u/Minute_Owl_9691

Hey there, I dont really know how to begin this text since im in a emotional turmoil right now, but I’ll do my best to keep this as coherent as possible.

I (21/M) have been together with my girlfriend (21/F) for about two years now. In relationship there is always one talking point coming up again and again: Were have different needs regarding the frequency of contact.

I think this discrepency is mostly due to my ADHD and melancholy and her Depression and Insecurity.

I know she is not in a good place mentally, and I want to help her, but for some reason i cant manage to fulfill her needs in that way. I am a pretty autonomous person and struggle to keep regular contact with my family and friends. I have the need for alone time, and admittedly a lot of it. She is pretty much the opposite. If it would be up to her we could talk the whole time after we get off work/uni. At least she stated that in the past. Because we are long-distance we pretty much facetime everyday, call during lunch-breaks and of course, text over the day. Since I mostly work in the evening, FaceTiming is not always possible, but I try my best to keep in touch during work. Were visting each other one or two weekends a month.

I know that keeping contact with people that are important to you, is a thing many people with ADHD struggle to do. And many of us have a need for lots of alone time.

And, understandably so, many of these people feel neglected or unimportant, which of course hurts their feeling.

How can you manage that and how do you make your partner feel loved and not taken for granted, if you struggle with that? And how would you approach the situation if you were in my shoes?

We agreed to call in 3 Hours so we both have time to get our head straight. Advice is greatly appreciated!

Hey there, I dont really know how to begin this text since im in a emotional turmoil right now, but I’ll do my best to keep this as coherent as possible.

I (21/M) have been together with my girlfriend (21/F) for about two years now. In relationship there is always one talking point coming up again and again: Were have different needs regarding the frequency of contact.

I think this discrepency is mostly due to my ADHD and melancholy and her Depression and Insecurity.

I know she is not in a good place mentally, and I want to help her, but for some reason i cant manage to fulfill her needs in that way. I am a pretty autonomous person and struggle to keep regular contact with my family and friends. I have the need for alone time, and admittedly a lot of it. She is pretty much the opposite. If it would be up to her we could talk the whole time after we get off work/uni. At least she stated that in the past. Because we are long-distance we pretty much facetime everyday, call during lunch-breaks and of course, text over the day. Since I mostly work in the evening, FaceTiming is not always possible, but I try my best to keep in touch during work. Were visting each other one or two weekends a month.

I know that keeping contact with people that are important to you, is a thing many people with ADHD struggle to do. And many of us have a need for lots of alone time.

And, understandably so, many of these people feel neglected or unimportant, which of course hurts their feeling.

How can you manage that and how do you make your partner feel loved and not taken for granted, if you struggle with that? And how would you approach the situation if you were in my shoes?

We agreed to call in 3 Hours so we both have time to get our head straight. Advice is greatly appreciated!

Hey there, im looking for a plain black shirt, that is slim around the arms and shoulders, and can hide a little belly.

Ideally it‘d fit something like the Fred perry ringers in case someone has experience with them: https://www.fredperry.com/men/t-shirts/taped-ringer-t-shirt-m4620-102.html .

Any help/recommendations would be greatly appreciated!

Ps: Also im from the EU if that changes anything in terms of availability.

Hey there, the title says it pretty much all.

Im a bit disappointed with the item system and would love to have it be more viable to actually fuse blue items, and make items more impactful in general. I was wondering which mods you guys like to use for that and why?