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I’m 28F and honestly haven’t travelled much in my life, mainly because of lack of money and lack of companionship.

I also spent most of my early 20s dealing with depression and staying at home, so I feel like I missed out on a lot of life. Now I’m 28 and I’m getting major FOMO 😭

I’m quite anxious about travelling alone, so the idea of solo travel scares me. I see girls who were once like me now going on solo trips or joining organised group trips, and I keep wondering why I’m not doing it too.

I feel so stuck. I really don’t want to reach 30 and realise I spent these years waiting for someone to travel with me.

For girls who were in a similar situation, how did you actually start? Did you start with a short solo trip, an organised group trip, women only trips, or something else?

I really want to start travelling and experience things instead of staying at home. Please tell me what my first realistic step should be.

I’m 28F and honestly haven’t travelled much in my life, mainly because of lack of money and lack of companionship.

I also spent most of my early 20s dealing with depression and staying at home, so I feel like I missed out on a lot of life. Now I’m 28 and I’m getting major FOMO 😭

I’m quite anxious about travelling alone, so the idea of solo travel scares me. I see girls who were once like me now going on solo trips or joining organised group trips, and I keep wondering why I’m not doing it too.

I feel so stuck. I really don’t want to reach 30 and realise I spent these years waiting for someone to travel with me.

For girls who were in a similar situation, how did you actually start? Did you start with a short solo trip, an organised group trip, women only trips, or something else?

I really want to start travelling and experience things instead of staying at home. Please tell me what my first realistic step should be.

Hey all,

Single women in this sub who are in their late 20s, 30s or 40s, with no partner, no dating life and no real friends circle, how is life for you? How do you deal with loneliness without constantly spiraling about the future? What do your days look like, and how do you keep yourself going when you feel like you have no one to share your life with? I’d really like to hear from women who are actually living this reality, especially those who struggled with loneliness initially but eventually found a way to be okay with it. I just want to hear honestly about what your life is like and how you cope.

I’ve been so overwhelmed and stressed for a really long time now, and it feels like everything is piling up at once with work, friendships, constant comparison, and just feeling deeply lonely. I’m an anxious girlie with severe emotional dysregulation, and honestly my mind has become my worst enemy. I live almost entirely inside my head, constantly overthinking and self-sabotaging, and I desperately want to break out of this cycle. I tried seeing a psychiatrist who just put me on a bunch of meds that didn't help, and I haven't been able to find a good therapist either. I feel like I have nothing to look forward to right now and I'm scared to live like this. I genuinely don't know what to do anymore, so if anyone who’s been through this has advice on how to quiet your mind, find the right help, or rebuild when everything feels like it's falling apart, I’d really appreciate it.

I'm 28F, and life has been feeling a little lonely lately. As a queer woman in India, I often feel like I'm living on a different timeline from the people around me. Most of my friends are straight and are moving ahead with their careers, marriages, and starting families. I'm happy for them, but it also makes me wonder what my own future is going to look like. Dating as a queer woman isn't easy, and sometimes the future feels uncertain and a little bleak. I'd really love to hear from women in their late 20s and 30s, especially queer women, who have been through something similar. Does this phase get better? How did you find your people or build a life that felt fulfilling? I think I'm just looking for some perspective and to know that I'm not the only one feeling this way.

I’ve been so overwhelmed and stressed for a really long time now, and it feels like everything is piling up at once with work, friendships, constant comparison, and just feeling deeply lonely. I’m an anxious girlie with severe emotional dysregulation, and honestly my mind has become my worst enemy. I live almost entirely inside my head, constantly overthinking and self-sabotaging, and I desperately want to break out of this cycle. I tried seeing a psychiatrist who just put me on a bunch of meds that didn't help, and I haven't been able to find a good therapist either. I feel like I have nothing to look forward to right now and I'm scared to live like this. I genuinely don't know what to do anymore, so if anyone who’s been through this has advice on how to quiet your mind, find the right help, or rebuild when everything feels like it's falling apart, I’d really appreciate it.

I’ve been so overwhelmed and stressed for a really long time now, and it feels like everything is piling up at once with work, friendships, constant comparison, and just feeling deeply lonely. I’m an anxious girlie with severe emotional dysregulation, and honestly my mind has become my worst enemy. I live almost entirely inside my head, constantly overthinking and self-sabotaging, and I desperately want to break out of this cycle. I tried seeing a psychiatrist who just put me on a bunch of meds that didn't help, and I haven't been able to find a good therapist either. I feel like I have nothing to look forward to right now and I'm scared to live like this. I genuinely don't know what to do anymore, so if anyone who’s been through this has advice on how to quiet your mind, find the right help, or rebuild when everything feels like it's falling apart, I’d really appreciate it.

Hey everyone,

I really need some advice because I feel like I'm reaching my limit.

