u/NumelsRCute

Hey team,
Since you were all so helpful about my routine last time - I’m back for some more advice on the updated routine please!

Happy to report no more peeling and have reduced active product use a lot!

I still think I’m still doing something very wrong though, not sure if it’s the BB cream as I don’t usually wear any makeup (but so many spots/red marks rn - red marks are fading slowly though thank god) or the suncream?

If I’m really honest, I haven’t ever really used SPF other than on holiday because I hate how greasy and thick it feels on my face - open to brand suggestions!
Also I’ve never used a BB cream before and I dont really like it. I’d like to stop and return to no makeup but feel like I can’t bc of how spotty I am - I know it’s an ongoing cycle.

I am breaking out like no tomorrow, possibly more than I did before starting any skin care! I also seem to have a lot of blackheads which ive never really had before. Please help or I will revert back to my ‘two makeup wipes a day and that’s it’ routine.

AM
•Glucosamine foaming cleanser [The Ordinary]
•(2x per week only) succinic acid pads [Medicube red pads]
•Anti-puff eye serum [Byoma]
•moisturiser [Tiger day SPF 20] - I haven’t used this the past couple days though as I think it is too heavy for my skin also people say I dont need it with the spf im using??🤦🏻‍♀️ please confirm
•SPF [Haruharu Wonder Black Rice Airyfit Daily sunscreen]
•BB cream [Nivea light] as a base

PM
•Hypochlorus cleanser [Isoskin]
•Salycilic acid (2x per week)[Ordinary]
•Azelaic acid [Inkey]
•moisturiser [Cien Q10 night cream]

Once a week I’m still using bio-collagen face mask [Byoma].

Thank you in advance!

Link to original post in case anyone wants to refer back: https://www.reddit.com/r/SkincareAddictionUK/s/oa4BGKbf7w

Edit: forgot to mention blackheads

I’ve recently been encouraged to up my SPF usage and I have been complying!

However, I usually create my makeup base by mixing a tiny bit of foundation with moisturiser. This is because I hate how drying foundation is on my skin and also I think it looks a lot lighter on my skin when mixer. My moisturiser is SPF 20 but I’ve got some factor 50 facial suncream now.

I’ve read that you can’t put moisturiser over SPF? Is this true? If so, it means my usual routine/base is ruined. I have been meaning to get a BB/CC cream rather than mixing my own but wanted to use up my foundation first.

Are BB/CC creams essentially not just moisturiser + foundation (+ a few other useful things)? And if so, is it okay to out these over SPF? And if yes, why, when you’re advised not to put moisturiser on top of SPF?

Sorry this is long - just trying to explain as clearly as I can! Most likely, I’ve got the wrong end of the stick about something but not sure which stick!

(Hope I’ve flaired this right - mods please feel free to amend!!)

1. rather than having a list of what I can’t wear or telling me off when I don’t ‘meet the dress code’, just provide me with exactly what I can wear in the form of a set outfit
2. finding clothes that are work spec appropriate, comfortable, and look alright is difficult. I find it a very stressful process and would much prefer to not have to think about my clothing the night before/morning of. I’d prefer to leave work at work and deal with work (and it’s attire) in work time
3. I hate in customer facing jobs where the only identifier on (admittedly usually management) is a t

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1. name badge. How am I to know to approach you and that you’re not just another customer

3. saves any kind of competition or shame for those who cannot afford to have multiple options / (e.g.) branded clothing

A uniform would make life simpler, make employees identifiable and prevent interpersonal conflict. I know people will say that they’d like to express themselves, so style your hear, wear jewellery (where appropriate) and wear what you want *in your own time*

Edit: spelling

Edit 2: fixed the numbering.
Also, this is already blowing up and I can’t keep up so here are some common things I’m noticing I should have clarified. I knew this was unpopular but not *this* unpopular!
Also also want to clarify I’m seeing a lot of really valid points and perspectives that I hadn’t considered, so thanks for that!

1. In hind sight, the title should have probably been ‘Uniform OR *No* dress policy/code at all’ (beyond standard common courtesy e.g. if you wouldn’t go to the shop in it, don’t wear it type thing). Realising a lot of the push back is coming from the people with no dress policy which is fair enough - if I could wear anything and didn’t have to think about it, this would still apply and also I think may alleviate a lot of the competitive side. Doesn’t solve my identifying problem though! Maybe I just need to look closer for the name tags

2. Did not realise so many places make the employee pay for the uniform?? I have never come across this and the point was being made as though the employer would provide it and include sufficient options and volumes to cater to everyone. As with any employment matter (in my country anyway!), reasonable adjustments for disabilities would apply.

A big part of my argument was that a lack of uniform means I have to spend money on clothes I don’t want, just for work - didn’t realise people were doing this anyway for a uniform so apologies for my ignorance here!

I am UK based so had a uniform at school and imagined similar kind of outlines where certain things can still be personal to the individual for comfort e.g. black shoes but not trainers could still mean 10000 types of shoes

3. I thought it was implied that uniform would be job appropriate, I’m not expecting every industry to wear the same thing

So I’ve been slacking on skincare for a VERY long time, literally just using a makeup wipe twice a day.

However I recently asked for skin care products as birthday gifts and have built them up over the past few weeks. I wanted to target spots and red marks left by them because EVERY spot I have scars as I am very pale. I do not pop my spots but do use pimple patches during a breakout.

Today, I noticed that my skin appears to be peeling, especially around the edges. Not sure if it is my skin, product build up or what. I don’t wear makeup a lot but I’m worried if I do that it will all just go peely/look awful!

