u/Next_Plant_6349

So I totally had this one night stand cuz like I never do that but it was just this one time right. And then me and the dude were texting like a little bit and he tells me he has surgery coming up so I should have remembered that right?

But anyway he's not texting me immediately like I texted him at 9:01 and he didn't text me back and till 9:04 like can you believe it ladies he's ghosting me? And then the day of his surgery he had the audacity to not text me and tell me that he had surgery and wouldn't be available so I told him "you don't need to keep talking to me just cuz we fucked, just let me know don't ghost me"

But it's no big deal because I don't even like this guy (yuck)

Are my boundaries just like too strong?

My outdoor albos and thais are loving the sun and heat of the summer

My bf, 31 and I, 32, have been together for almost 6 years and I've come to the conclusion he doesn't actually like me, or maybe stopped at some point. He does treat me wonderfully, he never raises his voice at me, he supported me when I lost my job a couple years ago, he takes me on dates.

However he couldn't say a nice thing about me to save his life. At first I was taking this as a reflection on myself and went out of my way to be extra kind and caring (not that i ever wasn't to begin with) but nothing changed with him. Everything is a joke about how I can't drive, my navigation is awful, he's never said I'm dumb but he's definitely told me he's smarter than I am, and he jokes and makes me sound like a silly airhead girl.

Idk why but last night was the last straw, we are supposed to be moving in August and for part of it he will be working and I'll be alone with the uhaul, he told me last night I'm not allowed to drive the uhaul. I got irritated, TF you mean I can't drive the uhaul? I'm not sitting on my butt waiting for you to get off work when I could be moving stuff. I have an extension plant collection 200+, and my plan was to load them up on the floor of the uhaul and move them all at one time and do this while he's at work.

Mind you the last accident I was in was because I got hit with falling ice during a snow storm and swerved into a guard rail. This is my only accident and it happened over 10 years ago.

Once he saw I was getting irritated he tried saying he's joking, not joking that I can't drive the uhaul, just joking that he thinks I'd cause an accident pretending I'm in a monster truck. But I still can't drive the uhaul.

So I leave the room and start thinking about all the jokes he's ever made about me and just things I've heard him say about me. And I realize I can't remember the last time in years he's said something nice to me or about me. All his jokes are at my expense. Everything is a crack that puts me down in some way.

I've told him before I think he's only with me because it's easy, I don't fight with him often, I cook and contribute to the house, I'm independent and don't require him around. I'm down to bang almost all the time. He always responds by joking that I am not easy to be with. Thanks babe.

I'm starting to think that I'm just an awful person.

Peanut butter cracker lunch cuz I forgot real food.

EDIT TO ADD: I texted him asking he stay somewhere else today/tonight while I evaluate if I want to continue with this move in August. I think he sent me a chatgpt response... saying he's sorry blah blah blah, but at the end he says I do care for you and your kin. my kin? boy has literally never said that word a day in his life.

I'm packing my bags.