u/Nice-Intern5510

Well he didn’t end the friendship. He told me he didn’t wanna end the friendship but he’s taking a break because I’m being toxic. We used to hang out once a week. I started to notice less effort, less communication and this made me feel unappreciated.

He called me toxic because he would volunteer information and his stories would be inconsistent and when I would question his stories he would get defensive. then I told him our friendship is environment based and we have no real connection outside of our shared hobbies and hangouts. I wanted us to spend more time together. We use ti hang out once a week but now i barely see him or hear from him. one minute he tells me he misses me and the next he acts distant.

He told me he has 25 times. He said none of his friends ever asked him for more time with him or none of them was bothered when he didn’t respond to their messages. he told me I’m the only person that does this. when we would hang out I would pay for everything. I over gave. I was honest and loyal to him. I never once asked him for anything. i never said anything when he would lie to me. I never said anything when I knew he was being dishonest. I ignored so many things for the sake of the friendship. Then he called me Shelton and told me I need to stop reading books because he didn’t understand what environment based friendships. He then asked me if I had Autism during our argument.

It’s been 4 weeks since we spoke. I don’t miss him anymore. I don’t feel sad or depressed. for the first 2 weeks of us not talking I was feeling numb. I would cross the street during green lights not caring if I got hit by a car. I would walk home late at night alone not being scared of getting kidnapped or robed. I felt numb and couldn’t feel anything. this friendship made me feel worthless. I was honest, giving, caring, loyal, understanding, empathetic and that still wasn’t enough for him. I decided to move on with my life because our friendship ran its course. so whether he reaches out or not doesn’t make a difference.