u/Obvious-Day-4318

Hi I’m planning to get married and my parents haven’t said yes on the proposal yet but things are slightly progressing.
There’s something that’s worrying me, the guy is young, is not very well established but I see him work hard and try to earn. But he’s from Africa and me, I’m an Asian. In my culture mostly the girl’s family ask for mehr and usually my family doesn’t like to demand about things but my mom is planning to ask for gold for my security, which is understandable but worries me because I don’t wanna over burden the boy as well.
Now I’m stuck in a situation where I want my security but I also don’t want to be so demanding about material possessions, I want to support him but my mom is maybe right as well.

Kindly give me a good advice or suggestion that you could help with the situation. Because my family is already a bit hesitant to let me go so far, I don’t want it to become a issue of our parting

Hi I’m a south Asian lady interested in marrying someone from Nigeria. There are many complications due to international setup but still I think I can make it work out, only one thing I’m so doubtful about is polygamy in northern Nigeria. I’m afraid that he would end up marrying another lady after a few years, while in my country it’s not common or seen so good. I have talked to him, he said he’s not interested unless a problem like infertility etc and if the relationship gets toxic then I’d rather seek separation first then remarry, instead of bringing another wife.

It makes sense to me but it still scares me. Are there any kind advices for me?

I’ve worked as an art and language teacher and currently work with an international e-learning platform. I’m curious about extracurricular education in Mauritius.
Would parents be interested in online classes for children in areas such as robotics, AI, chess, arts and crafts, crocheting, drawing, coding, public speaking, or languages?
If so, what would you consider a reasonable and affordable hourly rate for high-quality online classes?
I’d also be interested in hearing which skills parents feel are currently underserved in Mauritius.

Hello! I spent 2 years in China and as a Muslim I’d mostly go the halal food shops, but now that I’m back in my country I really crave some food like 凉皮！牛肉炒面条！牛肉饺子！二细面 can someone teach me how to make 凉皮and 白菜?
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Hello, I’m a south Asian with a background in Fine arts, I did masters in Beijing as well, although not from an art school but my major was Chinese painting and international communication. My Question is that apart from art teacher jobs at schools what are some other options to earn something reasonable ?

Hi, I’m 26 year old female, a virgin. In our culture it’s not okay to lose virginity before marriage. I am planning to get married soon and I like intimacy and want to have sex but somehow have this inbuilt fear that it might hurt me bad the first time, I know lube could be used and all but scared if I have vaginismus or maybe just overthinking. I need genuine advice from sisters that how to relax your mind and overcome this fear before entering marriage ?

Hello, I wanted to ask whether Chinese schools including international ones accept foreign hijabi teachers or not? I’ve seen some advertisements and my qualifications match with those, an Art teacher with enough qualification only applying for kindergarten but at the ends of the day I don’t hear anything by from them. Once I was applying to a school so the local agent asked me if I could take off my hijab as it’s not allowed in their work space, for that school they cleared it out for me that’s fine but in general do I have zero chances of applying being a hijabi?

Hey, I’m interested in marrying someone from Nigeria, myself I’m a South Asian, the guy seems to be nice and all but what should I expect marrying a Nigerian man? (I met him when I was abroad) Also, how serious is the problem of polygamy in west Africa? Plus, how to avoid that ….

Salam everyone,

I wanted to share a situation I’m currently facing and would really appreciate some advice.

While I was studying abroad, I met someone who seemed kind, respectful, and serious about his faith. Shortly after getting to know me and learning about my views on marriage, he asked if he could approach my family to make things formal and seek their permission so that both families could get to know each other in a halal way. I genuinely appreciated his approach and sincerity.

The challenge is that I am Pakistani and he is African. When I first told my family about him, my brothers and father were not very enthusiastic. They had concerns, which I understood and respected. I told them that if they found anything problematic about him after speaking with him, I would step back. Instead, they asked me to return home after graduation so we could discuss everything together as a family.

It has now been almost a year since I came back, and I feel like nothing has really progressed. During the winter, my brother spoke with him and admitted that he seemed educated and decent, but he was concerned about the international situation and the practical challenges involved. A few months later, they spoke again about finances and future plans. Since then, whenever the brother reached out with anything beyond casual greetings, his messages were mostly ignored.

Recently, I tried to bring the matter up with my father through a text message. Instead of discussing it directly, he asked my brother to speak with the brother again. That conversation also didn’t seem to move things forward. My brother mostly asked him what he was doing these days and advised him to focus on improving his own situation. He also said that ultimately the decision rests with my father. He mentioned that marriage should neither be rushed—because that can lead to mistakes—nor delayed without a valid reason.

The problem is that I am now 26 years old. I have completed my education, I am ready for marriage, and I genuinely want to start a family. My family has neither accepted nor rejected his proposal. They seem to be taking time, but how much time is reasonable? At the same time, they have not actively looked for other proposals for me, nor have any serious alternatives come forward.

Over the past year, I have become emotionally attached to him. From what I have seen, he has good character, good habits, and encourages me to become a better person as well. I don’t know how to move this situation forward anymore. I genuinely want to get married this year, but I feel stuck between waiting and not knowing where things stand.

What would you advise me to do? How can I respectfully encourage some progress or clarity from my family? Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.