u/Ok-Dig-1653

Just want to start off by saying please no comments about how the best revenge after a breakup is moving on and just living your best life. I already know this and 100% plan on doing that, after the revenge.

We've been dating for over 3 years and i've caught him cheating many times and i just had enough now.
My mental health has worsened more and more every time i find out he did it again. Why did i stay with him so far? Because i genuinely have no one else and i know people always say it's better to be alone than someone bad but it's not the same for everyone, some can't do that easily. I'm detaching myself from him over time and that's what works for me best.
We're long distance so I need good ideas that i could do over the phone ideally.

Just want to start off by saying please no comments about how the best revenge after a breakup is moving on and just living your best life. I already know this and 100% plan on doing that, after the revenge.

We've been dating for over 3 years and i've caught him cheating many times and i just had enough now. My mental health has worsened more and more every time i find out he did it again. Why did i stay with him so far? Because i genuinely have no one else and i know people always say it's better to be alone than someone bad but it's not the same for everyone, some can't do that easily. I'm detaching myself from him over time and that's what works for me best. We're long distance so I need good ideas that i could do over the phone ideally.

This is my first post on reddit please be considerate. This happened today after i already had 3 discussions with my parents which he comforted/reassured me on btw. So me and my boyfriend (both 19) have been dating for 3 years (long distance). Last year we took a break because he had cheated on me multiple times and i needed time for myself. The break was a couple months and i got back together with him because i love him and genuinely have no one else. He's a good person minus the cheating. So tonight we were calling and talking about the idea of him having s*x with another woman, i know it's weird but people are into different things ok. Basically kind of like dirty talking. And i guess he felt comfortable enough to randomly drop that last year at prom he met a woman (same year as him) and he just started talking about how him and her bonded over politics and he asked for her instagram and have been keeping in touch since then. He told me they'd give each other updates every few weeks which idk if i should believe. A few weeks back i asked him to unfollow all non related women because of other suspected cheating and he unfollowed everyone but her and i didn't know at the time that that account was a woman's since it only had a dog pfp. He said that they've agreed to keep it platonic and the last time they talked was 3 weeks ago, turns out it was last week and he apparently forgot. So it's been over a year without him telling me he even met this woman and we tell each other these kind of things but now here comes what made my heart drop. He asked me if it was fine if he asked her to be the one he'll have s*x with... he told me she has "really big boobs" and "nice big cherry lips". He described to me how she looked and she basically looks the complete opposite to me ethic feature wise. My heart dropped down to my knees i feel so betrayed and i know people will probably say i shouldn't have come back together with him in the first place but i literally have no one else. My relationship with family isn't the best/ no friends y'all get the idea. I have diagnosed depression and attachment issues. I know if i leave everything will be harder for me im so f*cking lost what have i done to my life? He removed her and told me it will never happen again and he'll be honest from now on but i have major trust issues