I work as an Automation QA in a product company. Things move really fast here. There are always deadlines, lots of tickets, and everyone is expected to deliver quickly. I'm the only QA for my product, so I'm responsible for everything from understanding the stories to automating the tests and making sure everything is covered.

The workload is already a lot, but what is affecting me the most is my QA lead.

Every time I raise a PR, I get so many review comments. I end up spending more time reworking my code than writing or testing it. Sometimes she'll even make changes directly in my branch because she doesn't like how I implemented something, and then ask me to make the exact same changes. At that point, I honestly wonder why I'm spending so much time rewriting code instead of moving on to my actual work.

I'm completely okay with feedback. I know reviews are part of the job, and I know I still have things to learn. But this level of rework feels excessive. Because of it, my sprint tasks get delayed, my backlog keeps growing, and I constantly feel like I'm behind.

What makes it harder is the way the feedback is delivered. She has called me just to tell me how bad my work is. After every conversation, I end up feeling terrible about myself. I don't feel like she trusts me at all.

There is another QA working under her too. He's more technical than me, but I hardly see her giving him the same level of review comments. I've looked at some of his code, and honestly, I don't feel like he's being held to the same standards. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's how it feels from my side.

Now I'm scared every time I create a PR because I know another round of criticism is coming. The rework delays everything else, which creates even more pressure. My body is constantly tense during work. Even when I see a message from her, I get anxious.

Sometimes I even feel like she's already decided that I'm weak or not capable, so everything I do gets scrutinized more than everyone else's. I don't know if that's actually true, but that's how it feels.

I genuinely want to improve. I don't expect people to praise my work. I just want feedback that helps me grow instead of making me feel like I'm failing every single day.

What I'm struggling with now is whether I should talk to her. I'm honestly afraid of the conversation, but I also don't think this amount of rework is sustainable. I want to tell her that constantly asking me to rewrite things, especially after making changes in my branch herself, is taking away time from my actual work and affecting both my productivity and confidence.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? How do you have this conversation without sounding defensive or making things worse?

I'm mentally exhausted, and I honestly don't know what the right thing to do is anymore.

TL;DR: I'm the only Automation QA on my product and already overloaded with work. My QA lead gives extensive PR review comments, often edits my branch herself and asks me to reimplement the same changes. I spend more time on rework than actual testing, constantly fall behind on my backlog, and the harsh criticism has made me anxious and afraid of interacting with her. I want to improve, but I don't know how to talk to her or whether I should.

Hey everyone,

I really need some advice because I feel like I'm reaching my limit.

I work as an Automation QA in a product company. Things move really fast here. There are always deadlines, lots of tickets, and everyone is expected to deliver quickly. I'm the only QA for my product, so I'm responsible for everything from understanding the stories to automating the tests and making sure everything is covered.

The workload is already a lot, but what is affecting me the most is my QA lead.

Every time I raise a PR, I get so many review comments. I end up spending more time reworking my code than writing or testing it. Sometimes she'll even make changes directly in my branch because she doesn't like how I implemented something, and then ask me to make the exact same changes. At that point, I honestly wonder why I'm spending so much time rewriting code instead of moving on to my actual work.

I'm completely okay with feedback. I know reviews are part of the job, and I know I still have things to learn. But this level of rework feels excessive. Because of it, my sprint tasks get delayed, my backlog keeps growing, and I constantly feel like I'm behind.

What makes it harder is the way the feedback is delivered. She has called me just to tell me how bad my work is. After every conversation, I end up feeling terrible about myself. I don't feel like she trusts me at all.

There is another QA working under her too. He's more technical than me, but I hardly see her giving him the same level of review comments. I've looked at some of his code, and honestly, I don't feel like he's being held to the same standards. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's how it feels from my side.

Now I'm scared every time I create a PR because I know another round of criticism is coming. The rework delays everything else, which creates even more pressure. My body is constantly tense during work. Even when I see a message from her, I get anxious.

Sometimes I even feel like she's already decided that I'm weak or not capable, so everything I do gets scrutinized more than everyone else's. I don't know if that's actually true, but that's how it feels.

I genuinely want to improve. I don't expect people to praise my work. I just want feedback that helps me grow instead of making me feel like I'm failing every single day.

What I'm struggling with now is whether I should talk to her. I'm honestly afraid of the conversation, but I also don't think this amount of rework is sustainable. I want to tell her that constantly asking me to rewrite things, especially after making changes in my branch herself, is taking away time from my actual work and affecting both my productivity and confidence.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? How do you have this conversation without sounding defensive or making things worse?

I'm mentally exhausted, and I honestly don't know what the right thing to do is anymore.

TL;DR: I'm the only Automation QA on my product and already overloaded with work. My QA lead gives extensive PR review comments, often edits my branch herself and asks me to reimplement the same changes. I spend more time on rework than actual testing, constantly fall behind on my backlog, and the harsh criticism has made me anxious and afraid of interacting with her. I want to improve, but I don't know how to talk to her or whether I should.