u/No-World1322

My kids father willingly left his job to not pay child support. Since then he’s managed to not have any enforcements done against him by calling and entering a work program, not complying, then just calling and entering it again once enforcements are going to be done. He’s avoided license suspension twice already.

I called child support this morning and asked if there were any updates because last month he had 15 days from the 15 to contact or make a payment, they told me the DOR is not making legal enforcements but the agent wasn’t able to actually tell me what this means. Do I need a lawyer if we go to court? How long does this enforcement take to actually happen?? Idk. I’m just very annoyed. He’s made it very clear and told me plenty times he has no intention of paying or working because he makes his money other way. He’s very smart and calculated so I don’t know if this was his plan all along and maybe he’s trying to get a modification or show them that he can’t pay. - Also, he’s been telling me the past couple months he’s been working for a temp agency but can’t report it because the work is t consistent. - the job he had before was paying him about 70-75k a year, and this is the first time in maybe 10 years he’s been without a job.

My brother recently moved in with his new gf, who we haven’t met. We did some searching on Facebook and instagram and found her. On her bio she had MAGA, and a photo of her smiling hold a trump flag. Mind you, we are a HISPANIC FAMILY. I called him and asked him if his gf is a maga, and he was quiet first, then said, well.. she likes trump yeah. I was so upset, and mad. He told me I’m over reacting and not to generalize!! How can I have someone who supports that come into my home, around my kids? My Hispanic children. And then, she has a son.. who is also MIXED with Hispanic. Am I overreacting???

This is a different type of heart break for me truly 😭. We dated in 2023 but around 2024 it was a bit rocky. We made it to the beginning of 2025 but I could tell he wasn’t feeling the same towards me and we ended it. I was heart broken, because to me he was the love of my life. I just wasn’t his. He met someone knew and he’s been with her since. Couple weeks ago I was snooping and found her social media and she just happened to post their baby who looks just like him. We talked about having kids during our relationship because he wanted kids. I told him I didn’t care, if that’s where he wanted me to be, I’d get there for him, with him… I just wasn’t the one for him. It just hurts. They’re a beautiful couple, with a beautiful baby. And I’m here. 2 years later, still sad, still thinking of him and what could’ve been. Sigh.

My bonus daughter was only with her mom for 2 days.. she is a year and half old, when we got her back Monday, her butt was raw, big patches where her skin peeled :(. Diaper area completely irritated. She lathered butt paste all over her cheeks and area. I cleaned it off and have been changing her diaper as much as I can, I’m using an ointment rather than the paste but I’m scared it will make it worse, should I not put anything on it?? Any recommendations on what I should use??

How does this happen? She said she was pooping a lot but I’m not understanding. I have 2 kids of my own and I’ve never seen anything like this. It looks so bad :(.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, since then he gained about 50 pounds. When we get intimate now, he’ll kind of lay on top of me putting all his weight on me, and then I can’t concentrate on anything but him crushing me cause now I’m uncomfortable. It’s not what it used to be. I don’t mind doing some of the work but even then, we can’t even take turns because he gets tired, or he starts sweating. I very much am attracted to him and would love to be intimate how we were but honestly, his stomach is kind of in the way. He jokes around about gaining so much weight, and I’ve brought it up to him but he either jokes about it or like last night, we were doing stuff and I told him he’s putting all his weight on me and he got upset and left.
Is there anything I can do to improve our sex life? Conversations to have with him?
Tldr; boyfriend gained too much weight and it’s affected our sex life.

My kids father and i have been seperated for 4 years, they’re 6 & 4 ( 2 girls ). For those 4 years he’s done every other weekend because he said that was his work schedule so ok, whatever. I’ve tried to suggest an extra day or so and then he’ll immediately go to telling me he’ll just keep them full time since I’m so stressed and can’t handle working and having them home. Today, he picked them up early in the morning after I had left for work and called me because I wasn’t the one who got them ready this morning (my sister did), and they didn’t brush their teeth. Then this got into the conversation of them being home while I’m working because my sister works from home and how it’s still not ok because they’re not being supervised how they should be. So he said he’s going to document all of this. I suggested that since he’s been unemployed since Feb, he can pick them up while I work. Then AGAIN, he threatens to get them full time because I’m such a bad mother. If I work, I’m a bad mom. If I don’t work, I’m a bad mom. I really can’t win.

And honestly , as bad as this sounds, I don’t care if they don’t go over there. I’m scared that if they do go over there more, he’s going to ask them questions and twist their answers or try to manipulate answers. He also hasn’t paid his child support since feb. So he’s been unemployed for months, still doing his every other weekend, and offering no other support because to him I need to figure it out.