u/NerdyDirtyCurvy

I finally blocked him on everything. Weve been no contact for a long while, but I was putting off the actual blocking for reasons that just had me hesitating, but I had a flashback memory, to building/buying my little corner makeup desk I have in my room, as I looked over and thought to myself that I like it. I bought it when he moved back into my other room, because I couldn't have the extra big desk in my room. It was expensive ish, a couple hundred cause I needed built in mirrors for the cats (theyd knock down the ones I used to use). I just remembered him berating me, pretty severely for spending the money on it (we didn't share finances so wtf business of it was his), and I told him to leave me alone while I put it together. He refused and tried to play white knight for a second saying he knew it was hard for me to do so he was going to help whether or not I wanted it. He then spent the next hour or more bitching/yelling at me about having to do it, slamming peices around and hitting/punching things and yelling because it was "hard" to put together. He made me feel like an inch tall and browbeaten. I shrunk into myself so entirely to try to keep his rage from increasing. I had a bolt of lightening type feeling from that sudden memory and decisively blocked him. There is nothing that made that or anything else he did ok, and I'm so grateful he's gone.

I finally blocked him on everything. Weve been no contact for a long while, but I was putting off the actual blocking for reasons that just had me hesitating, but I had a flashback memory, to building/buying my little corner makeup desk I have in my room, as I looked over and thought to myself that I like it. I bought it when he moved back into my other room, because I couldn't have the extra big desk in my room. It was expensive ish, a couple hundred cause I needed built in mirrors for the cats (theyd knock down the ones I used to use). I just remembered him berating me, pretty severely for spending the money on it (we didn't share finances so wtf business of it was his), and I told him to leave me alone while I put it together. He refused and tried to play white knight for a second saying he knew it was hard for me to do so he was going to help whether or not I wanted it. He then spent the next hour or more bitching/yelling at me about having to do it, slamming peices around and hitting/punching things and yelling because it was "hard" to put together. He made me feel like an inch tall and browbeaten. I shrunk into myself so entirely to try to keep his rage from increasing. I had a bolt of lightening type feeling from that sudden memory and decisively blocked him. There is nothing that made that or anything else he did ok, and I'm so grateful he's gone.

Ugh, I don't know what to do, please help!

My downstairs neighbor is pretty severely mentally ill. She has a cat, it used to be big and normal according to my other neighbors, but now is severely emaciated/skeletal and seems quite sick. I worry she hasn't/won't take it to a vet and is leaving it to suffer. My other neighbors keep saying she takes care of it fine and its just "old and sick", but we know for a fact she smokes inside around it which in my mind is automatic abuse. (But I'm harsher about cat care than many people). I want to ask for a welfare check from the local animal rescue where I live, if there's abuse or neglect they'll step in, and if not they do nothing. My other neighbors and parents keep telling me to leave it alone and ignore it and mind my business, but they don't care about animals the way I do. I keep telling myself I'd rather stir the pot than potentially leave an animal to suffer; but I also don't know for sure she *isnt* taking care of it. I highly doubt it, but still. Would I be wrong to report to the rescue? Should I do what will make me feel like I can sleep at night? Should I mind my own business, even if it means potentially an animal might suffer?

So, this is a complicated issue but I'll try to sum up best I can.

I am severely physically disabled, and am on a fixed income. Due to this, I need a roommate to help pay rent, but also to help with household chores. I give my roommates a reduced rate for rent in exchange for doing a bigger share of the chores - in this roommates instance, she takes out the garbage, does dishes (I have a dishwasher she could use but she chooses to do it by hand) does laundry every few weeks, and takes out recycling every two weeks. I struggle to do basic life tasks, so this help is crucial for me. I have two cats that I take care of myself, which takes up any available energy I have, I simply cannot do extra.

Here's the issue, this roommate has lived with me for 3 months now, and something we have discovered is that my cat (who is diagnosed with pica, a disease that makes them eat non food items), like to eat her fallen/shed hair. And she sheds, A LOT. For the last several months I've been on patrol for these hairs because he is getting sick from eating them, vomiting more, having "string of pearl" poos where he runs around the apartment with poop hung out of his bum by hair. I clean up easily 50 hairs a day, from the bathroom and hallways, the common areas shes in. Now, I recognize this isnt her fault. And if I didn't have insane cats I genuinely wouldn't care. But, I need to keep him healthy.

