u/NotAnIncel69

Just wondering because it seems a bit ridiculous to not have to show ID to vote. I don't know if this is some sort of propaganda or if it's real.

If it's a real thing what is stopping people from abusing that system?

This is not a political debate, I am just genuinely curious to know if it's a real thing.

Before anyone gets mad, I have absolutely no issue with trans people. They're trying to live their lives like anyone else.

As an older millennial, I've lived through a lot of the cultural battles surrounding gay acceptance. When same sex marriage was legalized nationwide in the U.S., it genuinely felt like the country was moving in a positive direction. There will always be some level of bigotry, but public acceptance seemed to be steadily increasing.

What I've noticed since then is that support for LGBT rights overall appears to have become more complicated. Gallup polling, for example, shows that support for LGBT rights is lower today than it was several years ago.

My personal view is that some of this decline is tied to debates surrounding transgender issues. Because the public often views LGBT issues as a single movement, attitudes toward one part of that movement can affect perceptions of the whole thing.

To be clear, this isn't an argument against trans people or their rights. I simply think that sexual orientation and gender identity are different issues. One concerns who you're attracted to, while the other concerns how you identify yourself. I sometimes wonder whether combining those conversations under a single umbrella has made it harder to maintain the broad public consensus that had been developing around gay and lesbian rights.

That's just my perspective, and I'm interested in hearing whether other gay bros agree...

I am moving soon and I am paying a moving company $149/hr for 3 people and their truck. The total bill will likely be around $1300 with travel time included.

I read online some people think its customary to tip and others don't. I am already paying almost $150 per hour, are tips really expected?

I am the lead support engineer on a team of three senior engineers. Underneath us are roughly 25 network engineers with varying levels of experience and skill.

My role is technically management, but in reality it feels much more like a senior engineering position. I spend very little time actually managing my small team and most of my time handling escalations.

The problem is that a huge percentage of the escalations we receive are things that should never have been escalated in the first place. They are often issues that have already been solved and documented multiple times, tickets where little or no troubleshooting was performed, escalations that contain almost no useful information, or basic technical problems that I was expected to handle on my own when I was a junior engineer.

There are legitimate escalations, of course, and I have no problem taking ownership of those. The frustrating part is that my team's actual purpose is supposed to be handling major outages, high priority incidents, large remediation efforts, automation projects, and other strategic engineering work. We rarely get time for any of that because we are constantly buried under avoidable escalations.

I have brought this up with management. They generally agree with me, but the moment a customer becomes unhappy, the ticket gets handed to my team because nobody else is trusted to resolve it. At that point, the conversation about improving the process seems to disappear.

The advice I usually get is to train people, write documentation, and improve processes. The problem is that we are already overloaded, and the documentation I have written in the past often goes unused anyway. It feels like I am being asked to solve a staffing and accountability problem through documentation.

Lately I have found myself becoming impatient and short with some of the lower level engineers. I do not like that and I do not think it is fair to them. At the same time, it is hard not to get frustrated when the same issues keep showing up over and over again with no meaningful attempt to solve them before they reach us.

For those who have been in similar situations, is this a company and process issue, or am I making the mistake of caring too much? At what point do you stop trying to fix the organization and just focus on doing your own job?

When I originally signed my apartment lease, my landlord sent me an unsigned copy to fill out/sign. Before signing, I added an additional clause stating that if I renewed the lease the following year, rent could not be increased.

I signed it and sent it back without specifically pointing out the added clause. The landlord then signed the lease as well, and nobody mentioned the clause at the time. Now, a year later, they sent me a renewal with a rent increase, and I believe they may have never noticed the clause I added originally.

Could I potentially get in legal trouble for this, or would the signed lease generally control since both parties signed it? I’m not asking whether it’s ethical, I’m more curious how contract law usually treats situations like this.

I don't want to move but they are trying to increase rent by 25%, so I am wondering if I have a case here.

My BF is a HUGE hockey fan, Olympics, NHL, etc. He watches all the games for his favorite teams and a bunch for other teams in the NHL. I am trying to get him to watch PWHL games with me but he seems superrrr uninterested.

When I asked him why he told me the games are frustrating to watch??? I don't understand that part at all.

Anyone else have this experience? Do you think that this will go away with time as the PWHL builds a larger audience?

To be clear, he doesn't talk down about the PWHL, he just doesn't seem to take the league seriously for whatever reason.

Edit: Y'all, I am not going to break up with him over the PWHL. I just wanted to see if anyone has similar experiences and were able to get their bf/husband into the sport more.

I’m not talking about black ice, medical emergencies, or unavoidable mechanical failures.. I mean the completely preventable accidents caused by people staring at their phones, weaving through traffic, tailgating at 85 mph, or trying to cut across 4 lanes at the last second because they almost missed an exit.

I’m from the Boston area, and this stuff happens literally every single day. A commute that should take 35 minutes suddenly turns into an hour and a half because a moron decided to road rage or somebody was scrolling TikTok while driving a 2 ton vehicle through rush hour traffic. Half the time you finally get past the traffic backup and it’s some completely avoidable crash caused by reckless driving from people trying to get home 30 seconds faster than everyone else.