I’ll post my routine below - any advice on what to improve/change would be very appreciated!
Thank you

AM
•Glucosamine foaming cleanser [The Ordinary]
•(2x per week only) succinic acid pads (haven’t used since Wed this week) [Medicube red pads]
•PDRN Peptide solution [medicube]
•Azelaic acid [Inkey list]
•Anti-puff eye serum [Byoma]
•moisturiser [Nivea]
•SPF [La Roche Posay factor 50]

PM
•Hypochlorus cleanser [Isoskin]
•Exosome shot [Medicube]
•Salycilic acid (built this up to daily as of this week)[Ordinary]
•Azelaic acid [Inkey]
•moisturiser [Cien Q10 night cream]

Once a week I use a bio-collagen face mask [Byoma].
I try to let each product sit/dry for a few mins before adding the next product

Edit: added [brands] as didn’t realise this was needed, oops! Also, I’m 30 and breaking out more than I have since I was 15!!

Hi all! I am not currently working and have been applying non stop for roles and not hearing much back.

I attended an interview on Friday last week. I rang on Wednesday to follow up (have been in communication on indeed and via email and didn’t know where to check for response and wanted to make sure I’d not missed anything).

The lady who is reviewing told me it was her first day back in after being on holiday and she’d be reviewing and be in touch soon.

I really like the company and the role is what I’ve been seeking for a while so I’m super keen! Just want it to look like I’m desperate for any job given my current employment status.

Job market is rubbish at the moment and you’re lucky to get a firm rejection rather than just ghosting. Many companies don’t even update on indeed that they’ve moved to the next round or you’ve not been selected. I want to know how long to wait!

Do I ring again today or do I wait until Monday? Or even Tuesday to follow up? Or do I just wait for them to come to me now that I’ve rang once?

My [29F] bf [32] is not really my bf, he was a fwb (which we both agreed at the time) and then it got a bit more relationshippy but he didn’t want a relationship even though we discussed it several times where he’s given me stupid reasons but always said ‘but one day…’ . It has been over 2 years now.

We met at college, stayed in low contact over the years and reconnected about 2 years ago. He was my dream man when I was younger, I classed him as one of my closest friends and I was 100% in love with him. We both had other relationships between then and now. But I always hoped I’d see him again and wondered what we could be. I know I was pinning a lot on this from the start and lowered my expectations massively to the point where I kept lowering and I’m not in love with him any more, haven’t been for a while, and don’t think I could love him like that again. I still love him like I do my friends and care about him.

I KNOW I need to end it (you dont need to tell me), I just don’t understand why I won’t / can’t. I’m in therapy and have spent hours talking about him and how I need to end it but I can’t do it (recently switched therapists as wasnt sure old one was helping). I have a history of letting relationships ‘sit for a short while’ when I know they’re over because I’m ‘not ready’ to end it, this has never been for more than 6 months before. I’m just looking for some real life examples or unbiased support / reality check.

Several reasons it should be over including:
- he won’t be in a relationship with me after 2 years but is still happy to sleep with me if I let him (I have stopped this more recently)
- he doesn’t have a job or any money and hasn’t for the entire 2 years bar a few low paid cash in hand stints. He won’t even apply for one when I’ve sent him ads that are perfect for him
- he is continually nasty to me, calls me stupid etc which is one of my worst things
- he never just supports me. There is always a lecture or a story even when I ask to just have his support or when I am upset and just need comfort
- has let me buy food/snacks/drinks/tobacco/stuff etc for us both without offering to contribute and I’m fairly certain I’ve wasted 1000s on this man (he claims I ‘never had to do that’ so he doesn’t owe me anything

I’ve tried to begin my ‘healing journey’. Invested a lot more money than I can afford in new therapy. Moved job because I felt disrespected at the old one. Started a hobby. Sought help for other personal issues holding me back. Started reaching out to my friends more. I think the last step before I can actually begin properly healing is getting rid of him.

But I can’t. I’ve tried to have the conversation a few times in person but I always end up panicking in the moment when it gets to the “is this done then?” part and I always double down and say no / we can work at it / it doesn’t have to be. It is abundantly clear he is also not happy but wont call it himself either. I’ve written a million messages telling him I’m done after he’s called me something nasty, but I just won’t send them so they sit in my notes.

I was seeing him every day but a few months ago we cut it down to a few days a week after one of the above conversations, but we still catch up every day. I have so much evidence that he doesn’t even like me and honestly I’m not sure I even like him any more, but I’m holding on and idk why. There is nothing to hold on to other than continued insults and paying the way for us both.

My friends hate him and I can’t disagree with them but at the same time, they’re my friends and protecting me by not pushing me, just saying they’ll support me when it’s done and I’ll know when the time is right. I love them and am grateful for them, but this doesnt help me. Issue is, I’ve felt like this for a year and i know I’m wasting time. Mine, his, any potential future people.

How do I end it? I want to do it person but I chicken out every time. A message feels a bit more impersonal but I think it needs to be step 1 even if I go to speak to him afterwards. I don’t want to hurt his feelings and leave on bad terms because he’s been a part of my life for nearly half of my life now, but I’m also so angry and I want to tell him exactly how he’s made me feel and exactly what I think of him. But then I know there’s no going back. (I also think he’s depressed and thats why hes being particularly nasty, which I get bc I can be the same so want to be sympathetic but can’t let it slide).

Regardless of what I say, I don’t think there will be any ‘going back’. I couldn’t remain just his friend, I wouldn’t want my future partner to have a friend they were ex-fwb with and I can’t imagine/expect a future partner of mine to accept it either. Please give me a reality check and clear instructions on how best to tackle this, this is how I handle things best.

TLDR: fwb wont be my bf despite it being >2yrs now. He is not very nice to me, semi-depends on me financially and ‘relationship’ is over. I can’t bring myself to end it despite this and despite trying and idk why. Every time I try, I chicken out. Advice on how or why welcome.