But being hypervigilant about hairs is killing me, its stressing me out constantly, I'm losing sleep because I stay up at night to wait till shes had her shower so I can clean up after her, and getting up early in the mornings to do it again after she leaves for work. The constant bending is hurting me more than I usually already do. I've asked her to try her best to brush her hair over the sink, and even asked her to vacuum after her shower, and after she blowdrys in her room, but she just...wont take it seriously and doesn't do it, so I then have to. I'm at my wits end, over something so dumb. I don't know if it would be fair for me to talk to her again and give her a last warning that she has to vacuum after her shower, a chore we could count towards her rent reduction, or if I should just ask her to find a new place and try my luck with a new roommate. It's been multiple talks about this now and nothing has gotten better.

Trust me, I get that it's annoying. It's annoying for me too. But I have to protect my cats health right? AITA???

So, this is a complicated issue but I'll try to sum up best I can.

I am severely physically disabled, and am on a fixed income. Due to this, I need a roommate to help pay rent, but also to help with household chores. I give my roommates a reduced rate for rent in exchange for doing a bigger share of the chores - in this roommates instance, she takes out the garbage, does dishes (I have a dishwasher she could use but she chooses to do it by hand) does laundry every few weeks, and takes out recycling every two weeks. I struggle to do basic life tasks, so this help is crucial for me. I have two cats that I take care of myself, which takes up any available energy I have, I simply cannot do extra.

Here's the issue, this roommate has lived with me for 3 months now, and something we have discovered is that my cat (who is diagnosed with pica, a disease that makes them eat non food items), like to eat her fallen/shed hair. And she sheds, A LOT. For the last several months I've been on patrol for these hairs because he is getting sick from eating them, vomiting more, having "string of pearl" poos where he runs around the apartment with poop hung out of his bum by hair. I clean up easily 50 hairs a day, from the bathroom and hallways, the common areas shes in. Now, I recognize this isnt her fault. And if I didn't have insane cats I genuinely wouldn't care. But, I need to keep him healthy.

But being hypervigilant about hairs is killing me, its stressing me out constantly, I'm losing sleep because I stay up at night to wait till shes had her shower so I can clean up after her, and getting up early in the mornings to do it again after she leaves for work. The constant bending is hurting me more than I usually already do. I've asked her to try her best to brush her hair over the sink, and even asked her to vacuum after her shower, and after she blowdrys in her room, but she just...wont take it seriously and doesn't do it, so I then have to. I'm at my wits end, over something so dumb. I don't know if it would be fair for me to talk to her again and give her a last warning that she has to vacuum after her shower, a chore we could count towards her rent reduction, or if I should just ask her to find a new place and try my luck with a new roommate. It's been multiple talks about this now and nothing has gotten better.

Trust me, I get that it's annoying. It's annoying for me too. But I have to protect my cats health right? AITAH???

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I'm chronically ill. I'm almost completely housebound. I've lost all my friends through that and a previous abusive relationship. I can't physically work and I'm on disability, but to support myself and my two cats I'm going rapidly more and more into debt every month just to feed myself and them and pay bills and rent. I have no quality of life. I'm in pain and bed bound most of my life. I have no hope for a future, no relationship, no career, no life. I'm terrified constantly that I'll eventually end up homeless. I'm terrified I'll fail my cats. I'm terrified that there is nothing to ever look forward to again...that all that will happen is my life gets worse and worse until I have no choice but to die. I haven't seen a friend in person since 2023. There is no light and no upside to my life...I can't therapy my way out of debt, or pain, or being unable to work. What a life.

I haven't hung out with a friend in person since 2023 on my birthday. Chronic illness and being housebound is bullshit. 😣 I realized how long it's been and it kinda knocked the wind out of me. It's crushing. Not that I have any friends left to visit anyways, which may be even sadder. Just thought you guys would understand.