One idiot crashing on a highway during rush hour can waste thousands of cumulative hours of other people’s lives in a single afternoon. People miss flights, get home late to their kids, miss appointments, lose money, and emergency vehicles get delayed because someone couldn’t drive like an adult for 20 minutes.

Driving is treated way too casually in the US despite the fact that you’re operating a 4,000 pound machine at highway speeds around other people. If your negligence causes a massive disruption, there should be an actual consequence beyond a ticket and slightly higher insurance.

I had my final onsite interview for an internal network engineering role on Tuesday afternoon and have not heard anything since. The recruiters also have not responded to my follow up text asking about timeline expectations.

The interview went very well in my opinion, the IT manager was talking with me like I already worked there and the engineering team and I clicked very well and they seemed excited for me to join them.

The process has already been pretty long:

• recruiter phone screen
• Teams interview with recruiter
• interview with hiring manager
• technical panel interview
• additional HR/talent meeting
• final onsite interview

The role was confirmed to be full time and we already discussed compensation expectations around the $120k range, so at this point I am mostly trying to understand what is normal for timing after a final interview or if my compensation ask was too high and they decided to not follow up with me.

Part of why I am anxious is because my apartment lease renewal deadline is coming up very soon. If I get the job, I would likely move closer to the office, so I am trying to avoid locking myself into another lease if possible.

At what point is it reasonable to follow up again without sounding pushy? Is several business days of silence after a final interview pretty normal for larger companies?

I had my final onsite interview for an internal network engineering role on Tuesday afternoon and have not heard anything since. The recruiters also have not responded to my follow up text asking about timeline expectations.

The interview went very well in my opinion, the IT manager was talking with me like I already worked there and the engineering team and I clicked very well and they seemed excited for me to join them.

The process has already been pretty long:

• recruiter phone screen
• Teams interview with recruiter
• interview with hiring manager
• technical panel interview
• additional HR/talent meeting
• final onsite interview

The role was confirmed to be full time and we already discussed compensation expectations around the $120k range, so at this point I am mostly trying to understand what is normal for timing after a final interview or if my compensation ask was too high and they decided to not follow up with me.

Part of why I am anxious is because my apartment lease renewal deadline is coming up very soon. If I get the job, I would likely move closer to the office, so I am trying to avoid locking myself into another lease if possible.

At what point is it reasonable to follow up again without sounding pushy? Is several business days of silence after a final interview pretty normal for larger companies?

I had my final onsite interview for an internal network engineering role on Tuesday afternoon and have not heard anything since. The recruiters also have not responded to my follow up text asking about timeline expectations.

The interview went very well in my opinion, the IT manager was talking with me like I already worked there and the engineering team and I clicked very well and they seemed excited for me to join them.

The process has already been pretty long:

• recruiter phone screen
• Teams interview with recruiter
• interview with hiring manager
• technical panel interview
• additional HR/talent meeting
• final onsite interview

The role was confirmed to be full time and we already discussed compensation expectations around the $120k range, so at this point I am mostly trying to understand what is normal for timing after a final interview or if my compensation ask was too high and they decided to not follow up with me.

Part of why I am anxious is because my apartment lease renewal deadline is coming up very soon. If I get the job, I would likely move closer to the office, so I am trying to avoid locking myself into another lease if possible.

At what point is it reasonable to follow up again without sounding pushy? Is several business days of silence after a final interview pretty normal for larger companies?

Hi all,

My SO is an elementary school teacher and has worked in more than one district, and I keep noticing the same kind of workplace dynamic. This is all just based off of what I hear from her.

A lot of it feels surprisingly immature or infantilized compared to other professional environments. Things like:

• People getting upset over work parties and expecting participation
• Feeling expected to buy gifts for other teachers (for whatever supposed holiday it is)
• Birthdays needing to be acknowledged/celebrated at work
• Frequent team-building that feels more like forced socialization

I get that elementary schools are naturally more kid-focused environments, but this seems to extend to how staff interact with each other too.

Is this pretty typical across elementary schools, or is this more of a district/school-specific culture?

I work outside of the education field and it seems so strange to me.

This is from an early Gen Z perspective.

2012 to 2021 was one of the best homebuying windows in modern history. Prices were lower relative to income and borrowing was extremely cheap. That combination doesn’t exist anymore.

Seeing millennials talk about housing like it was universally impossible ignores that a huge portion of them were in the workforce during that exact window. A lot of the conversation now feels less like an honest assessment of the market and more like people looking for a pity party while conveniently ignoring how favorable that window actually was.

Gen Z is entering the market at higher prices, much higher interest rates, and tighter supply. The same house now costs dramatically more per month than it did just a few years ago.

Millennials got some of the best conditions buyers have seen in decades. Acting like the entire generation had it impossible just doesn’t line up with how the market actually played out.

Pretty simple. People keep putting “I did that” stickers on our gas pumps, and I’m the one who has to go out there with a razor blade and scrape them off. It’s not clever, it’s just a pain in the ass. Sometimes it takes 15–20 minutes to get one fully off.

The ironic part is it’s often the same crowd that talks about supporting workers and not making their lives harder. This is exactly that. You’re not making some big political statement, you’re just dumping extra work on a random gas station employee.

Also funny how when it was Joe Biden stickers, people here were up in arms about vandalizing pumps. Now that it’s flipped, nobody seems to care.