keep watching the movie. Then he turns to me again and goes “I’m so horny” and I was like “yeah I was too until you killed the vibe” 💀 Then he goes “I’m gonna make you horny again.”

EXCUSE ME??? Only when YOU want to???

Meanwhile I’m starving this entire time. I finally tell him “honestly you turned me off and I’m not getting back into the mood now.” Then I tell him I’m gonna go buy food because I don’t want DoorDash. I even asked him if he wanted anything and he just says no all annoyed.

I get changed and as I’m literally leaving he goes “maybe we should do this another day.”

SIR???? I DROVE AN HOUR AND WAS THERE FOR LESS THAN TWO HOURS 😭

I just said “I guess” but honestly what the actual hell 💀 Blocked immediately because absolutely not. I’m mostly posting this because I’m confused, hungry, and still sitting here with a numb mouth HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

UPDATE: 30 minutes after I left, he texted me asking what I got to eat and told me to let him know when I was coming back 😭 Then he asked why I was ignoring him… DUDE I’M ALREADY HOME. You literally kicked me out wtf 💀

I’m 28, 5’0 and around 128 pounds. I recently got approved for microdose tirzepatide at 1.25 mg and I’m honestly really nervous about starting.

I eat pretty healthy most of the time, but I definitely struggle with nervous/stress eating and overwhelm eating. I also live with family and the food environment at home isn’t always the healthiest, so I end up eating what’s around me sometimes even when I don’t want to.

I’m not trying to become super skinny or stop eating. I mainly want less food noise, less emotional eating, and to feel more in control around food. My plan is only to use it short term (around 3 months) while building healthier habits.

For anyone who started at a very low dose:
- What did your first week realistically feel like?
- Did it help with emotional eating/anxiety eating?
- Any advice for someone nervous to start?

Would appreciate kind and honest feedback because this feels like a big step for me.