How Do You Cope With People Who Don't Accept Your Mixedness?
I just shared my own thoughts on how Latin America's history isn't taught in schools or in their textbooks. Everything the indigenous people had to go through, and how people of indigenous descent didn't have the same opportunities afforded to those who weren't indigenous. How my grandfather had to lie to join the US Army and start a new life in the USA. How he had to deny being Hispanic and claim to be Italian just to get an education and become a plastic surgeon at Walter Reed Hospital in Bethesda, Maryland.
After I poured my heart out, some idiot commented, "You're not andean, nor latinameican, you were born and raised in the US, and joining the US military is not something to be proud of." As if she could just erase my heritage, my ancestors.
I flew mad, started crying, and responded with, "I have it in my DNA. I am Andean. My grandfather was Andean. You obviously don't know how mixed heritage works, do you? I will fight for my heritage if I have to because it's mine and I am proud of it. You do not get to tell me what I am or what I'm not when it's in my literal DNA.
You are just like the other people who those of mixed race have to stand up against. "Pick a side. You're not this, or you're not that. You're too much this to be that." Well, I celebrate all of who I am, and nothing your bigoted self can say will change that."
Was I wrong to say that? I'm just so tired of having to defend my identity as a mixed person. My white maternal grandparents don't get it. I bring up that I'm Hispanic, and they reply that "everyone is mixed with something." And then this woman says that I'm not Andean or Latin American when I know my heritage, I know my history. I'm Hispanic. But just because I'm white passing, it feels like that part of me is invisible. How do others cope with this, because all I'm doing is bawling my eyes out right now.