u/Maximum-Beautiful759

I’ve been married for over 4 years and we have a 1 year old baby. In the past I think he’s had issues gambling at the casino but I’m not sure because it was before we met. When we started dating he started doing forex and still 7 years later is completely obsessed and is convinced that it is a job and a way for him to become rich by sitting at home. At first I thought maybe it was true that it could be like a job but as the time went on and after all the thousands and thousands of dollars lost I realized he had a problem, he doesn’t see it that way. We broke up 2 months ago I was a stay at home mom up until now the day before the rent was due he flipped out over losing money trading and started going crazy and left and told me to figure out the rent myself and went ghost for 2 weeks didn’t give a dollar for his child then went and got himself a haircut before giving money for food. He’s ALWAYS blamed me when losing saying I bring him bad luck, mess up his head or distract him by talking or needing something during trading times. I don’t know how someone can act this way having a child and not caring about their wellbeing. His dad is just like him he lived a shit life because his dad always put gambling and drinking first. Now every day he threatens me with cops, court just goes crazy every day and I’m at my wits end. Can anyone help me understand what is going on with him?

I met my husband when I was 24 and I’m 31 now and we have a 1 year old, I was young and stupid everyone told me not to be with him but I didn’t care. Fast forward to now I’m stuck in a horrible life because of him. He does forex, fanduel and smokes weed, so basically he’s a gambler and a pothead. Before we had our son I was also a pothead so we had that in common. We still would fight a lot cause he would blame me any time his trading would go wrong and break up with me then take it back, for example saying that I fight with him and it messes up his head and causes him to lose. Fast forward to me getting pregnant and have my son I absolutely hate him and his parents and they have ruined my life as a mom. He wasn’t close with them before but the minute I got pregnant and had a baby he made it his life mission to make his mom feel super important to him. His mom never hugged me or smiled when we told her I was pregnant she just said “we want a boy”, any time I saw her throughout my pregnancy she would say I gained a lot of weight and just only comment on my weight gain and my husband would sit there and not say anything and we would fight after cause he would say it’s a language barrier and she meant she was happy I have a big belly when she’d literally say shit like “you gained a lot of weight”. When I was very pregnant I would beg them to help me get through my husband for his gambling cause of the baby and they said they didn’t want to get involved and would shut me out. They’ve been absolute monster in laws and I hate my husband for allowing it. My first Mother’s Day should have been so special but we fought because he wanted to spend time with his mom when he already was getting out of work late. Right afrer giving birth he left me and my baby to go pick them up and bring them then drop them off. Any time they would come over I would have to hand my baby over before she even walked in til she decided she was done holding him, I’m talking the first week he was born. His parents hate him because I won’t allow my child over their house as it’s dirty and has a huge roast infestation and his dad thinks it’s ok because his cousins were raised there and turned out fine. Any time we fight he says he’ll bring him wherever he wants even if it’s in their house cause he’s the dad. His parents only want to see my son if he goes over there and my husband usually just keeps him in his car seat and they come out to see him in the driveway. We now got into a huge fight because he forgot his moms birthday and blames me because we fight so he forgot meanwhile he does nothing for my birthdays no gifts for Christmas nothing on Valentine’s Day. And on my mom’s birthday he ruined it by saying that if she tried to stop him from bringing the baby inside his mom’s house he would call the cops on her. He’s a true piece of shit and so are his parents and I fucking hate them. Sorry rant over

To start off I’m 31 and I’ve only been to the dentist for a cleaning once because of financial reasons. I went last week for the first time got X-rays and had 8 cavities so I got a cleaning then went to get them filled. This dentist is the rudest person I’ve ever come across I actually can’t believe he’s a family dentist and people take their kids here. He constantly says big big cavity, take care of your teeth and I feel like he’s constantly making me feel shameful. I asked if it was going to hurt while on the verge of tears because I was so scared, he laughed and said gotta take better care of your teeth. As he cleans out the cavities he’s constantly saying wow, tsk tsk and saying stuff to his assistant about how big my cavities are. He even shrugged in disgust! Not to mention that the filling looks like literal shit and he never even talked to me about any procedure or what type of filling he was going to put in my mouth, he just walks in doesn’t even greet me and starts working and rushing through it. This is the reason people take years to build up courage to go to doctors for horrible people like this.